Etiquette Snob here… lol
Well in truth…
Technically it is the Bride & Groom’s Wedding and they can do whatever they want.
BUT that doesn’t mean it will be necessary Good Manners of accommodating / kind & considerate to one’s Guests
The Wedding Ceremony is most certainly about the Bride & Groom.
But once you invite other people to participate… be they a Bridal Party or Guests, then it isn’t JUST ABOUT THE B&G (to truly be just about the B&G would be an Elopement)
I find it sad, that more people don’t realize this / GET IT
A Wedding is a coming together of two families to creat a NEW Family
What is really horrific is the way that many people now treat their Bridal Parties
The Bridal Party is supposed to be your “nearest & dearest”… people who symbolically willing to stand up for you and your love…
And yet, the stories here on WBee where it all becomes a HOT MESS are waaaay too many
I think it shameful that BPs are now expected to carry the major cost of participating and being there for their friends
This is upside down… it is the B&G who should be grateful to have wonderful friends, and should show that appreciation more… so in particular on this issue, I am a HUGE proponent of Traditional Etiquette.
It makes no sense to me when I hear about Bridesmaids having to lay out THOUSANDS of Dollars to be in the Bridal Party. The costs should be far more equal… or carried primarily by the B&G as it was not so long ago.
Same with Guests in general…
Hear about too many Weddings where the B&G put their wants / needs above the comfort of their Guests and the often refrain:
“Hey if they don’t like it they can stay at home”
Soooo RUDE Sooo Sad.
Soooo missing the point.