(Closed) Do you agree with this? Gay nightclub bans bachelorette parties.

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
1736 posts
Bumble bee

Doesn’t that just amount to discriminating in protest of discrimination? I definitely see both sides and appreciate what the owner is trying to achieve, but it doesn’t seem like the best way to go about getting the point across!

Post # 4
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I don’t agree – fighting fire with fire is no way to get people on your side.

Post # 5
926 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I never thought about it, but I totally agree with the idea.  I mean, we go there to celebrate our marriages, using a venue full of people who couldn’t marry even if they wanted to.  I get it.

If there were a decent male strip club, maybe we wouldn’t have to use the gay bars! 🙂  Kidding, kind of. 

Post # 6
1115 posts
Bumble bee

I get what he’s trying to do and say…but wouldn’t that be grounds for someone to sue?  Unless he also bans bachelor parties?

I love the Abbey either way.


Post # 7
4193 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Before reading the article, I assumed the reason was because the women were annoying, not about gay marriage rights (which I fully support). 

One of the art alliances near me often has burlesque nights, which are great unless a bachelorette party shows up- then they change the total vibe of the event. If these women haven’t previously patroned the gay bars, I think it’s a little rude to “use” them for their bachelorette. My two cents!

Edit: They’re not saying “no women” allowed- they’re saying no bachelorette parties. So if you go there with a group of girl friends and leave the sash, tiara, and penis straws at home, you should be fine.

Post # 8
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I don’t see how it’s fair. I understand the sentiment, but this isn’t how you battle discrimination and promote equality.

Post # 9
1024 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I agree with this. Can you imagine being at a gay club, you are not allowed to get married, and there are constantly women in there going in celebrating their marriage? It’s like rubbing salt in an open wound. 

Somebody not being able to go to one club is not the same as not being able to marry your partner. Sorry, this is just not the same sort of discrimination. 

Its not fair for people to deny gay people their rights and then just expect gay people to take it and still provide services like this. Maybe this will get people to care. 

Also, its kinda annoying when straight people go to gay bars for the novelty of it…. especialy if those people are then either apathetic or against you having the same rights as you. Gay clubs are the few places where people can feel comfortable being open about their sexuality.

It just rubs me the same way. It just seems like a form of colonialism ( no you cant marry, but you can be my adorable hair stylist! ) 

Post # 10
3471 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

I can understand their position; you’re celebrating something that is a sensitive topic to almost everyone else around.  I agree with the commentor, it’s tasteless. 

Post # 11
13096 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Well it’s a private establishment so I totally agree that the owner can allow or not allow whoever/whatever he wants.  Just like Augusta National Golf Club can not allow women to be members.

Besides, he isn’t banning straight women, just bachelorette parties for them.  I can appreciat his reasoning.

Post # 12
645 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I actually like this. I don’t see it as a slap in the face I simply see it as them taking a stand in there own way. Also from a business perspective I can see why this would be a good idea.

Post # 13
826 posts
Busy bee

I agree with the club, though to me it’s less a “slap in the face” issue and more a “that constant stream of drunk bitches posing for pics with the patrons must be really annoying” issue.  I feel like those bachelorette parties are treating the gay people like some sort of novelty.  I’m fat, and if I were the type to go to fat girl bars (yes, they exist), I’d be pissed if there were guys coming to the bar for bachelor parties because they think it’s funny or something.  

Post # 14
926 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@DeadlyNightshade:  There are clubs around here that don’t allow unescorted females or males, I would imagine they use the same legal grounds.  Also, I would imagine the owner doesn’t get many bachelor parties showing up on his door. 🙂

Post # 15
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t think North Carolina cares what California gay bars do for one thing. Also, if I was the bachelorette, I’d feel just as at home in a gay bar as I do in a tractor supply store. Do gay guys buy free drinks like guys at straight bars? Whats the perk? I mean, if you are a girl who enjoys the company of gay men (like I am, but just the ones I’m friends with, not random ppl), then they should be invited to party with you. You don’t go hunting for them. I think the gay bar in Cali probably has a “we have the right to refuse service” policy. I’m sure they looked at their options before making it a rule. I personally don’t care. The only way I’d be offended is if I was a gay girl having my bachelorette party at a gay bar. Are those banned? Cause if straight girls can’t Bach.party there but gay girls can, that would be discrimination.

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