(Closed) Do you always enjoy BD while TTC?

posted 4 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
14657 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Nope, I most certainly do not always enjoy it, but we just BD’d if the timing was right.  There was nothing romantic and fun about it, more like an exhasted busniess transation.  But we need every chance we can get when my natural cycles are 35-49 days.  With the exception of last cycle, it’s been 2 years and I’m just so over it.  I’ve already accpted the fact that it will take IVF to get pregnant so instead of the 2-3 times we used to try in the fertile window, just once the last month.  I just don’t care about BD for the sake of trying anymore. 

Post # 3
1938 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

krystalite:  For me the hardest part is getting to the BD. I hate the feeling of knowing we really should do it/ have to do it because of timing. It makes getting things started up so awkward and forced.  Once I’m in it, I always enjoy it. doesn’t mean I want it to last a long time though 😉  

Post # 4
3830 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

For someone like myself who has been trying for about a year, it stopped being fun a long time ago.  BD outside of the FW seems to be more enjoyable, its never fun to time things that precisely. But unfortunately you have to suck it up because you only have a few days to make things happen each month. 

Post # 5
1170 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

krystalite:  This is only our second cycle of TTC, but for me, the part I don’t enjoy is always being the one to initiate. Darling Husband works long hours. When he is into it, I am into it, it’s great. But sometimes I think he feels like it’s a chore. Which just makes me kind of uncomfortable.

Post # 6
33 posts
  • Wedding: July 2014

krystalite:  We’re also in month 2 of ttc…last month our BD timing was practically a joke, so now we’re going all out and trying to BD as much as we can during my FW, based on an O date that I’m still trying to pin down through charting. So, yeah it’s been a tiring week but Darling Husband has been really good about it. I feel bad because he’s in med school and has a huge exam tomorrow, but he’s still taken the time this week to “work for our future” , which I appreciate. I agree with pp that the initiation is sort of awkward. But, we end up enjoying it just fine.

Post # 7
905 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Yes and no. Darling Husband and I have been trying for 11 cycles now and I hate the awkward/forced feeling of initiating sex because it’s “turtle time” (as Darling Husband says). Obviously for the sake of wanting a child, we suck it up for those few days and get business done. There are other days for great, spontaneous sex.

Post # 8
2606 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

We tried for over two years to get pregnant, so no, it wasn’t always enjoyable.  We tried not to force it too much, but at the same time there were times where we weren’t that into it.  I will say the time we finally conceived was the best sex we’d had in a while.  I’d had a UTI early in my cycle, so we only DTD once during the fertile period.  I NEVER thought that would be the cycle we got pregnant.  

Post # 9
9549 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

This is my first month TTC, and this totally freaks me out. This is part of why I’m not charting or tracking things, at this point, because I don’t want to think of it as a business transaction. Right now we’re just going with having sex every other day(ish) and that’s worked fine so far, but we’re just starting. This might be Too Much Information, but last night once we started, I realized that it actually hurt a bit when he hit up against my cervix. This has happened, in the past, when I’m close to my period, so I usually avoid sex right before my period, but I’m not sure why I got this pain last night, as my period shouldn’t be due for another couple weeks (though I’m just off BC, so I’m not sure what my cycles will be like). Luckily, I was able to position things so it didn’t hurt, but it wasn’t the most fun sex in the world. I guess we’ll see what happens next time. 

So since this seems to be a common issue, what sort of advice do you wonderful ladies have about how to make things more enjoyable?

Post # 10
293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Cycle #1: Exciting and enjoyable BD

Cycle #14: Dread BD during ovulation window, but enjoy DTD any other time of the month when it is unplanned and not a chore!

Post # 11
1531 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We TTC’d for 15 months…and no we did not always enjoy it.  We did BD alot during every fertile window…my Darling Husband was determined.  It was very stressful…I would be really stressed out if we didnt have enough sex during the FW, and then I would be stressed out if it was forced BDing and we just did it because we had to not because we were in the mood.  I got pregnant in month 15 – and we actually did enjoy BDing during that fertile window! 

Post # 12
8827 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

after ttcing for 14 cycles some sessions are enjoyable, some aren’t. but some sessions were better than other before we were ttc also.

 i can feel a huge differece between when we have to and when we just want to.  there have been times when we need to and I can’t climax. those times, it is more important for Darling Husband to have the Big O than for me to and I’m fine with that at this point.

Post # 14
202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

krystalite:  I definitely agree on

“freshly waxed/shaved, just got a mani/pedi, put on something new… “<br /><br />my strategy has been to get a mani/pedi, get a wax or buy lingere when I’m about to ovulate – it keeps TTC sexy and fun for us. Another tip thats worked for us, we don’t talk babies/TTC when it’s BD time. I actually find myself less dissapointed by BFNs because I know that I have another month of TTC to look forward to…

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