(Closed) Do you and FI live together?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Do/did you life with your SO/FI prior to marriage
    Yes, and I think it was the right decision. : (158 votes)
    84 %
    Yes, but I don't think we should have. : (3 votes)
    2 %
    No, but we should have. : (0 votes)
    No, and I think it was the right decision. : (22 votes)
    12 %
    Other : (5 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5262 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Yes! And I am so glad we did. Neither of us has any moral conflict with living together before marriage, and this has allowed us greater commitment, happiness, and has brought us closer together. I don’t think I could have gotten through our 2 1/2 year engagement otherwise!

    Post # 4
    Member
    5153 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    My whole life I had always planned to wait until marriage to move in with anyone and I stuck with that…almost! My fiance’ and I did not move in together until we got engaged. It just made the most sense for us at the time and I do not regret it. A few of our relatives (mine mostly) disagree with it but we know it was right for us.

    Post # 5
    Member
    722 posts
    Busy bee

    Was this religious pre marital counseling? I know  there are religious reasons for not living together, but I can’t imagine non religious counseling saying it is a red flag.

    I don’t know anyone (except for those much older than me) who hasn’t lived together before marriage. I can’ t imagine it is a red flag on ALL of those relationships.

    To answer your question. Yes, we live together. We bought a house together 3 years ago. We have been together 6 years. He wanted to get married earlier but I wasn’t in a hurry. 

     

    Post # 6
    Member
    5497 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We live together and it is the best chouice we could have made! = ) I wouldn’t take it back.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    We did live together before we got engaged but had already discussed that we planned to get married. We got engaged about 6 months after we moved in together and will be married about 1.5 years after we first moved in together.

    Check out this recent article about cohabitation. It basically says that older research showed higher divorce rates with cohabitation before marriage but that more recent research has shown that it doesn’t really make a difference. A big contributor to this is probably that it’s much more socially acceptable now.

    Post # 9
    Member
    1023 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    What was the reason why? If this is religious premarriage counseling I guess I can piece together the potential given reasons, but any other counseling (not religion affiliated) I imagine that would be a red flag in terms of you relationship with your counselor!

    Post # 10
    Member
    60 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We moved in together after we were engaged…I always thought I wouldn’t live with someone until marriage but it has really worked out well for us and I wouldn’t change a thing! It’s alot more accepted these days anyway, IMO.

    Post # 11
    Member
    598 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I moved in with my Fiance and his roomate at the time because I had a falling out with my old roomate.  After 7 months we decided to buy a house because we didn’t want to live with his roomate anymore and we thought it would be a better investment than renting.

    Post # 13
    Member
    2788 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    We don’t live with each other now, but I am moving in with Fiance (FINALLY!!!!!) this June! We’ve been long distance since I graduated college a few years ago and its been tough.  We’ll be living together for about 6 months before our wedding and honestly I can’t wait.

    Post # 14
    Member
    809 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We moved in together before we were engaged and it was a great decision. I wouldn’t have done it any other way.

    Post # 15
    Member
    47 posts
    Newbee

    yes and it was the best decision ever. It helped us grow and be stronger as a couple before marriage.And believe me…there are couples that cannot stand to live together.

    Post # 16
    Member
    1371 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    @sapphirebride – I know a lot of studies say that the reason the divorce rate is higher is that often people that move in together have less strict morals and don’t see divorce as a non-option (like many very religious or conservative people might).

    @Mattel – We moved in together a few years ago and it was completely the right choice for us.  We both had issues with roommates previously and find it SO MUCH BETTER to live together!  I actually think it helped solidify our relationship.  I know several religious friends that had to hide their living arrangements from their church because they frown on it, so that doesn’t surprise me.

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