(Closed) Do you and SO take showers together?

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 16
4856 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sometimes 😉

The better designed the shower the more willing I am to take a couples shower. My husband enjoys couples showers no matter how small the shower is! He believes the less room the more parts have to touch!!!

Best shower designed for a couples shower was at a resort we stayed at on our honeymoon. Four shower heads. Two of which where rainfall shower heads and the other two where angled to shower you from the side/behind. It also had big stone seats to sit on if you so wished. It also had a floor to ceiling window with a blind that overlooked your room. It had a very Amsterdam feel.

My hubby thought it was hilarious. He had lots of fun raising the remote controlled blind and pressing his bare butt against the glass shower window and mooning me in the morning. 😒

Other than the morning mooning…it was a great shower and one day I’m going to build a house and have the same design sans the Amsterdam red light district window!!!

Post # 17
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

We almost always shower together. I don’t remember how we got into that habit but now I only shower alone if my husband isn’t there. We will also shower separately if for some reason one of us needs a second shower after a workout or after getting home from a long day at work. 

Like a PP said it keeps the water bill down and also keeps me from loitering under the hot water for a million years. 

Post # 18
395 posts
Helper bee

We often shower together but not for sexy time – usually in the mornings, before work, it’s just fun to shower together – now that I’m 26 weeks pregnant we do have less room in the shower (that isn’t that big anyway) but I enjoy getting some back rubs with the hot water – bliss.

Post # 19
10506 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Nope I like showering by myself, I think I’d get so annoyed to have my husband in there with me and I think he’d be annoyed with me too.

Sometimes we do shower sex but that’s pretty rare.

Post # 20
147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

We love showering together. Honestly, it’s relaxing to just have time away from all distractions to talk.

Our shower is very small, and so only one of us can use the water at a time. Thankfully, he is very selfless because I am a water hog in the shower. Lol!

Post # 21
4236 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

It’s an occasional treat for us, but mostly because we slow down and talk, soap/massage each other’s backs and enjoy each other’s company versus getting frisky. On the week days when I’m getting ready for work, it’s not ideal and doesn’t happen. 

Post # 22
10540 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Occasionally. But it’s super impractical and he likes cold showers and I like steaming hot. I would rather shower alone and go through my whole routine in peace most days. 😂

Post # 23
462 posts
Helper bee

Nope. Let me wash my hair in peace bro. 

Post # 24
508 posts
Busy bee

We typically take night time baths together because 1) I hate getting my hair wet if I am not washing it and 2) it helps me relax before bed. So that is mostly our thing. However, every other week, we take showers together. We enjoy it and it’s a great way to be close/intimate.

Now, I am 2 weeks postpartum and we have not done any of that. My hope is we will be able to get back in that routine, but might be tricky for a little while until our LO has a more predictable routine.

Post # 25
9127 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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zoraneale :  rarely because I hate it! That is my alone time plus I get cold while he is under the water and I’m waiting lol

Post # 26
1531 posts
Bumble bee

if we shower together the shower is usually longer than alone 🤔 but we very very rarely shower together. I find co-showers inconvenient and cold since there is no room for.both of to be under the water at the same time. Also.we have a small apartment and it’s the only place where I can be alone. So I like my privacy.

Post # 27
1339 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

 Absolutely not! My shower is utilitarian, I’ve got business to tend to and I don’t want to be distracted.  Not to mention I am 5’6″ and my Fiance is 6’5″ so there is quite a height difference.  He always tilts the shower head up as high as it goes so when its his turn under the water i end up getting sprayed in the face.  Not a fun time.  

Post # 28
842 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Literally every single night when we both get home from work. SO often that we have the routine down pat
– I shampoo hair while he gets wet. I rinse hair while he washes body, he rinses body while I condition hair, I rinse hair and wash body while he dries off…
we sound like 80 year olds lol.

Or we will take a bath together. It’s a nice time to just relax and talk about how our days went.. and we both like scalding hot water LOL so it works out.

Post # 29
2552 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

That sounds like the most non relaxing and unsexy thing, ever. Standing cold and wet while someone else showers next to you, waiting your turn to get under the water. Water bouncing off their chest and into your eyes. Confined space. Someone dropped the soap and then there’s a butt in someone’s face. So unappealing. Then feeling like you have to rush through everything, so that the other person can wash the soap out of their hair or rinse off. No time for shaving or real grooming. No thanks. I definitely would not want to start my day or end my day under such a stressful situation. You don’t really get a good clean. There’s no privacy. Just a whole bunch of awkwardness. Wet, clammy skin doesn’t rev my engines, either. How does one get any leverage to have sex in such a slippery environment? I’m not going to risk injury. My husband is almost a foot taller than me. Logistics for sexy time just aren’t there. 

More power to you, if you enjoy co-showering, though. 

Post # 30
17 posts
  • Wedding: September 2007

Okay… so on occasion, yes. However, it’s because I get really really bad tension headaches.  And I find that if I get in a really hot shower and my husband gets in with me he can massage out most of the tension. And every single time we do it he wants to have sex. But honestly, the headaches are so severe and tiring that I can’t. It is the only time that I shut it down. 

Oh. And the entire time my husband complains that the water is scalding off his skin😒

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