Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
We don’t. Well, that’s kind of a strong way to put it. Basically, I’ve been dreaming of going to a tropical island resort somewhere and plopping my butt on a beach for a week or 10 days. What can I say? I’m cold, I live in a cold climate, and I wanna be warm and lazy for a while. The man? Not so much.
He hasn’t closed the door on the tropical honeymoon, but I know there are plenty of places he’d rather go. Perhaps a big city or tour of big cities within the US. Or even abroad on a european honeymoon. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve never been to europe and would love to visit, but I want to RELAX on this trip. I don’t want to be travel-travel-traveling the entire time, you know? And I’d love to visit any of the US or Canadian places he’s suggested too – but is that really honeymoon caliber? I’m not sure.
He did tell me that the tropical vacation would be higher on his list if I could provide more activities to do than "sit around and not do anything"… But neither of us are really very outdoorsy, so we wouldn’t really dream of say… going scuba diving or zip lining or other things I’ve seen people do on their honeymoons.
We have a long time to decide – wouldn’t be going until summer 2010. Wherever we go, I’m sure we’ll have a great time and enjoy taking tons of photos while we’re there – that’s what we love to do. So, I’m sure we’ll figure it out. Do yours and your FI’s ideas of a spectacular honeymoon differ significantly? What have you done to work it out?
Post # 3
We both wanted to go somewhere that we had never been. We also wanted to get out and do things instead of relaxing on a beach. We decided on RVing across Alaska! We are so excited! I can only imagine how much fun we will have!
Post # 4
WELL, while we both had the same idea as to what we wanted to do during our honeymoon (lay on the beach, lounge in the spa, maybe go atv’ing somewhere..), we had two very different locations in mind. I wanted to do the beach thing in Greece, while he wanted to do it in Hawaii. I guess you could say he got his way. While I would have LOVED to go to Greece, Hawaii is very familiar to the both of us and we really wanted to relax without worries of not knowing where to go and how to get around without any language barriers. Utimatley, we couldn’t have picked a better place 🙂
Post # 5
I’ve dreamed of a honeymoon laying on the beach and enjoying the sun but my hubby’s idea of a perfect honeymoon was goose hunting in Canada. HELLO, there was no way in he$& that I was spending our honeymoon freezing my butt off in the snow holding a shotgun. He didn’t even want to go anywhere at all but I told him that this was something that I really wanted and would regret it if we didn’t go on a honeymoon. He caved and grumbled the whole way to Cozumel until we got there. Once we set foot on the beach he was happy and enjoyed himself. I think he was just nervous about leaving the country because it was his first time. I will say that I did promise him we would eventually go to Canada sometime down the road so he was happy. I’ve already told him that I want our five year anniversary to be spent on an over the water bungalow in Tahiti or Fiji and I think he’s okay with that idea…lol.
Post # 6
Nope! Fiance is notoriously sun-shy (when we lived four block from the beach one summer, I only got him to go with me four times the WHOLE summer), so I figured he’d nix the beach vacay as soon as I suggested it, but he surprised me by saying he’s always imagined his honeymoon as a beach vacation! We’re going to Belize, spending the first part of the trip in the jungle climbing on Mayan ruins and doing other fun jungle things and the second part on the beach, where we’re sure to snorkel, but also to relaaaaaax.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
@angee524 – LOL – goose hunting. Hahahaha. Glad you dodged that one.
Post # 8
He had definite ideas about where he wanted to go and it wasn’t that big a deal to me. I like his choice.
Post # 9
He wanted an adventure trip, I wanted the beach…
We’re thinking of compromising and doing both, but as of this morning our Africa safari/Zanzibar beach trip is in question due to increased instead of decreased flight cost. 🙁
I wanted Seychelles, he wanted Mayan ruins… Africa seemed like a good compromise (plus I love Africa more than anywhere else on earth). There has been some recent talk of postponing the trip for a while until the economic situation is a little more stable 🙁
Post # 10
I put other b/c our situation does not entirely fit the above.
Like doctorgirl, he wanted hiking, adventure, not sitting on his bum for a week in the sun. I want to sit on my bum for a week in the sun.
Hawaii would be a perfect compromise but because we live in Boston and only have a week for our honeymoon, not really an option for us. And, we need to be carefulof the Carribean b/c we are getting married in October. Read – end of hurricaine season.
BUT we are both flexible and open to each other’s wishes. He proposed going to the grand canyon, AZ/NM, sedona spa trip. My eyes of course light at up the mention of "spa." I am proposing Turks & Caicos, St. Kitts or some other place in the Carribean, or perhaps Bermuda. We are big golfers so those are good options.
We are still undecided so if anyone has suggestions for great honeymoon spots that are easily accessible from Boston, I am all ears!
Post # 11
I’d like to go someplace that neither of us has been before… However, we don’t have a lot of vacation time / money, and are trying to get back to his home country 1 x a year. I love Peru… but is it stingy or mean of me not to want to go back to his home for our honeymoon?
Post # 12
@jenny- I don’t think it’s wrong to not want to go to his home country. It could be fun to do, but you said you’re planning to go back every year. Your honeymoon ought to be something that’s special for both of you. And something that’s different, that you wouldn’t do any old time.
As for the original question, I put other, but technically I could have put the third answer. I just felt that one implied there could be resentment for having to “cave” and it wasn’t like that. We both want some combination of sitting on the beach and doing fun things like snorkling. He was thinking Greece or something, I was thinking Caribbean. We’re going with my choice, but only because we decided it just made more sense. We’ll go to Europe as soon as we can afford it for vacation. 🙂