(Closed) Do you and your FI have an educational "gap?"

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 138
3355 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MrsPanda99:  haha. I’m a foreign Asian, he’s American. we learn from each other on different things, but when it comes to our respective fields, we treat the other as the expert XD

Post # 139
80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I have a bachelor’s degree and am entering my second year of law school.

My Fiance went to college.

Post # 140
647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@MrsPanda99:  I have a BA going for my MA and hopefully a PhD after that, Fiance is getting a BFA and then plans to get an MFA (it’s the terminal degree for studio artists). BUT when I got my BA Fiance wasn’t really in school, taking a class here or there – he said it was my graduating that made him get serious and motivated him to graduate. I took at 3 year break before going for my MA so now he’s nearly graduated.

Post # 141
945 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We’re mismatched at the moment. I have a BA, Darling Husband has an MBA. But I am in the process of applying to MBA programs, so not for long.

Post # 142
3092 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Fiance has a BS in computer science and engineering and I have a BA in Soc.  I just completed my MSW.  I’m not sure about “gap” but our backgrounds are different, our fields are different, and we def have a very different types of “work days.”


Post # 143
1347 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2019

My SO and I met a month into undergrad. He’s planning for his PhD before he’s 30, but I really have no interest in going beyond my BFA.

So yeah, I guess there will be a ‘gap’ between his three degrees and my one, but he’s an engineer and I’m a graphic designer, so we’re working in entirely different fields. Our different expertise and mental strengths complement each other well.

Post # 144
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

We each have a Bachelor’s degree, actually in the same discipline.

Post # 145
942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

We have a gap but to me its not significant (I have a BA and an MPA, he has a BA). We can talk about anything. I’ve been told I have too much education from people I’ve previously dated, but there’s no issue with it between me and Fiance.


Post # 146
748 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MrsPanda99:  Nope. FH has never gone to college, but I have my BA. He’s actually really smart, like a whiz at jeopardy lol I’ve never noticed a gap in that regard. We both work in similar fields and make about the same money. Occassionally I notice the age gap, there’s things I know that he doesn’t because I’ve already dealt with it at this point in my life. FTR we’re about 5 years apart. He’s 26 and I’m 31.

Post # 147
57 posts
Worker bee

Kind of. I have my BA in Art History and he has his BS as double major in Classical Archaeology and Biology (I know, an unusual combination!), but I am planning on attending graduate school to get either my PhD in Art History or an MA in Museum Studies. He would love to go back to school and get his MS in Computer Science since he works now as a computer programmer/applications developer for the university we both attended, but since he already has a full-time job that he loves and that pays really well, it would be hard to justify quitting or trying to get a part-time appointment just to get his Master’s degree.


On a kind of similar note, there is a HUGE educational gap between our parents. My mom and dad both have a PhD (they met at their shared grad school, University of Toronto!) and my stepdad has a JD. My mom and stepdad work for the same university Fiance works for/we both attended. FI’s parents, on the other hand, finished high school and never got much farther – his dad went to college for one year and decided it wasn’t for him. His grandfather was an MD from the med school at our university, but FI’s father never really wanted to go the college route/be an intellectual. My parents, however, are professors and as far as I know always wanted to work in academia/be scholars. It’s interesting to see how people follow in their parents’ educational footseps!


TL;DR Fiance and I are pretty similar but come from different educational backgrounds.


Post # 148
35 posts
  • Wedding: January 2014

My fiance and I are both MDs and met in medical school.  I think being in the same field at the same level is very beneficial for understanding each other’s terrible schedules and the emotional demands of residency and most importantly our shared dark humor that comes with medical care – all of our mutual friends are also doctors so we have the same goofy inside jokes.  Our immediate families have 4 engineers between them so it’s easy to “get” each other when we all get together (=100% nerdism).  I will say I used to think in college that I would never want to end up with someone in the exact same field because our conversation would always revolve around work but love got in the way I guess!  And we both have chosen a profession that is a 24/7 commitment for the rest of our working days and I love having a partner who understands and supports that devotion as much as I support his.

Post # 149
2868 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We definitely do.  I have a Master’s degree, whereas Fiance has done a year of culinary school but no actual college.  The biggest way in which I notice it is that I can have a 40 hour job while he works 60-70 hour weeks, yet I still make more money than hiim.  It isn’t an issue, though.  I just feel bad that he has to work so damn hard (he chooses to, I’m not making him do anything!)

Post # 150
344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

No technical “gap,” other than him being a brilliant mathematician/physicist and me crying when I have to do long division. 

Post # 151
4028 posts
Honey bee

We are pretty similar. We both have bachelor’s degrees, but Fiance finished his master’s degree about 1 year ago. I am about half way finished with my master’s degree, though I am not actively pursuing it. I started it when my employer was paying for it and then I got a new job. I plan on pursuing it again in a year when I my new employee benefits kick in.

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