(Closed) Do you and your FI have an educational "gap?"

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 167
1070 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

No gap, we are both in grad school working towards our masters degrees.

Post # 168
173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

It seems like a lot of us are in the same situation: 

My SO started working right away after high school, but then went back to college when he was older. 2 years in, though, he got an irresistable job offer- something that had the potential to launch a career. So, he dropped out and I think, got way more experience out of working at that company, and has many far better paying job offers lined up now! I’m really proud of him, he’s very smart and ambitious. And he boasts to his friends about all my academic accomplishments πŸ˜€ I’m graduating and going to vet school next year. 

I feel like we just know different things, and they complement each other very well. 


Post # 169
1444 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@TerraMarie:  Exactly – my Fiance will bring up my 7 years of post high school education when I do something stupid, like didn’t realize how to work the new hose nozzle he got for our outdoor water hose.  He’ll just shake his head and say “7 years of school…..” and I laugh. 

Post # 170
413 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We both have Bachelors degrees. Hubby is in grad school now to be a nurse practitioner. He will graduate in May 2014! I have no desire to start my masters degree for several years.

Post # 171
2250 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@MrsPanda99:  In terms of my university degree, his skills are 100% more useful than mine. However, I’m in school to be a Registered Massage Therapist at the moment, so that might be a game changer in the opinions of many people πŸ˜‰

Post # 173
2250 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@MrsPanda99:  Lol! My Fiance injured his back a couple of weeks ago, so I did work on him then because he was in so much pain that I just couldn’t say no. You are 100% right though that on a regular basis, giving him a massage is the last thing on my mind. Sorrrrry! Haha

Post # 174
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Before starting a relationship with my SO, I thought the gap was not really important. With my ex boyfriends, I didn’t really have anything to talk about, but I’d always thought that it’s normal not to share many interests.

I’m studying literature and I love talking about my interests. πŸ™‚ Now with my SO we read and discuss books together, we can even talk about the universe and just get into very deep conversations! Now I can easily say that it is very important to share interests, or just have the same educational background. 

Post # 175
3089 posts
Sugar bee

We each have a bachelors and both are almost done with our Masters.  My ex husband had a high school diploma.  I dont think education reflects intelligence but I do think that for my ex husband in particular, there were many things he just didn’t know and I know that if he pursued his education on a higher level, he would have known those things. I have to have a man that is super intelligent. Actually, I always wanted a guy who was smarter than me.  My ex wasn’t really into intellectual pursuits and there was a huggggggge disconnect.

I used to think it didnt matter before him, now I know, it really matters for me personally.

Post # 176
2156 posts
Buzzing bee

Fiance has an Associate’s in Wildlife Management and will be going back for his Bachelor’s of Science in the same field. I will have my Educational Specialist degree (between a Master’s and a PhD… I received an MA in the process) in School Psychology after I complete my internship next year. I may go back for a PhD in the future.

I feel like I hold a lot of knowledge in a lot of different areas, in particular education, psychology, and health (but a lot of random, Jeopardy type knowledge). But he is more limited to things that pertain to his area of study: animals, habitat, biology, etc. 

He’s intelligent, I wouldn’t be with someone who wasn’t, but I think I’ve got him beat there πŸ˜‰

Post # 177
4655 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We both have BAs, in “useless” fields (comm and psych), and TEFL certificates, he has a paralegal certificate but that’s about the only difference. His grades were a bit better than mine though.

Post # 178
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We both have JDs. We met in law school. I have to say, it’s nice to be able to come home and vent about work to someone who actually knows what I’m talking about!


@MsMeow: Good luck on the bar! I remember bar prep was the worst summer of my life :-/ 

Post # 179
2389 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We have a gap.  I have a BA. He has a BS, an MS, and an MBA. I don’t need an advanced degree in my profession – experience is better. His MBA has proven very useful.

Post # 180
540 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We do. I have my master’s degree, and he only did a semester or so at college before going to flight training for a year to become a pilot. He makes twice as much as I do, but he also has twice the loans (even though I was in school seven years to his one)! He is bright, and so am I–but our strengths couldn’t be more different!

Post # 181
2075 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

Yes, but an educational gap isn’t a bad thing. I have a Bachelor of Management while Fiance has only finished first year of technical college of a 2 year program. However, he is well-read and is open-minded. He also knows a lot about technical things, such as fixing a broken electronic device/guitar amp. I find that (being handy) more attractive than a guy who holds a degree. (How we met was over my dead and broken guitar amp!)

I have always believed that education is a personal choice and depends on personal desires to learn — outside or inside a classroom. πŸ™‚ I’m still studying after my degree — pursuing a professional designation to become a management accountant (eventually CPA), on top of full-time work. My Fiance is planning to go back to school, so that he could further advance in his career, which I think is amazing.

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