(Closed) Do you and your FI have an educational "gap?"

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 317
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@ajillity81:  So, what did you decide? I am currently working on my Masters and my finace is in school right now for his bachelor’s. I do feel a gap and am not sure if we can overcome it.

I went to a state university for four years and he is woking on his degree through an online program, so it’s really not the same education. I am so torn.

Post # 318
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118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@goingtotherooftopoflove:  this sounds exactly like my finace and I. It frustrates my sometimes that he doesn’t know what i am talking about or I feel I need to simplify my language for him. Does that ever bother you? My Fiance is a very loving, generous man who will make a great husband and father. I am just worried that we don’t match up intelectually.

Post # 319
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9337 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@FutureMrsBPJ:  we are getting married in 11 days.  i do not notice a difference at all.  our fields are different so it would not have made a difference.  he is very worldly smart and we both know a lot of useless trivia.

many times we watch jeopardy during dinner.  it really depends on the categories.  some days he kicks my butt, some days i his, and some days we are pretty evenly matched.

we’ve both been in the working world for at least 9 years so that levels the playing field. 

what do you notice that makes a big difference?

 

Post # 320
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729 posts
Busy bee

He has a bachelor’s and I’m still working on mine (I feel too old to be in undergrad but oh well). I plan on getting my master’s because I need it for a job.

He wants to go back to school, but he doesn’t really *need* a master’s so he’s probably going to have to wait until I’m done. I feel kinda bad about that though, because I procrastinated for a few years after he graduated and now I’m really behind schedule so he has to wait longer.

In my defense, he only worked part time while he was in school and I worked full-time and took on most of the bills. The plan was that he was going to get a better-paying job when he graduated so that I could cut back on work and focus on school, but that decent-paying job never came along and we started personally feeling the effects of the recession at the same time. Now neither one of us can afford to work part time, so it’s harder for me to push my way through school. 

Post # 321
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316 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I wouldn’t say that my Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have a gap in our education, but that we have very distinct and different paths in education. He’s much more logical and has two bachelors degrees related to computers/tech and I’m better with the words than logic and have two masters degree, MBA and then the more non-profit/arts side. We’re both intelligent, but in different ways, and I think that the differences complement each other nicely to round out our knowledge base. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 322
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280 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We have a big gap. I have a BA and will eventually have a Master’s (interviewing for programs now). Darling Husband only went to school for a few semesters. However, he is VERY intelligent and does very well for himself.

We are taking Spanish together at the local community college, so that’s nice. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 323
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

FH has an MS, I’m working on my PhD ๐Ÿ™‚

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