(Closed) Do you and your FI have an educational "gap?"

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 107
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Our educational “gap” depends on how you look at it….I have BA in Education and the Hubs went to 2 separate rounds of Trade School and has specialized certifications in Plumbing and HVAC, not to mention a boat load of other certifications relating to his fields. 

Since we are both successful I don’t feel that the differences in our schooling cause a gap and i love him just the same!

Post # 108
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11481 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I have a BA and an MA.  My Darling Husband has a BA, an M.Ed., and an M.Div.  I think that we are well matched in terms of our educational backgrounds and intellect.

 

Post # 109
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1474 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I have a B.S. degree and a Masters degree.

He dropped out of college in his last year when he realized there were no jobs in his field. He subsequently found a new field of interest and earned the required certifications. He is skilled and talented in his field, has years of experience, is very respected in his field and recently was promoted to a regional management position. To top it off, he makes more than I do…so much for my two degrees…

And we are definitely equally matched in intelligence, the man is smart!

All fields/industries don’t require degrees or advanced degrees for success. And it’s worth saying that education is not a measure of intelligence.

Post # 110
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

No. We have the same number of degrees and roughly the same amount of “years” in higher education. Also, we both have a post-graduate professional license.

Post # 111
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I am a year away from finishing my PhD in engineering and he has a BA (BS?) in business.  Sometimes I definitely notice a difference in our problem solving abilities and how easily we adapt to new situations, but I’m not totally convinced that those differences are due to education (although they might be…).

Post # 112
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I have a PhD, as well as several Masters and he has a BA. It’s no big deal.

Post # 113
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

In a way Fiance and I “match” and in a way we really don’t.  Once I am finished with my Masters, we will both have postgraduate degrees, however Fiance went to a really amazing top-tier college and an ivy league grad school.  He was in a Phd. program but didn’t do his dissertation, instead he found he liked the real world better than academia.  He has been super well-rounded, but his focus has been on computer science.  I went to a slightly above average college, worked for a few years in non-profits then started a Masters of Divinity and always done stuff with history, government and religion.

Just having a post-graduate degree is not the same as being part of an amazing program at an ivy league school.

Post # 114
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Slight gap. I have a BS, he has an MS. No big particular difference in the day to day. In reality, there’s more of a gap as it relates to school culture – he went to Ivies for all, I’m from the local state school. Mostly comes up at reunions and the like… (i.e. WHOA, this was your cafeteria??)

Post # 115
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Helper bee

I am training towards a Bacholar in Midwifery, Fiance has no tertiary qualifications but he is an electrician. I dont think there is any gap, there’s alot to be said for practical skills and emotional intelligence.

Post # 116
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We have a gap. My husband has a trade ( electrician) and was studying to get his engineering degree but due to the amazing job he has now, we would have to take upwards of $50,000 pay cut for him to use his engineering degree so not the best choice. I have a bachelor and am currently doing my masters. So we have a gap but my husband is still smarter than me even though I hate admitting it haha

Post # 117
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My husband and I both have BS Engineering degrees (and BS jobs, hahaha). 

His brother has a PhD and his brother’s wife has a MBA (I think… she does international accounting, it’s a master’s of some sort), but she’s the smart one.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 118
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@MrsPanda99:  My Fiance and I have a gap. I have a BA as well as a college diploma (almost!), and he is in a trade, so he has done a bunch of trade school along the way.

I notice the gap only in that he’s been working and making money for sooo long, while my poor ass is still in school ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 119
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MrsPanda99:  it happens because most (not all) people meet their partners while in college, often in the same major or field ๐Ÿ™‚

I met my Darling Husband in college. Very related fields, the same department runs both our BS engineering degrees. He’s quicker than I am at solving things (he loves puzzles), but I think we’re pretty equal otherwise. I understand what he talks about and he understands what I talk about.

Post # 120
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

When i was younger, before i met my fiance, i thought this was a big deal. My bf changed all that. I have a bachelors, but my fiancé never had the opportunity to go to college. I know for some couples this might be a problem, but for us it has never been an issue. He is highly intelligent, he only lacks the formal education. We started dating when I was a junior in college, and he supported me and pushed me all the way through.

Post # 121
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I have my Bachelor’s while he has only a few classes from a community college. We both work in the same field (law enforcement) and have about the same salary. My agency requires a 4 year degree but doesn’t compensate for it pay wise. 

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