(Closed) Do you and your man see eye-to-eye politically?

posted 10 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

We agree on most stuff, but definitely not on everything.  The pirate issue was something we disagreed on- we also disagree on some other hot button issues (Israel-Palestine, gun control, etc).

He actually enjoys when we disagree because he loves challanging debates.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

We probably agree on 90 percent of the issues. The others don’t matter so much.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

We agree generally, but some issues {mainly Death penalty} we don’t see eye to eye about. I’m fine with a couple of things like that, but I needed to marry somebody who shared my same views for the most part, because they are such a big part of my personality. There is no way I could be married to a conservative just because I am SOOO liberal. 🙂

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Well, I’m socially liberal (born and raised So Cal, stuck in Missouri) and he’s from the midwest 100%. So, I tell him he doesn’t get an opinion until he’s spent time around people that are unlike him. Sometimes he can be very narrow-minded, but it makes sense–he hasn’t been around cultural people of different ethnicities and lifestyles and health nuts and some of those other "eccentricities" related to the coasts. He calls me a tree hugger and hippie and stuff, but I know he’s mostly kidding. When I sit him down and say things like, "FI, what if our child turns out gay…." he gets real serious and says, "well…." and is suddenly an understanding, gentler soul about it. Which is good to know. I think his machoness sometimes shows though as a cover up.

But other than the *social* issues, I’m pretty conservative when it comes to war, gun control, troop support, government, etc, so we more or less agree on those things. I guess politically is what I’m saying. I don’t lump social issues into the political category. I don’t chip in my opinion, though, unless I know the facts. He respects the fact that I’m a woman and have my own views on certain topics that makes me inclined to think one way or the other. I have a very scientific background while he doesn’t, which also makes for some interesting conversations.  But we never go, "ugh you’re soooo stupid" or anything like that. So it’s never caused a problem.

Anyone see the episode of Bones where shes goes, "Phalanges, phalanges, phalanges" at the baby? Yeah, that’ll be me. He thinks i’m crazy

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Fiance was brought up in a household that didn’t get a newspaper or watch the news. His parents aren’t very politically savvy so he just kind of has a "whatever" attitude about a lot of things. I was brought up in the exact opposite type of household. My mom and I watched the news (both local and national) every night at dinner. I have pretty strong political leanings and have no problem shouting them from the rooftops. I watch the news all.the.time. Luckily, I’ve found that he and I surprisingly agree on pretty much everything. He respects my strong stances on women’s and gay rights and even feels the same way. It means so much to me to know that I can speak my mind (in private or in public) and know that he supports me. I would have a real hard time being with some one who disagreed with a lot of my views.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Well, Fiance and I met working on a Political campaign, so we are both happy latte drinking elitist liberals :)!  There is no way I could marry someone with a different political perspective.

He does come from a pretty conservative family.  I am just glad the election is over.  I was waiting for them to talk about attending a tea party at Easter but it didn’t happen.  

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I am a lawyer marrying another lawyer, so even if we agreed on everything (which we don’t!) we’d still debate things just for the fun of it.

@Ejs4y9: I LOVE that you made a Bones reference! That is one thing that Fiance and I always agree on…what an awesome show that is!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We do, and I think it’s because our families are very similar. There are always going to be a few issues we don’t agree on or one (or both) of us isn’t full educated on a certain subject so it turns into a "discussion", but on the big issues and our overall political "leanings", yes.

It’s funny because we don’t REALLY notice is until we are at lunch with friends who are on the opposite side of the political scale and FI & I clearly back one another up.  

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

YES, Phalanges!!! I’m such a turd. haha, at least you guys back each other up! My Fiance just goes, "hey, talk to the hippie tree hugger about it" but all his friends are pretty good natured about it. They give me crap, but they aren’t ignorant about it…I’m all for different opinions, but when the ignorant stick comes out (or the "i’m better because…") i go from calm to annoyed awful fast! They’re all a bunch of classic midwestern guys, so I understand where they’re coming from. Believe me, if THEY lived in california for 17 years, they might be more understanding from MY perspective.

I just want everyone to be happy, which is what I tell them, so I manage to find a non threatening way to "close" the conversation.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

I’m much more right-wing than he is, he tends to be a middle of the road liberal. But we do agree on some of the more important issues, and while we love to get into rather in-depth debates on stuff, we are always respectful of each other’s opinions.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

We agree on most topics as well… yet we still always find something to debate about. I’m a CNN JUNKIE & he’s just a know-it-all attorney. The way I see it is that he has his version & I speak the truth lol jk.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1990

We both agree on almost all issues.  I couldn’t imagine being with him otherwise, it would drive me nuts.  I admire couples who can work past differences in politics and religion.

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