@petalpetal: NOPE. Not at all, which is odd since my mom and I are practically the same person in terms of taste. My mom doesn’t necessarily want a large wedding, but she thinks 50 people is a very intimate wedding. I think I would want no more than 20 guests, and that’s pushing it!
My mom suggests renting out a European castle and flying guests over for a week long celebration. I want to rent out the charming well-rated restaurant a five minute walk from my condo, and be in bed by 10pm.
My mom thinks a ballgown for the ceremony and a mermaid for the reception is what everyone does. I want to wear a simple column dress, probably off the rack!
My mom insists on hiring a planner, I want to DIY everything and maybe get a day-of coordinator.
My mom thinks the floral budget alone should be in the 5 figures, I want the whole thing to be said and done in the low (maybe mid!) 4 figures.
My mom considers good wedding photography to look like it’s a fashion spread out of Vogue, I consider my style of wedding photography to be an unposed, off-the-cuff, candid photojournalistic style.
My mom expects a wedding party. I want just my FI and I to stand up with the officiant.
My mom cannot wrap her head around the ceremony and reception being in the same building. Her words, “That doesn’t make sense. NO ONE DOES THAT. They don’t do it because it doesn’t make sense. How will you know the reception has started?” Me: “When…the ceremony has ended?!” I want a simple ceremony in the outdoor area of a restaurant, with the reception indoors. This is not rocket science.
Because of all of this, my parents are hosting an ultra extravagant engagement party for us, celebrity chef and all. Now I’m seriously concerned about our guests being disappointed with the wedding not measuring up to the engagement party, but I don’t care. I have no idea where the heck my mom (and my dad) get their wedding ideas from. It’s becoming torture, and I’m not even the only daughter! They’ll have another two weddings to plan after mine, and those ones will be big princessy events.