(Closed) Do you and your SO agree about how many babies??

posted 9 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Do you and your SO agree about how many babies to try for??

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  • Post # 32
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Fiance and I agree on two, but in a dream world where we have all the money and I could stay at home, I’d want five or six (yes, I’m crazy)….Fiance said HECK NO! which I’m okay with. I know realistically we wouldn’t ever be able to afford more than two unless we both have a crazy rich uncle we don’t know about.

    ETA: Fiance does agree that if we end up with two girls first, then we can have a third and hope for a boy. We both want boys really badly 🙂

    Post # 33
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    When we first talked about it he wanted 2 and I wanted 3-4. Now he says as long as I’m his wife and the mother of his children we can have as many as I want. YAY lol. Plus we’re both animal lovers so we’re going to end up with a full house.

    Post # 34
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Yes. Hubby and I want 2 or 3 kids. I said that if we happen to have twins the first time, then we’d do 3. I am pregnant now….only one baby……so 2 it is! Unless we get twins next time lol

    Post # 36
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My fiance doesn’t want more than 2, where I would ideally have 4. We’ll see how we feel after 2, whether we feel our family is complete or not…

    Post # 37
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Well it started out that I wanted 3, and  hubs wanted only 2.  He comes from a LARGE family and my family is tiny.  He didn’t see the need for 3 kids…

    Then something changed – somewhere along the line, he started to think I wanted 4 kids!  I have NO idea where this came from – but I said (sarcastically) “ok – we won’t have 4 – three it is!”  ha ha!!

    So now, I guess we are on the same page! 

    Post # 38
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    Busy bee

    I want 3-4 and he wants 2-3. Although we both say we will play by ear after we have one and see how it goes. We definitely plan to adopt at least 1-2 of our children and are very excited about that as well!

    Post # 39
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    At first SO and I were slightly off (I thought 3 was good, he thought 2 was good) but now…I agree with him. The more I think about it, though I am technically the oldest of 6 kids, I only lived with my half-sister who is 8 yrs younger. My mom and dad split when I was a wee one, and both remarried and had more kids. Mom married step-dad who had 2 kids from prior marriage and then they had my sis (that I lived with) and dad remarried and they had 2 girls. So yeah, lots of us. My step bro and sis were ‘every-other-weekend and a few weeks in the summer’ siblings growing up, and dad’s girls are sooo much younger (I’m 25 and they are 10 and 7). So…as much as I love each and every one of my sibs, I think two is a pretty harmonious amount. When all of us are together it turns into utter mayhem haha

    Post # 40
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    @Sea_bass:  Thank you! Every so often he says this kind of stuff and I’m like awww, and then I tease him about being the girl in the relationship lol. All in good fun :]

    Post # 41
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    IF we had kids we agree to have at least 2 but no more and no less. 

    Post # 42
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Absolutely we agree. 2 max, depending on how our lives progress, and if we can’t have them naturally (meaning, without special medical intervention/fertility treatments), we will adopt. Surprisingly, we really never had to discuss; from the beginning, we’ve been on the same page.

    Post # 43
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    We both want three. We do need to keep on talking because I have some unconventional ideas about spacing since I would like to space 4-5 years apart instead of the usual 2-3 years everyone else seems to be doing and that would probably nesseciate kid 3 being adopted. Which is fine with me because I feel like Monana‘s husband about adoption so I’d really like to do it, but I’m not sure he’s so enthused. We also need to talk about what we would do if we couldn’t get pregnant easily because I’d adopt before doing fertility drugs and IVF. He has said that pregnancy and childbirth decisions should be up to me because I, you know, actually have to do it.

    Post # 44
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Neither of us has a set number in mind- we just plan to take things one child at a time and adjust from there. So I guess that means we’re on the same page.

    Post # 45
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We both are in a 2-4 range, and maybe 5. We both want at least 2, but would like more.

    Post # 46
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    Blushing bee

    We both want two kids.

    However, I’ve always been open to adoption, even without biological children, but he’s not so keen on the idea and really wants biological children. We’ll see.

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