(Closed) Do you and your SO agree on TTC timeline?

posted 10 years ago in TTC
Post # 32
909 posts
Busy bee

I think for us it will be probably be 3 years after we get married, we will have been together 10 years at that point. We will be 27/28years old and should be settled into our jobs and house and have some savings put away, plus be mentally prepared. I have always been pretty strict on what ages I feel are appropriate for things (moving out, jobs, marriage, babies etc) and I have been sticking to that so far so I don’t think our timeline will change much at all.

Post # 33
63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Sounds like us – I’m a planner, the Mr is more laid back.  He’s ready for a baby anytime, but I have summers off from work.  We are waiting to try for a spring baby.  I hope your surgery is successful!

Post # 35
235 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Heck no we don’t agree. FH is the one that likes to plan and I’m the one that likes to go with the flow. He wants to start TTC a year after marriage and I want to wait alteast 2 years. I applied for a Nursing program for the fall and if I don’t get in he wants to start immediately. I just want to be married for awhile before kids come.

@ AmeilaBedelia wishing you and FH the best.

Post # 36
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

For the most part we do! I think I”m more into it but I also think that has to do with me being a girl and pregnancy actually happening to ME ! DH is excited but will really hit home for him when we get a bfp! Originally we said we would start ttc in May, but we are ntnt right now and hopefully we wont have to start charting!

Post # 37
881 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

DH and I have talked about it and said after our ‘honeymoon’ in April. Now that we are getting close and I’m off BC, he’s not sure. He’s never been one to initate or just do, you have to push him into things. We got engaged, but it took 2.5 years to actually start talking about planning a wedding. The planning didn’t happen until 2 years and 10 months, and that was because I ‘forced’ it upon him.

It’s not that he’s ‘not ready’ for things, he just gets nervous with change. We are both not the type of people to commit to things. I’m just hoping we can TTC by summer. I already told him I don’t want to be 30 and having my first (no offense to anyone out there!), and that I do not want to be 9 months pregnant in the middle of summer. Hopefully all this talk will make him realize and just agree.

He’s said many times he wants a kid sometime, but not sure when, followed by he’d prefer it earlier so he can enjoy the moments later in life. Also get the comments of not being opposed to it if it just happened.

Oh husbands.. I just wish he was one of those that would want something and tell me. I hate how several good friends of mine have husbands super excited to TTC, while mine isn’t. It’s kinda depressing.

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