(Closed) Do you and your SO have the same views on political/economic/social issues?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

When we met, I was a bit put off by the fact that my Fiance was sooo republican. But we kind of ended up both rubbing off on each other and now we’re at a place where we still have our own view point but we also respect the other’s. 

My Fiance is fiscally very much a republican and over the years I’ve become more right leaning in terms of taxes, welfare, healthcare, etc . However, he’s also become more socially liberal… as I am, as in supporting gay marriage. 

Also, He’s catholic and I’m lutheran but we managed to find a church we both like. It’s lutheran, but we’re also looking at catholic preschools for our son. 

Post # 4
2867 posts
Sugar bee

We are both Catholic–I’m a convert of my own decision after months of discernment.  My Fiance is a Libertarian–he’s a huge fan of Milton Friedman.  I try not to label myself into one political party/area.  He also sides with the Catholic Church more than I do in situations where I do blame the leaders for terrible occurences.  However, we agree on being pro-life, but I take it much more seriously in regards to military occupation outside the U.S.  He agrees but I’m very very opinionated on it.  I also have some liberal tendencies, like I believe in some government welfare programs and prefer the idea of a publically funded healthcare system.  He hates them, but he benefits from artificially low interest rate student loan programs–Stafford–so I get the last laugh.  That’s one of my biggest pet peeves is when people complain about others receiving welfare or taxpayer money when they are benefiting from some sort of taxpayer money; my in-laws (FMIL, Future Father-In-Law, FSIL/FBIL) are the worst about it (lying on taxes to exploit their refunds and then complaining about people needing assistance).  I also support the abolishment of the federal government issuing marriages, it should be civil unions for everyone.  He knows I dislike Republicans, and he dislikes Democrats.  We both dislike the current two party system.

Post # 5
7053 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

My Darling Husband and I (wow I can call him my Darling Husband now here!)are basically identical in our political beliefs and voting habits.  (Conservatives)

Same religious beliefs too. (Methodists)

And we’re known from time to time, to discuss opposing beliefs and keep our minds open!

Post # 6
106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yes and no… When we first met, my SO was uber libertarian- hated any taxes, government meddling, just wanted to live on a huge chunk of land and not be bothered. I on the other hand leans way left and works as a government bureaucrat. I can confidently say that I’ve majorly influenced her political views 😉

Edited to add: We’ve always agreed on “big things”, or dealbreakers. We are both pro-choice, and since we’re gay we feel strongly about same-sex-marriage (and thus sympathetic and advocates for other civil rights).

As far as religion goes, neither one of us is religious. However we both have a spiritual side that neither one of us has explored too much. I’m looking forward to the two of us figuring out together as time goes on 🙂

Post # 7
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

we’re pretty much the same on everything. it weirds me out.

Post # 8
313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think that we agree on the big stuff for the most part… I can’t think of any huge argument we’ve gotten into regarding political/economic/social issues, other than when we have talked about foreign aid priorities (since we are both very interested in traveling overseas to volunteer).  There was some disagreement there but I think it’s because we were drinking and are both quite passionate about such issues.

Since he was raised Baha’i, he never payed a lot of attention to politics, so it can be kind of frustrating sometimes because I was raised to be very politically-minded and he claims he just doesn’t know enough to be sure about where he stands.  He has started caring more since we’ve been together, but he still doesn’t feel as strongly about a lot of the same issues as I do.

Also, we are both pro-choice, but as a couple I do not think we would ever have an abortion.  Again, this is partly due to his upbringing, but also partly due to the fact that I practice Buddhism.  

In all honesty, I could never be in a serious relationship with someone who did not respect my views on political/social issues.  Total dealbreaker.


Post # 9
4675 posts
Honey bee

We have differnt views for everything if I say it’s white, he says it’s black. Religious included. Sometimes it makes life extremely difficult, however we’ve learned there are just some things we don’t discuss.

Post # 10
523 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Ha, no. It doesn’t bother him at all but I get riled up easily so we steer clear of political discussions for the most part.

Post # 11
158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We agree to disagree….but many of the “main things” we agree on i guess…IDK we rarely get in arguments about taht type of stuff

Post # 12
7402 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Same views… very, very liberal.

Post # 13
2392 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We have very similar views, which is great because we both have very unique views.  We’re both the sort of people, politically, who have very radical opinions on some things and very undeveloped opinions on others.  Sometimes these opinions are really liberal and sometimes they’re really conservative.  We’re both the sort of people who try to be really knowledgable about issues and approach them from a policy rather than a political perspective – so the issue is whether something is better suited to be a public or private good and how externalities should be handled rather than if the government should be bigger or smaller.  Because political discourse rarely works this way in the media, we are ALWAYS pissed off.

He’s more of a socialist than I am, economically, and probably more of a hawk in terms of defense.  He’s very big on redistributive programs and a little more idealistic.  My political opinions are often guided by cynicism that either the government or the private sector can handle most large, complicated societal issues.  We’re both very, very liberal on social issues.

Religiously, we’re both spiritual in similar ways, both raised culturally Jewish, and both very critical of organized religion.  He’s more anti-Jewish stuff than I am (he’s the one who put his foot down on the no-rabbi at wedding thing).

Post # 14
485 posts
Helper bee

Yep pretty much.

One area where we differ slightly is religion; I’m from a Protestant background but consider myself to be atheist, he’s Catholic but considers himseld Agnostic. This really isn’t a big issue for us though.

Post # 15
659 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

we’re both borderline ‘socialist’ (not really, but apparently being anything but a neo-Nazi these days is socialist)….but he’s way more idealistic than me.  I have traveled a lot more and studied a lot more in terms of what we believe – I lived in Denmark for a bit so I label myself a realistic democratic socialist.  He’s just super, super left without having really experienced much in the way of travel or non-military work.

My parents would have never supported me marrying someone who wasn’t of the same political ideology – we are a very political family.  My fiance and I met on Capitol Hill, my dad worked on Capitol Hill and my mom is like a party committee woman where they live. I could have married anyone BUT a republican. 

However, Fiance cares a lot more about Judaism than me and he is in the military.

Yes, ladies, I found THE Jewish vegetarian socialist Marine.

Post # 16
2714 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We’re pretty much the same. He’s conservative across the board while I consider myself libertarian – fiscally conservative/socially liberal. Neither of us are really religious, but we were both raised Catholic. Personally religion is a bit more important to me than to him so I think I breathed a sigh of relief when he told me he was Catholic. 🙂 I think I could have dated someone with more liberal leanings, but my Fiance deff could not. He gets very heated about certain topics and because almost all of our friends are liberal I think he appreciates that I have his back. If anyone watches Scrubs at all… whenever we see this clip we laugh because IT IS SO US!!

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