(Closed) Do you and your SO share an email address and/or Facebook account?

posted 10 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Do you and your SO share an email address and/or Facebook account

    Yes, we share one account.

    No, we have separate accounts.

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  • Post # 62
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Ha! We have a shared facebook and seperate e-mails and one joint e-mail for wedding garbage. He didn’t have facebook so I added him to mine, whatevskis. We also know all each others passwords. I don’t understand why you’d want to marry someone but not feel comfortable sharing passwords.

    I also don’t understand how having a shared facebook account affects our individulality. We are both our own people with our own interests. It’s not like sharing a facebook makes us one entity.

    Post # 63
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    Busy bee

    We have separate everything-banking, fb, email, separate laptops.  We only share passwords on things like netflix. He has no idea what mine are.

    Post # 64
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2008

    I have friends (a married couple) who share both an email account and a facebook account. Let’s call them John and Sally Howard. The email account includes the husband’s full name, but strangely only the wife ever answers anything sent to it. Their facebook account doesn’t even include their last name: they have the name set to John N Sally. I think the N is meant to be like the n in rock ‘n roll. I find it totally weird that they do this, even a little creepy.

    My husband and I definitely have separate accounts. I know all his passwords because I’ve had to log into stuff for him before. Even though he has done the same for me, I don’t think he knows mine currently because I change them every so often for security.

    Post # 65
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We don’t share FB/email account/passwords. We have our own laptops and we respect each other’s privacy. Sharing a laptop with someone else will drive me crazy 😛 I’ve 2 of them, one is work laptop and the other one personal. Fiance has his own.

    Post # 66
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We don’t have joint email or FB.  However we know each others login for no real reason.  Except to keep everything out in the open I guess.  It just sort of happened one day.  He needed me to do something for him while he was at work so he gave me his info.  Later I gave him mine for a similar reason.  I only go into his account when he asks me to.  If I wanted to I could access pretty much any account he has.  Since he has told me he uses generally the same password all the time (I’ve warned him not to).

    Post # 67
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We each have our own accounts on everything. Fiance hardly gets on facebook, so he often sends people to mine to see pictures and things. I’ve told him my passwords for everything, but I think he’s forgotten. I know all of his passwords, because often he’ll need to check something while I’m using his laptop, so it’s just easier for me to do it.
    I did create a joint e-mail for wedding stuff that I’m sure I’ll keep around for when we have kids. Fiance knows about it but has never shown any interest in checking it, and probably never will. He leaves wedding stuff to me unless I ask his opinion. He knows it’s really MY day. 🙂

    Post # 68
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    Sugar bee

    Separate emails and FBs. I understand later having a family email, [email protected] or something but a couple? Kinda weird and dumb to me.

    Post # 69
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I agree, Danadelphia–no use in sharing one because we don’t want to weed through each other’s crap. I don’t care about his endless videogame newsletters, and I’m sure he doesn’t want to read the letters from publishers and whatnot, lol.

    Post # 70
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    7368 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    no. other than a setting up wedding email to collect RSVP I’m not giving him access to my emails or FB, nor do I want access to his.

    Post # 71
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Emails and FB accounts are like underwear – you can see them if you happen to be around when they make an appearance, but we are not sharing.

    Post # 72
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Nope, but I have access to his whenever I wanna send myself a gift on one of them nerdy games on there. He actually has access to mine too since all of our passwords are “saved” so it logs-in automatically. But he’s hardly ever on it.

    Post # 73
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

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    @littlemissmango:

    The shared FB account thing drives me nuts!! I just find it to be completely obnoxious. SO and I are known for being attached at the hip, and are one of those “package deal” couples that’s almost always doing everything together. We’re really not very independent. But there is absolutely no way I would ever share a facebook account with him! It’s not only weird and annoying, it’s honestly a little creepy to me. Like one person doesn’t fully trust the other and has to be so enmeshed into their lives that they can’t even have their own identity on a silly little social network.

    Exactly this.  Joint FB accounts drive me f’n nuts.  The accounts are free so people clearly have joint ones for other reasons and I’m honestly curious as to what those reasons are.

    Can someone with a joint FB account please tell us your reasoning?  This isn’t to debate or anything, I honestly want to know the thought process behind it.  

    Post # 74
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

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    @punky_brewster:

    I also don’t understand how having a shared facebook account affects our individulality. We are both our own people with our own interests. It’s not like sharing a facebook makes us one entity.

    It does make you one entity though, for purposes of facebook.  Facebook is a social networking site.  Each person has an account that is unique to them, with their interests, pictures, friends, ect.  The account is free so there’s no need to share.  Given those factors, if you have two people on one account, it IS like you’re one entity in “facebook world.” Like other posters have mentioned, it makes it a bit awkward for your friends to communicate through facebook, because they don’t know which of the two people they’re communicating with.  If they see you on chat, they don’t know which one it is, when you post a status update, no one knows which of you posted it, ect ect. It just seems like an unnecessary hassle for everyone else with no real benefit to you, which is why it tends to bug people.

    It takes 2 minutes to open a facebook account and it doesn’t require you to login with any sort of regularity.  That’s why couples having a joint account tends to scream “insecurity” and “lack of individuality.” 

    Post # 75
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    we have different accounts for everything.but i do know his passwords only because i  found out that his ex was hacking into all of is accounts. he asked me to change his passwords becasue he couldn’t do it at work.

    Post # 76
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    We have separate and joint emails.  Facebook is separate.  I don’t get what the big deal is about having a joint email–my husband created it for us because sometimes, when you’re married people treat you like a unit…especially once you have kids.  Our friends love it because they can invite US to something without having to email us both.  Our bills can go through that account, information about our joint back accounts, and once we have kids that will be the account that everything goes through.  Just because you have a joint account doesn’t mean you can’t also have separate accounts–everyone is acting like having a join account means you have to use it for everything.  Just use it for things that it makes sense for–things that affect and involve you both.

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