Do you and your SO/FI/DH sext?

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Do you sext?
    We sext without pictures : (30 votes)
    14 %
    We sext and send pictures : (49 votes)
    23 %
    We don't sext, but I wish we did : (29 votes)
    14 %
    We don't sext, and I'm glad we don't : (94 votes)
    45 %
    Other : (9 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 32
    3076 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...


    lol that last one. And there’s no option for used to :p dh doesn’t have a phone but we did when he had one.

    Post # 33
    1143 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    From time to time. We’re pretty immature about it tho, and most times when he’s trying to be sexy via text, or Skype, it just makes me giggle instead. We used to send pictures when we didn’t live together, but not anymore. Just wordage!

    Post # 34
    1348 posts
    Bumble bee

    Other.. we don’t sext and I’m indifferent about it.

    Post # 36
    1130 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    Does anyone use Snapchat to send sexy messages to their partner? That’s the app where the message is only up for like 15 seconds and then it’s gone. But I don’t know where they go…

    Post # 37
    5399 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I voted other. We don’t really sext, but we do send funny/joking dirty texts. And a lot of dirty emoji stuff like @lia  posted! We live together so there’s not much point or opportunity to sext. Plus, I don’t trust technology enough not to somehow ruin my life and send me naked to everyone I know. 

    Post # 38
    223 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    We text unsexy, funny things to eachother in a sexual manner…. And then just keep it going to see how far we can take it 



    me: i want to butter your butt and call you a biscuit.

    him: Mmmm im going to scramble your eggs

    me: oh ya? Pour your syrup all over my pancakes baby

    him: only if you let me frost your cinnabon first

    me: stick your tongue in my donut hole 



    I’ve sent him some picture before (like ass shots) but he doesn’t like to play for real 

    Post # 39
    368 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Definitley.  Fun to plant an idea in the other persons head, let them think about it all day and then we’re REALLY in the mood by the time we’re home.

    Post # 40
    173 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Yes yes yes. The whole 9 yards I guess. He’s in the army and so is often gone for weeks at a time and in the middle of no where in a tent with 50 other guys… so pics are always very appreciated. 😀 It’s kind of fun! It goes pretty far in terms of exposure but it’s never vulgar. 

    I super duper DO NOT RECOMMEND SNAPCHAT. With a regular text message you have legal protection against remote access of your phone, and you can just delete the picture after, whereas with snapchat your photo could really go anywhere, and can still be found on your phone/have a screenshot taken/could be sold to a third party or wind up on the internet. And if you don’t trust the person you are sending to, don’t send it by ANY means. 

    I’m super careful about these things, trust him 100% and make a point of telling him to periodically clear his conversation history/itunes icloud backups and all that for extra security. 

    It definitely turns both him and me on and is a great way to stay extra connected long distance… and build the tension for when he comes back 🙂 

    Post # 41
    165 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    @Cory_loves_this_girl:  Fi and I don’t really sext. I just went through my phone and the only remotely sexy thing I have sent to him in the last 12 months is “sexysexsexsexysex”. I do it when I’m drinking…

    But he does have a big folder full of pictures and videos of me/us on his computer. 🙂

    Post # 42
    2782 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    We used to when we were long distance. Oh, well not sext really since it was cybersex (assuming there is a difference between on the phone and on the computer). Either way, we never involved pictures because…just no.

    Post # 43
    1105 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    No, not even on gmail chat… I tried to instigate it a couple times but all he said in response was ‘:)’ or ‘good’ or nothing. 

    Post # 44
    2268 posts
    Buzzing bee

    In the city: We used to send suggestive text messages to each other, but no pictures or ‘phone sex’.

    During long distance: We would occasionally send each other photos and have ‘Skype sex’.

    Living rurally: We have no mobile reception, so obviously we can’t/don’t.

    I’m not really ‘into’ sexting, unless it’s the only option we have.

    Post # 45
    1112 posts
    Bumble bee

    We used to, before we were married and we both lived with our parents so anything else was really out of the question. Sometimes he works second or third shift, so I’ll send him pictures of what he has to look forward to when he gets home. But we immediately delete all pics/texts on both phones after we read them. Just to be safe. Haha.

    Post # 46
    4605 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    We don’t and I’m glad. My college roommate used to sext her boyfriend a lot, the pictures got out and about and it ended up pretty ugly for her. I know that FH would never send my pictures out to his friends, but people borrow phones and I don’t want to risk having a sexy picture of me floating around the internet. 


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