(Closed) Do you and/or your FI/spouse keep in touch with exes?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 32
595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We do not have any contact with our exes at all.  No way.

Post # 33
366 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

He doesnt have any exes and pretty much allmy exes are still friends. I have never ended a relationship on bad terms, even my exhusband and I are good friends, he”ll be at our wedding.

Post # 34
891 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We do. We’ve gone out to a party and my 2 of ex’s were there. One actually offered my Fiance cooking tips, which was funny because Darling Husband was a chef at a restaurant for awhile and the ex couldn’t make cereal. I kind of have to as well with my daughter’s father. He also keeps in touch with his ex. She’s actually really nice and we’re pretty friendly.

Post # 35
107 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Eh, I have to talk to one of mine because we have a daughter together. I am on good terms with two of mine though. One lives in Newfoundland with his girlfriend and the other lives in town. We never see each other in person just once in a while we will talk on facebook and see how each other is doing. I don’t think that my fiance talks to any of his ex’s 

Post # 36
3829 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

As far as i am aware he has no contact with any exes. We bump into his one every once in awhile but we only ever talk to her husband because we like him. 

I am on friendly terms with most of my exes. 

Post # 37
519 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t have any exes. My husband has one ex. He’s friendly with her and talks to her every now and then, but no phone calls or hanging out really. Just FB and when they run into each other. 

Post # 38
3355 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@thiswillbemyusername:  Facebook.

I would meet up with them if I were in their respective countries too.

Post # 39
605 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Brazil Room

I occasionally talk to my ex, but it’s so few and far between. When we talk it’s like we’re old high school friends that lost track of each other (“how have you been?” “how is your job?”) and it’s in no way like we used to be romantically connected.

My Boyfriend or Best Friend however is very connected to his Ex’s. His ex wife he talks to once a month or so. His ex girlfriend is about 2 – 3 times a week. He used to talk to his very first Girlfriend every now and then, but she started being crazy, so he told her to not contact him again.

Post # 40
11231 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Gross, no. 

I tried to stay friends with my first boyfriend, but he couldn’t handle it. My last ex…needs to disappear forever.

FI’s ex is batshit crazy and treated him the same way my ex treated me. He’s too nice and helped her move over an hour away, took her out to dinner, let her cry on his shoulder, etc. after they broke up (I had to talk him out of driving the hour+ to go see her one night when she “had a really bad day”!), but afaik, they haven’t spoken in years. I’d like to keep it that way, after the way she treated him and what she did to me.

One of FI’s female friends got into an argument with me over staying friends with your exes because she’s friends with all of hers (she didn’t understand why I was vehemently against Fiance staying in contact with his ex). I explained to her that when you have a bad relationship and a bad breakup, it’s in one’s best interest to cut contact. Apparently she didn’t know that their relationship was as bad as it was, nor that his ex cheated on him (despite being “good friends” with his ex)? Oops. She does now.

Now, if the situation was ideal? “We just didn’t work out romantically, but we get along great and make great friends,” then yes, I can understand that. But coming out of an abusive relationship? No.

Post # 41
11744 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Neither of us has any contact with any exes nor do we want to.  

Post # 42
5005 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2018

I don’t have any, so I can’t. FH used to keep in touch with one from high school. They were just one of those “didn’t work out romantically” couples, so it wasn’t a big deal. They’ve sort of drifted apart. 

Post # 43
470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Only what is necessary to successfully coparent our children. Other ex’s no no reason to keep in contact.

Post # 44
1379 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

One of my best friends is a guy I casually dated on and off for a few years during/immediately after college. We never were an officially couple so we never had an official breakup–we haven’t seen each other in years due to being in different states/countries and I just lost the desire to ever make out with him again. He’s been a good and supportive friend and a enjoy his company so there is no reason to cut him off.

I still keep in touch with the only guy besides Boyfriend or Best Friend I was truly in love with, but he’s 10,000 miles away…no threat! 

Boyfriend or Best Friend keeps in touch with his exs through FB. He was in LDRs with all of them so he doesn’t really have the opportunity to see them. I don’t mind. I don’t particularly like his most serious ex but that was because she cheated on him and hurt him (how dare she!) but if he’s over, I need to get over it too.

Honestly, I don’t really have issues with exs–I would be a lot more insecure about some brand new female friend over someone who he had already tried to have a relationship with and failed. There’s a reason they broke up.

Post # 45
3245 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Oh my god, NO. Neither of us have contact with any of our exes. 

Though that may change next year. . . one of my exes apparently has deferred his enrollment to the same grad school where I am now. So he isn’t here now, but there is a chance he will come next year. I REALLY HOPE NOT because I would happily never, ever see or hear from the guy again.

Post # 46
2491 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Nope. No reason to. 

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