(Closed) Do you and/or your FI/spouse keep in touch with exes?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 92
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Hell no!!! There’s no reason for us to be friends with any of our ex’s. But to each their own. 

Post # 93
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421 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@wildflowerbee:  +1

Especially if you had sexual relations with this person, it just doesn’t make us comfortable.

Post # 94
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Bumble bee

I do regularly keep in touch with one Ex. We didn’t break up for a bad reason. He moved for his job out of the country, and at the stage of our early relationship (about 6 months in) I could not make a commitment like that.

I miss him sometimes. He is just a great friend. SO talks to him to on occassion. My ex is engaged now too. A smidge bittersweet for me. But I am so happy for him.

Post # 95
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I do, he doesn’t.

His exes all treated him badly (except one), so he has no desire to see or talk to them. He did keep in touch with one for a while, but when she started spreading lies about me he pretty much wanted nothing to do with her. One of my exes is also friends with FH, he comes over here sometimes to visit or we go and see him (because his older brother is FH’s best friend and they live/d together). FH was even considering him as a groomsman for a while. My other ex and I don’t see each other much at all, but we talk if we bump into each other. I wouldn’t go out of my way to see either of them, but we’re on good terms and talk when we do see each other. I’m friends with ones gf too, she’s lovely.

ETA- Neither of those guys were serious relationships. One (the one we don’t hang out with) was like 2 weeks when I was 14, the other was more serious, on and off for a couple of months when I was 15. FH is my first ‘real’ relationship though lol.

Post # 96
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I have one ex I text and talk to from time to time, but I don’t go out of my way to do it. Fiance has nothing to do with his…they had a really bad break up, and she had a son that she was pregnant with when they met that Fiance took over and played the role of Daddy at 23, since the biological one wasn’t in the picture. They were together for about 3 1/2 years, never were engaged, and broke up. When she found out he and I were dating and it was really serious, she quit letting him see her son last year because she tried to pull the whole “but I want to try and be a family” on him and tried to make him choose between me or her son. She also refused to acknowledge that we were dating at all. My Fiance was crushed because to him that was his son and had raised him for 5 years.  I felt sorry for both my Fiance and that little boy because I could only imagine why he felt he suddenly had do Daddy (FI had him all the time and took him fishing, and what not) and what excuses she gave him.

Sorry…I was beginning to ramble and when I get on the subject of his ex, I tend to do that haha. And it really has nothing to do with the fact they used to date, it was the way she acted. I tried so long not to say anything bad about her, when ALL of his family would rag on about her, although she had no problem making assumptions about me based off certain acqaintances and friends, and the way she treated Fiance when he took responsibility for her child and made him feel worthless because he wouldn’t go back to her.

Ughh..Anyways…

When he proposed…I sent her a picture of the engagement ring… 😉 Oops..

Post # 97
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Bumble bee

Yes, I’m friends with one in particular.  This thread actually reminded me that I’ve been a flakey friend and still owe him a birthday lunch – from LAST YEAR!  His birthday is coming up again in less than 2 weeks!

We get along great now that we’re not dating.  He’s even brought his girlfriend into my job to introduce her to me.  I’ll admit that she seemed a little weirded out by it at first, but now she seems totally accepting and sweet.

Post # 98
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I talk occasionally with one or two exes. As far as I know he doesn’t talk to any of his. Not that I would care if he did.

Post # 99
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Serious relationship ex? Absolutely not with the exception of the happy new year text he awkwardly sends every year. Though I did just get back from hanging out at the bars with my old 9th grade boyfriend (and many other old friends).  Lol!

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