Do you answer the door at night (when not expecting guests)?

posted 7 months ago in Weddingbee
  • poll: Do you/SO/other answer the door at night (when not expecting guests)?
    Yes, but I have SO/other person answer the door (not me) : (20 votes)
    15 %
    Yes, either SO/other person or I will answer the door : (26 votes)
    20 %
    No, no one answers the door : (80 votes)
    61 %
    Other (explain) : (6 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 2
    577 posts
    Busy bee

    Hell no. No reason why anyone needs to be knocking at my door that late. 

    Post # 3
    173 posts
    Blushing bee

    Nope. I have the ring doorbell, and I’ll check to see who it is. Even during the day I’ll ignore doorbell rings.

    I live in a very low crime area, but we get some solicitors. I’ll either ignore them or say not interested. Even before the ring, I used to go to the door, check and see who it was, and wave them away if I didn’t know them. Sometimes people would get annoyed and keep knocking or trying to talk to me through the door. No dude, I’ve got kids at home, I’m not being ms. nicey pants and opening the door to strangers. I had no problem sending people on their way.

    I think the idea that it’s rude not to open your door is bizarre. I think women are strongly be nice and non-confrontational. Eff that.

    Post # 4
    244 posts
    Helper bee

    I never answer the door. Even during the day…lol

    Post # 5
    701 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015 - Backyard

    Technically it’s illegal for anyone outside the post office to put anything in your mailbox (though I do this when we get our neighbors mail) so maybe that’s why they dropped it at your door instead of your mailbox?

    To answer your question, I wouldn’t open my door if someone knocked at night unless my husband was home and one of us is armed. And I don’t live in a high crime area, but I don’t trust anyone. When I’m home alone I don’t answer the door unless it’s fedex/UPS or a neighbor I know regardless of time of day.

    Post # 6
    43 posts

    I never answer the door unless I am expecting someone. Day or night.

    Post # 7
    1353 posts
    Bumble bee

    We have security cameras all around our house, so if someone knocks or rings unexpectedly the first thing we do is pull up the cameras. I never open if I don’t know who it is or it’s not a package being delivered. Both my husband and I are from rougher parts of town, and our neighborhood has taken a turn in the last 5 years, hence the cameras.

    Post # 8
    603 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2007 - City, State

    whitepeacock :  This is highly suspicious and I’d be on guard if I were you. 2x in one week? No. Do a thorough window and door lock check and keep all outside lights on and all blinds drawn. Also keep on guard during daylight hours.

    A piece of mail is a seemingly innocent reason for a person to “come to the door”, but not late at night. It takes 2 seconds for that to turn into a home invasion, robbery, or assault. You don’t know if someone took that from your mailbox intentionally, or if someone has been watching you.

    A normal person does not knock on another person’s door at ungodly hours for mail or any other reason. Be on alert.


    Post # 9
    653 posts
    Busy bee

    whitepeacock :  we have cameras around the property so my husband usually checks to see who it is, if it’s somebody we don’t know we don’t open the door. 

    Post # 10
    1364 posts
    Bumble bee

    Good god no, just reading this post made me anxious!   The only valid reason for someone to knock on a door at 11pm is if they legitimately need help, car trouble & no phone, running from an attacker, etc.  Where I live anyone could walk a half mile in any direction & find a gas station, store or restaurant/bar for help in non urgent situations like car trouble.  I’d think someone injured or running from someone would indicate urgency/fear when knocking, in that case I might answer if my husband was home.  I live in a very safe area but 11pm door knocks?  Just no.

    Only if I knew the person, if i recognized them as a neighbor then yes.  I’d assume they were in a bind of some sort & needed help. We have great, totally sane & kind neighbors though.

    9pm is a different.  There’s still teens on the street at 9pm.  Especially in the summer time.  I’d be more likely then.  

    Post # 11
    2961 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2006

    I have nightmares about home invasion so this whole thread before bed was a bad idea. Lol. Who knocks for FIVE MINUTES ANYWAY! 

    On a lighter note, I was living in an apartment and my mom was trying to get in touch with me because my grandma was in the hospital. My ringer was down so she called the office and sent the courtesy officer over to beat on my door. I woke from a dead sleep and not thinking, answered the door WITH NO PANTS ON. Luckily I had a long T-shirt on. Funny thing is, I got a job in the office a few months later and when we were introduced he’s shaking my hand and I’m like “Oh yeah, remember me? I answered the door that night pantsless!” 😆😳🤦🏻‍♀️

    If my husband is home late I make him answer the door though. If he’s gone, I hide. Lmao! 

    Post # 13
    10651 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I rarely answer the door.  If it was late I would probably be looking out at least though, as I think I would be more concerned about why someone might be knocking on the door, but generally I do try to get Darling Husband to deal with it.  I’m rarely wearing a bra at home, I don’t want to answer the door to some random person like that.

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