(Closed) Do you answer the door when you're home alone?

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Post # 92
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@MrWonderfulsGirl:  “It’s not being paranoid its being smart.”

I totally agree with you on this!! I live in Houston, and the big home safety story on the news a couple weeks ago was about bad people pretending to be USPS workers (dressing up and all) and going to peoples homes and robbing/assaulting them once the homeowners/tenants opened their door.

No thank you!! 

Our dog barks whenever anybody knocks at our door, and there aren’t any windows in the breezway of our building so nobody can see in our apartment, I can see them out the peep hole though.  If USPS/UPS/FedEx can’t leave the package at the door or take it to the office, then I’ll take the little slip to the post office and pick it up myself!

Post # 93
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Nope; most things we get delivered can be left at the door, and we rarely have unexpected guests who wouldn’t call first. 

Post # 94
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Nope, not unless I know who it is or it’s a delivery. Sometimes I don’t answer it for a delivery either. Only one or two of my packages have ever needed to be signed for.

Post # 95
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I don’t answer if I am home alone, unless its someone I know or a package I have to sign for, but even then i am generally expecting it. Otherwise I don’t answer. The neighbor kids are always ringing the bell anyway. 

Post # 96
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Buzzing bee

@cls9q:  

How do you not answer the door when someone waves???

Oh my God. This is how Ted Bundy was able to murder so many women. I don’t care if they have the welcome wagon, a gift basket and a winning sweepstakes ticket, I’m not opening the door. I’m not even peeking.

Serial rapists and killers are depending on women to give in to the “nice girl syndrome,” to feel guilty about offending anyone or, horrors, not seeming friendly.

A few months ago there was a story on the local evening news. A woman was home alone getting ready for work at about 10 a.m. There was a knock on the door and she ignored it, because she was running late and was trying to get ready.

About 5 minutes later the house alarm went off. The woman hid in the house, not knowing what was going on, until the police arrived a few minutes later. Turns out that whoever was knocking at the front door then went around to the back of the house to slash the back porch screen, which set off the alarm. He fled into the woods behind the house and was never found.

However, in all of the commotion he accidentally left behind a clue: lying on the ground next to the slashed screen was a receipt from the neighborhood Walgreens, time stamped about one hour prior to the attempted break-in… and the receipt was for a pack of TROJANS….

So I’ll leave it to your imagination what would have happened to that lady if she had been nice and opened the door up for a smiling, friendly, waving stranger….

You need to value your life more than you value what other people think of you. 

Don’t open the door!!

 

Post # 97
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center

I wouldn’t even think to not answer the door, it’s so automatic!  And my hair is usually wet and I’m wearing pajamas and no bra most of the time when someone knocks…  It’s often our neighbor lady, who used to bring us baked goods regularly (hmmm, she hasn’t been around recently…).  Our delivery people don’t even knock, I’m lucky if I can hear them open the screen door to put a package down while I’m inside!  

Last week two nuns came to the door and asked to sing and bless our house.  I was like “uh, that’s okay… no thanks…” AWKWARD.  

Maybe I should start actually using our peephole…  

Post # 98
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Some of these responses are just plain stupid!

I mean seriously. It’s not about being “paranoid”, it’s about being smart. Not EVERY single person that comes to your door is going to have the intent to hurt you but how are you supposed to differentiate between a friendly stranger or someone who is acting friendly? You don’t know who’s behind the door if they are a stranger and just because you are an “adult” doesn’t give anyone the excuse to be stupid.

For the people who are overdosing on confidence:

Would you walk alone purposely on the bad side of town at night for fun? If not, then why are you paranoid?

Would you leave your purse exposed on the passenger side of your car with the window down? If not, why are you paranoid?

Would you leave your children playing alone in the front yard without anyone to watch them? If not, why are you paranoid?

Chances are that “statistically” your child wont be abducted by some pervert, but why the F would you take the chance? Being macho isn’t going to mean shi* when you put yourself in dangers way for being careless and end up raped or assaulted. 

I’m martial art trained, have two large pit bulls that are not so friendly with strangers and I can take care of myself but that doesn’t mean I’m going to go spitting in the face of danger. If it’s someone I know or I’m expecting someone, then yeah I’ll open the door but I’m not going to open the door to someone I don’t know just to be “not paranoid”. 

Sure, the chances are very little that you will actually be harmed by someone by answering the door but the point is that it still happens to people all the time. Kids are kidnapped, women are raped, and homes are robbed because we don’t live in candyland. Being smart and not confusing stupidity with confidence can sometimes be the only difference between you and the woman who ends up raped and left in a ditch.

 

Post # 99
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@BelliniChic:  Absolutely agree!

 

I just can’t believe some people care that much about “proving confidence” or what people think about them so much that they’d be willing to take that kind of gamble.

 

Post # 100
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Sometimes I ignore it. It seems like everytime I do answer it, it’s a solicitor or religious group or something, and I feel super awkward trying to get them to leave. It’s probably better if I just stop answering the door…

Post # 101
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Cos murderers and rapists will always knock on your door *eye roll*. 

 

Yes, I answer the door by opening it. But I won’t unlock it for strangers. 

Post # 102
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Nope. To be honest, even if my husband is home I will not answer the door to a stranger. Lol. 

Post # 103
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Mexico

No way! I’ve seen way too many shows on Investigation Discovery to trust strangers at the door! I only answer the door for people I’m expecting.

Post # 104
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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@Snowden:  Yeah – I was born and raised in New Zealand and this thread really has me scratching my head – I mean a. I typically always answer the door, and b. I LOVE unexpected visitors dropping by.

Perhaps I should change my way of thinking now I live in the US?

Post # 105
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Not if I’m not expecting anyone.  But if I happen to buzz the person in without thinking, I have my buddy /pitbull Chunk to scare him straight. 

Post # 106
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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@farawayviolet:  It just seems a tad unfriendly. Some of the best conversations I’ve had have been with random charity collectors/JWs/people trying to sign me up for shit haha or just unexpected visits from friends. 
I would also kind of think that if someone is scoping out your area for robbery and you don’t answer the door they may mark it down as somewhere that’s a possible target as opposed to somewhere where someone is home during the day?  

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