Post # 1
Just curious! When you’re hosting a holiday event that includes a sit-down meal, mike Thanksgiving, do you ask people to sit in assigned seats and/or make name-cards? What do you think guests prefer or what do you prefer as a guest when you’re invited to a dinner with many people?
Post # 2
That should say “like” thanksgiving, not “mike” 🙂 this thing won’t let me edit.
Post # 3
mrsp2016 : As a guest, I don’t care either way. As a host, I like to assign seating so the conversation will be great and the kids surrounded by adults on all sides.
Post # 4
Besides having a designated kids table I’ve never been to a thanksgiving dinner with assigned seating and I probably wouldn’t assign seating to my guests if I were to host unless I was going for a super formal vibe.
im used to laid back thanksgiving dinners though
Post # 5
We usually have pot luck style Thanksgiving lunch, so definitely nothing formal enough to warrant place cards.
Post # 6
I’ve never assigned or been assigned seating at a holiday meal.
Post # 7
Assigned seating doesn’t have to be formal or require place cards. I have used both a chalkboard runner and chalkboard painted chargers to assign seating.
Post # 8
I would find that pretty weird honestly.
Post # 9
I would be surprised to have my seat assigned at anything besides a wedding. I’d avoid that unless it’s something you’ve already seen people do in your social circle. A kids’ table is totally normal though.
Post # 10
I do not assign seats as I want my guests to be comfortable and I don’t think that’s a norm in my area. I did go to a friends baby shower that had assigned seating recently and everyone thought it was uncomfortable and strange. I guess it really depends on how your circle/family does holidays
Post # 11
I would also find it weird to have an assigned seat in someone’s home.
Post # 12
mrsp2016 : my family does a lot of hosting in their homes for exchange students, refugees, overseas guests etc. They are always invited to accompany the host family to our family get togethers like Christmas, so when there’s more than one we will usually do place settings so they are seated comfortably and people can do a subtle name check if its forgotten lol.
But if its just family we dont do place settings and just figure it out amongst ourselves.
Post # 13
Ish – my Mother-In-Law tries to direct us to certain seats during Christmas lunch (she was brought up to be a hostest in the traditional British sense so trying to get man / woman alternation and no couples sat together etc) However, as we tend to help ourselves from the side board it ends up being a free for all.
Post # 14
At Christmas and thanksgiving my family always sits in the same seats every year so no need. When I’m at my in-laws for a big dinner we all usually end up in the same seats each time too.
I personally wouldn’t mind assigned seats though and I would definitely prefer them if I’m around people I don’t know well!
Post # 15
mrsp2016 : For large family parties we have two dinning tables one in the dinning room the other in the kitchen. We draw numbers to see which table you sit at and just choose our own seats from there. It’s really fun because it gets competitive with which table is having the better time.