Do you “assign seats” at Thanksgiving dinner?

posted 9 months ago in Holidays
  • poll: Do you assign seats when hosting large holiday dinners like Thanksgiving?
    Yes : (11 votes)
    15 %
    No : (51 votes)
    69 %
    It depends : (12 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    47175 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    mrsp2016 :  As a guest, I don’t care either way. As a host, I like to assign seating so the conversation will be great and the kids surrounded by adults on all sides.

    Post # 4
    2917 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    Besides having a designated kids table I’ve never been to a thanksgiving dinner with assigned seating and I probably wouldn’t assign seating to my guests if I were to host unless I was going for a super formal vibe.

    im used to laid back thanksgiving dinners though

    mrsp2016 :  

    Post # 5
    3737 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    We usually have pot luck style Thanksgiving lunch, so definitely nothing formal enough to warrant place cards. 

    Post # 6
    3093 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2021

    I’ve never assigned or been assigned seating at a holiday meal. 

    Post # 7
    47175 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Assigned seating doesn’t have to be formal or require place cards. I have used both a chalkboard runner and chalkboard painted chargers to assign seating.

    Post # 8
    776 posts
    Busy bee

    I would find that pretty weird honestly. 

    Post # 9
    173 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I would be surprised to have my seat assigned at anything besides a wedding. I’d avoid that unless it’s something you’ve already seen people do in your social circle. A kids’ table is totally normal though.

    Post # 10
    273 posts
    Helper bee

    I do not assign seats as I want my guests to be comfortable and I don’t think that’s a norm in my area. I did go to a friends baby shower that had assigned seating recently and everyone thought it was uncomfortable and strange. I guess it really depends on how your circle/family does holidays 

    Post # 11
    5186 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2018

    I would also find it weird to have an assigned seat in someone’s home. 

    Post # 12
    1683 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    mrsp2016 :  my family does a lot of hosting in their homes for exchange students, refugees, overseas guests etc.  They are always invited to accompany the host family to our family get togethers like Christmas, so when there’s more than one we will usually do place settings so they are seated comfortably and people can do a subtle name check if its forgotten lol.

    But if its just family we dont do place settings and just figure it out amongst ourselves.

    Post # 13
    2697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Ish – my Mother-In-Law tries to direct us to certain seats during Christmas lunch (she was brought up to be a hostest in the traditional British sense so trying to get man / woman alternation and no couples sat together etc) However, as we tend to help ourselves from the side board it ends up being a free for all.

    Post # 14
    386 posts
    Helper bee

    At Christmas and thanksgiving my family always sits in the same seats every year so no need. When I’m at my in-laws for a big dinner we all usually end up in the same seats each time too.

    I personally wouldn’t mind assigned seats though and I would definitely prefer them if I’m around people I don’t know well!

    Post # 15
    2141 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    mrsp2016 :  For large family parties we have two dinning tables one in the dinning room the other in the kitchen. We draw numbers to see which table you sit at and just choose our own seats from there. It’s really fun because it gets competitive with which table is having the better time. 

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