(Closed) Do you avoid going to certain places alone after dark?

posted 8 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I do! I live in the city, and last year I had to walk home alone from work sometimes at 11 pm or so. A few times some homeless guys followed me home to my door which was (luckily) in front of a bus stop where there were usually other people. After that I just decided it wasn’t worth it. If the Fiance can’t go with me, I usually don’t go. If I had my own car I’d be more likely to, but going to the train or walking makes me nervous, especially with the string of strong arm and gun robberies we had here this summer. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Not really, not yet. I try to be wary and smart about things, but if I need to go somewhere, I go. There is little chance I could over power a man if attacked, but no one is hurting me without paying a high price to do it.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

When I studied abroad in London I definitely was more careful.  One night when it was dark out and I was walking back from doing my laundry I had two guys follow me and I was really creeped out.  Luckily, I was around the corner from my flat and just booked it and made it back safely.  If I lived in a big city I would definitely avoid the bad neighborhoods at night.  

I live in a relatively safe town now.  But I still avoid the SE side which is known for gang activity.  I also try to avoid Walmart at night unless I’m with my husband.  Walmart is a weird place after midnight.

Otherwise, I think pepperspray and a whistle are good sources of protection.  My backpack has a whistle built into one of the straps so if someone comes after me on the way home from school in the dark I can just blow that thing to scare them away hopefully.

My husband and I frequently do our grocery shopping after 11pm.  The store is full of creepy night workers at that time.  And I mean the creepiest.  There is this one guy that always talks to me when we are there.  I would never go alone.  My husband is always with me then if we go that late at night.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

Yes, most definitely.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Yes, I’m the same about waiting to go places with my partner. We used to live pretty close to downtown, and I hated it when he’d get home late from work or something and take a bus downtown, but then walk the rest of the way to our apartment by himself.

I think women generally think about this sort of safety question more (like, have your keys out and ready as you get to your apartment or walk to your car in the ramp), whereas men generally think it won’t happen to them, or the thought never crosses their mind.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Yep, definitely! I’m a chicken! I don’t even like going outside at night to take out the trash or run out to my car. We live in a pretty nice gated apartment complex, but there are always random creepers roaming around! When my man was on deployment I went downstairs to my car to grab something and this creepy man was just pacing the parking lot and staring at me.. after that I stopped going outside at night.. I didn’t want anyone following me I was living all alone!

Random semi-unrelated story:My bro in law is a cop and told me that a girl in my complex kept hearing noises on her porch, but just figured it was a stray cat or something… she continued to watch tv until there was a knock at the door. She looked through the peep hole, but it was dark so all she could see was the outline of a person standing at the door. When she opened the door there was a man standing there PLEASING HIMSELF. EW. She screamed, slammed the door and called the police. When they got there they found the guy and she mentioned to them that she had heard some noises on the porch. They found his fingeprints all over the sliding glass door. Creeeepy

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Yup! Thankfully we’re moving soon, but to a condo in va beach… idk how much better that will be!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Yes! I feel like sometimes I am overly paranoid, but then again, better safe than sorry. I hate being alone in the dark. I either avoid it completely, or am totally alert and waiting for someone to jump out at me lol.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Seoul is safer than most cities (and in many areas restaurants are open all night, so I feel a bit safer because people are up at all hours of the night).  But…coming home from midnight Easter service one night, I was attacked and pushed into an alley. Thankfully I was able to fight him off and get away (thank you 24 hour McDonalds), but the experience really shook me.  Now if I am getting home after midnight (when the stores near my home close), Fiance comes and stays at my house.  I call him and he goes and stands at the top of my hill so I can safely walk up the hill I was attacked on. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@bamm: That’s awful.  I’d be really shaken too!  Glad you were okay.

I worry sometimes depending on where I am, but it never stops me from doing what I need to do.  Probably not smart, but that’s just me.  I tense up when I need to walk back to my car downtown if I’m working late, or if I’m headed anywhere in the city on foot by myself at night, but I still do it.  I’m stubborn.  I will say though, I always walk with purpose and as though I know where I am (even if I don’t), I don’t talk on my cell or have iPod in when I’m walking alone at night, and sometimes I hold my keys in my hand so that the ends are sticking out through my fingers. 

You know, I actually worry more about home intruders, but I think that’s cuz my parents house was broken into when I was little.  We now have an alarm system and I lock every door/window at night.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Yes, there are just too many creepy people out there.  I rarely go out by myself at night, now that I’m getting older.  It’s just not safe to me.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yes…a lot of places. I’m completely paranoid. I hate being alone. I don’t trust ppl. I feel so much better when I have my FH’s hand to hold.

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