Post # 1
- Wedding: July 2014 - Barn
Story: my mum and dad got a divorce, and my mum has a one carat diamond in a jewellery box somewhere. A couple of years ago, she mentioned that she’d like to give it to me when I get engaged.
But it kind of gives me the heebie jeebies! It’s a divorce diamond! I’m more interested in moissanite anyway (I don’t think I’d make my SO buy a one carat diamond when there’s a perfectly good one here for free) but it just got me to thinking.
How would you feel in this situation? What would you do?
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I could have written this last year. My advice is to take it. Even the moissy will be several hundreds that you can put toward something else. I reset it and I don’t really even think about it anymore, now i just think of it as my ring. My relationship is still fine too =)
Also, even though they got a divorce that ring is partly responsible for you being alive! How can it be bad luck if it put you on the planet?!
Post # 4
@allinoelle: I would take it and then have it re-set to make it your own.
I am superstitious too, but if you think about it logically, the diamond had nothing to do with the divorce. It’s a material good. It’s not like a ring can be cursed.
Post # 5
I’d use it and save a few hundred bucks.
Post # 6
@allinoelle: Not sure if you watch Shahs of Sunset on Bravo, which is a silly example, but diamonds hold serious energy. http://www.diamondenergetics.com/
Is there a way you can sell this one and trade for a new one?
Post # 7
I agree that you should take it. It’s part of your family. Regardless of your parents divorce, that rock helped usher you in.
Post # 8
@allinoelle: I think you have to ask yourself, would it bother you to wear a used dress that ended with divorce/broken engagement? If so, then the fact that this is a divorce diamond might bother you later on. If the fact that it’s free supersedes the underlying superstition, then that’s something you have to keep in mind when any doubt sets in.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t wear it, but I’m weirdly supersticious
Post # 10
I’d take it.
It wouldn’t bother me as much as if it was a divorced diamond from someone else. If you think of it this way, the ring was from a time when your parents loved one another and they had you so it might not have bad vibes for you.
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I would DEFINITELY take it! Free 1 carat diamond?! Hell yeah. I’m not superstitious though. If you and your Fiance got it reset, it might feel more like “your” diamond.
Post # 12
It was the diamond that was given in a time of love and the diamond that your parents conceived you with. When my parents got divorced I got the small diamond ring and wedding band and I have been wearing them long before I was engaged. I just had my ring custom made with my mom’s diamond as a side stone. She was a little disappointed becasue she thinks the stone has bad energy. The diamond is not the best clarity and if SO and I are still together in 5 years I will have my ring remade with other diamonds because by then we will be celebrating almost 13 years of being together.
While I am not superstitious per se, I do believe in healing stones and that they hold energy. I would never want a diamond from a pawn shop or estate sale even if it were an awesome deal. This is a diamond from your mom and while they got divorced, it is coming from someone that you share a mutual love. I would take the diamond! If you feel really strongly against using it ask your mom if its okay to sell it and put towards the cost of a new one!
Post # 13
I don’t believe that stones (or other objects) hold energy, good or bad, so I would definitely use it. My mum still has her wedding ring from her failed marriage to my dad, and I would absolutely use her ring if it wasn’t yellow gold and 4 sizes too big.
Post # 14
@MASPA: totally agree. even though they got divorced, it’s not some random divorce diamond, it’s your parents. i would take it.
Post # 15
@allinoelle: i personally believe in bad luck diamonds. i mean, if a relationship is bound to fail, it will fail, but i wouldn’t feel comfortable wearing a ring that was pawned or a ring from a divorced couple. it’s not worth saving two pennies.
Post # 16
marriages can thrive even with zERO ring. So it doesn’t make sense to me that a stone could affect a relationship.