(Closed) Do you believe in jinxes?!

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Do you believe in jinxes?
    Yes, it can happen! : (5 votes)
    10 %
    No, jinxes are silly! : (25 votes)
    52 %
    Sometimes, it depends : (11 votes)
    23 %
    Other, please explain : (2 votes)
    4 %
    Yes, so I got off the site and got engaged! : (1 votes)
    2 %
    No, so I kept active with WB and got engaged still! : (4 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1784 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I get a little paranoid about jinxing things.  It’s the only superstition that I kind of believe in.  I lurked here for a while, but didn’t actually join until we had talked about a timeline (he wanted to talk to my parents in person before actually getting engaged) and I knew I would definitely be getting engaged in the near future.

    Post # 5
    Member
    3248 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @EmilyJoy:  I sometimes have small worries about jinxes, but usually I don’t let that kind of thing bother me at all. I’m a scientist, and though there’s a lot more to me than that kind of thinking, I tend to reason myself out of it. Plus my SO is an extremely rational person who doesn’t believe in anything like that, and I’ve caught a bit of that from him since I’ve known him.

    I have a friend who used to be very worried about jinxing relationships– she, like you, would never talk about a guy she liked until things looked promising– she wouldn’t ever tell me their names, which drove me crazy and had me a little worried for her. She did get over that, luckily.

    I used to be a lot worse with the jinx worry– but I feel like it’s something I grew out of. I’m not worried about being on Weddingbee jinxing my SO and me getting engaged!

    Post # 7
    Member
    482 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @EmilyJoy:  If you get off the site, the time may go faster and you might think about it less, and that will make it seem like it came faster after you got off the site.

    But as long as you come back then it can’t hurt to try!

    Post # 8
    Member
    3248 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @EmilyJoy:  Haha, thanks for the comment about the progress! 🙂

    I hope it didn’t come across as weird or insulting about me being a science person. . .

    Anyway, I think part of the outgrowing the jinx thing was being forced to spend a lot less time around my friend who was very into that– we went to college together for a while, but we both transferred elsewhere and ended up being far enough apart so that we only see each other once a year or so (and though we did talk on the phone a lot at first, over the years it’s gotten down to once a month or so, even though we still consider ourselves to be very close in a lot of ways). 

    I guess mostly I just decided it was silly, annoying, and superstitious, and might make me seem weird or immature. . . and once I decided to not believe in jinxes anymore, it mostly went away. I think a lot of taking control of worries like that is just consciously deciding to be done with them or not let them get to you. I find that when I need to make a change in the way I think or go about things, forcing myself to do it very intentionally and consciously is the only thing that works– and that is totally not how I work in everyday life. 

    Part of the reason my SO and I have a good, equitable, stable relationship is because at the beginning, I decided that I was going to very consciously take control of things I didn’t like about myself, and also think as rationally and seriously as possible about the relationship, what was going on in it, and what I would accept or not accept as part of it. I’d really screwed up with the 2 guys I dated before, so I forced myself to not repeat the same mistakes. 

    Maybe also part of growing out of it is just age? I was in my early 20’s when I thought about jinxes a lot, and I’m almost 26 now. I don’t know how old you are, though, and maybe that doesn;t apply to everyone since your mom has a thing about jinxes too!

    I guess what it comes down to, for me, is knowing that jinxes don’t exist. Logically and by all apprearances. 

    Bleh I’m blathering on and I’ve got to go and get some of my homework done now. . .

    Post # 10
    Member
    1427 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard

    Nope. I don’t believe in them.

    Post # 11
    Member
    482 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @EmilyJoy:  I actually would vote you should take a break even though I like having you around and you’re right, what if we ALL get engaged while you are away?! You will miss everything! Hehe Also just because you take a break doesn’t mean that all the chatting you have done on here won’t keep you feeling good. There has been a lot of supporting each other and that will stay with you even if you get away for a while.

    I would guess if you decide to “take a month off” from the Bee, you will be back much sooner than that with a proposal story 🙂

    Post # 12
    Member
    9083 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Nope. The whole idea baffles me.

    Post # 14
    Member
    2949 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    No, I was fairly active (well, I still am) on WB and Pinterest and the Fiance and I got engaged earlier this month.

    Post # 15
    Member
    482 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @EmilyJoy:  Good luck! I will miss you!

    Post # 16
    Member
    6359 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Absolutely not, but to be honest, I think being on WB before a proposal is immanent… I mean, “the ring-is-in-the-building” immanent, can harm people and can harm their relationships, and the very people that it would harm the most would be the ones most attached to being on the bee even though they are not that close to a proposal yet (and most adamant that it is not harming them or their relationship). So it is really a catch-22. There is no “bartender” on the bee to tell people they’ve “had enough”. As long as people don’t start a brawl, they can keep “drinking in” the bee. And the bee isn’t known for telling it how it is (that’ll definitely get the bouncer in action), it’s known for rainbows and unicorns, so it’s a sweet, sweet, but dangerous nectar sometimes, JMO.

    I know many waiting bees would disagree, but I say the best way to get to a proposal worth having is to stop worrying about a proposal.

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