Post # 1
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Blushing bee
I have always loved all things baby but it wasn’t until recently that I started looking at things and wanting them…for my hopefully soon someday baby. And then I wonder if it’s just a way of jinxing things?
The weekend before I found out I was pregnant in October (which I miscarried shortly after) I was at Christmas Tree Shop and found two animal picture frames and told myself I couldn’t buy things BEFORE I was pregnant/had a baby but knowing how that place is, there one minute gone the next, I bit the bullet and bought them, plus another cute one and they’re now hidden deep in a closet waiting for if and when a sticky baby is ready to come.
They’re three measley frames but of course after the miscarriage it made me wonder if I was stupid for buying them, stupid for being so ahead of myself and already knowing exactly what I want my baby’s room (and a boy room at that) to look like. Today at Thanksgiving I was checking out my nephews room and noticed all these cute wooden animal cut-outs my sister in law has around his room and immediately my thoughts went to I want them for future baby’s room and was checking the tags on the back trying to figure out where she got them…I didn’t want to ask bc that would open a firing line of questioning. 🙂
It really made me start to think and wonder how many of us are out there buying things before there is even a baby on the way? And what we are all buying? I know/hope I’m not the only one.
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
I bought a few little books YEARS before I was even married, but they were nothing I wouldn’t use when my friends’ children would come to visit. I held off on any specific purchases until I was actually pregnant…seeing as we thought we would have problems getting pregnant, I didn’t want a baby stash making me sad.
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
We have. We have a bumblebee electric riding Camaro, a travel system, and pack and play, as well as clothes and pacis.
However, we were expecting a baby 12/22 that ended in m/c.
We are sad to see it just sitting there now…but our time will come!
Post # 5
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Helper bee
I don’t know that it’s necessarily bad luck but it’s not something that I’ve done or have any intention of doing. I’m of the opinion that baby things should be saved for when there’s actually a baby but that’s just me. If other people want to make premature purchases, that’s their decision. I do think these purchases could come back to haunt them if something were to go wrong, like a miscarriage or infertility. That’s not something that I’d want to put myself through if it could be avoided.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
@Puffthemagicdragon: i agree. not that i think it’s bad luck, just that it might cause more stress than is necessary. for me, though, it’snot something i have to struggle to not do because i don’t really have an interest in baby stuff now. Maybe if/when i getpregnant i’ll be more interested in baby stuff but now the interest and desire’s not there
Post # 7
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Helper bee
I buy childrens book occasionally, if I find a nice hard-cover classif I buy it, write a little note and then it goes onto the bookshelf. Our friends kids are welcome to read them as well though, so it’s not quite like buying onsies and putting them in the back of a drawer I guess.
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
When we were in Paris on our honeymoon, I bought a book and some knicknacks for our future children.
Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
I said yes but b/c we are very actively TTC. I saw this baby jumper with ducks on it, I bought it.
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
I didn’t let myself buy anything until the end of the first tri. I was way too superstitious.
I’m very sorry for your loss 🙁
Post # 11
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Sugar bee
It is really hard to resist but I refuse to buy anything for a baby that doesn’t exist yet. I don’t think it’s superstitious, I just think it’s silly (for me).
Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
Sometimes it’s hard to resist, but I won’t buy anything for a baby until I’m at least a few months pregnant.
Post # 13
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Busy bee
There were the cutest onesies I’ve ever seen (and maybe an outfit or two) that I could not resist because they were on clearance and so cheap. They are in a bin in the attic, as we a) aren’t married yet (6 more months) and b) we won’t start TTC until at least 2 years after the wedding
I admit it was a little silly, but I have bins of boys clothes upstairs from the lady I worked for as a nanny who insisted I take them so it is what it is. I just better have at least one boy lol
I hope it’s not bad luck! I don’t think it is though.
Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
@TheNewlyMrsD: I am sometimes tempted, but I think it might jinx it. I mean logically that is almost impossible.. like what does buying some material goods have to do with carrying a baby to term?
I think though that if you buy things for that specific baby and then you lose the baby, you might always be sad when you see those things since they might remind you of the baby you lost. That would be enough for me to put the brakes on buying stuff.
I think it’s probably wise to buy a few things when you’re close to your due date.. like you need to set up a nursery, have diapers on hand, etc., but buying before you’re even pregnant probably isn’t a good idea.
Post # 15
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Helper bee
I would probably delay it as much as possible, into the 5th or 6th month. I’m a bit superstitious that way too.
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