(Closed) do you call exes back?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Do you call your exes back?
    Yes, they're harmless and we're friends. : (12 votes)
    40 %
    No, they won't stop calling me! : (18 votes)
    60 %
  • Post # 3
    1246 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Well, it’s one thing if they call because you guys are friends, but since you say "they can’t move on," that’s pretty concerning. I would definitely not call them back after making it very clear that you’re not interested in talking to them any more.

    Post # 4
    327 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2018 - Holy Family Catholic Church, reception: National Infantry Museum

    I have ex’s that still email me..which is worse…  and I try really hard to ignore them.  I have one that makes Mr. CC’s skin crawl…

    Post # 5
    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    hell no… they are ex’s for a reason!

    we once bumped into my ex while at the grocery store, hubby is far more politer than i ever can be so while they were talking about something (rebreathers-its scuba related) i walked away while the ex was mid sentence and continued the shopping till hubby caught up a few mins later. 

    Post # 6
    5399 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I don’t ever hear from any exes.  I wouldn’t mind occasionally talking to them because they used to be good friends, but some people just don’t know how to act like adults.

    Post # 7
    677 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    I’ve cut off contact with my exes once they became exes…although my college ex (5 year relationship) emailed me out of the clear blue three weeks ago. I didn’t open it though, just deleted it.

    If your ex won’t go away, can you change your number?

    Post # 8
    184 posts
    Blushing bee

    It depends on the ex. My long term college boyfriend and I still talk all the time. He’s met my FH and I honestly believe that he just wants me to be happy. He’s coming to the wedding!

    Other exes – nope, don’t call them back. Don’t want to fall down that well of hurt. 

    Post # 9
    1019 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    My last serious relationship before Mr. ended on relatively friendly terms. When I moved back to Texas we kept in touch pretty regularly…. until I met Mr. and knew things were headed in a serious direction. We have spoken a couple of times since then, but I do not go out of my way to talk to him. When Mr.Rain came into the picture, all the exes went out of it. It’s the best thing for our relationship.

    Post # 10
    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Um, we broke up for a reason so there’s no contact….why are they calling? I dunno, I’d move on asap.

    Post # 11
    7053 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Since I’m still not formally engaged, I still hear from an ex that I dated who is in cardiology.  I actually used to work for his practice.  Apparently, he’s regretting some of his choices (in the past..like 3.5 years ago) and wishing I’d be a single girl again and available.  Funny how time changes some people.  He’s a great guy, respects my boundaries very much, but every few months calls me to ask if I am engaged as of yet.  He always says, "well if you decide waiting is too much, then give me a call..I’ve changed."  He was never a bad guy.  Great actually, but we were in a different place then and I wasn’t ready to settle down nor was he.  We parted as friends.  We work at different places now so I don’t see him and there’s absolutely NO temptation at all.

    T knows I get these "how are you are you engaged yet? " calls from R. 

    Post # 12
    2695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    My ex-FI and I use to email about the dog we had together and the house.  But the dog passed on 🙁 and I’ve got a new love and Fiance in my life.  So I finally told him the last time that I felt it was time we quit talking out of respect for our SOs.

    He agreeded and that’s been it since.

    Post # 13
    570 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2009

    Yes, I still talk to some, and even invited one to our wedding.  I think that the idea that they’re exes for a reason has merit, but I like to think that we dated for a reason, too. 

    Post # 14
    2562 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I have an ex who seriously can’t move on, it is really annoying.

    We have been apart for 4 years, have been with FH for almost 3 of those. This ex calls ALL THE TIME (I ignore the at least monthly calls and emails, delete the voicemails). The calls used to be almost every day, when 2x a week, then weekly … so at least they are decreasing. My number will be changing soon enough so I won’t have to deal anymore. I blocked his phone number and email at one point in time but he changed his number and email to get around the blocks.

    You can’t have a restraining order unless they threaten violence apparently (I discussed this, and his driving by my house at all hours of the night with the police).

    Once I move it will all be behind me luckily. Luckily FH is pretty even tempered about it all. 

    Post # 15
    2765 posts
    Sugar bee

    I haven’t heard from an ex in years…  if one did call, I’d probably call them back after a week or two.

    Post # 16
    2889 posts
    Sugar bee

    I answered yes before reading about the moving on part. One of my very best friends is an ex and we talk quite often. Fiance has met and likes him and I have met his gf as well. I think it’s more of an issue if the ex is looking for something more htan just frendship but all exes were at one point important to me so I don’t see it as weird to stay friends with a couple.

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