(Closed) Do you call your FI/husband’s aunts and uncles “aunt” and “uncle”?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

I call FI’s aunts and uncles by their first names, because that is what he and his siblings do.  None of them say, “Aunt D” or “Uncle E”  They just say, “I talked to D.” or “E used to work there.”  So, that is what I do.  Now, as far as the grandparents go, I call FI’s grandparents “Meme” and “Pawpaw”.  I just felt rude calling them by their real names.  Even Future Mother-In-Law calls FFIL’s parents “Meme” and “Pawpaw”.  I have only met FMIL’s parents twice (she doesn’t talk to or see them much do to a family disagreement).  But, when Future Mother-In-Law refers to her parents in conversation with me she says, “Mawmaw” and “Pawpaw”.  Kind of insinuating that I should also call them those names.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper

I call them by their first names, but if I’m writing a card that is from both of us, like a thank-you card, I’ll use “Aunt ___” and “Uncle ___” for simplicity’s sake.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I do…. but only because our kids do as does the rest of the family. I think it would be more weird if I didn’t.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I call everyone by their first name. Including my Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law, his aunts, uncles, whatever.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Same. No one in his family is “aunt ____” or “uncle ____” Everyone just goes by their first names. He has great aunts and uncles who occasionally get “aunt” or “uncle” put in front of their name but not very often. I call his grandma “Grandma Connie” and I just call his grandpa “Grandpa.” It’s the opposite in my family though. I have an Aunt Cyndi, Aunt Debbie, etc. and he calls them that because that’s what we call them. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

@kperry3: Ditto!   Unless I am addressing a card or something from the both of us then Ill put Aunt and Uncle since its from their nephew as well. 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

I haven’t  met his yet but he calls them by their first names, I think. In our family we always said ‘tia’ and ‘tio’ (aunt and uncle in spanish) No names because it’s considered disrespectful in my family. So not sure how comfortable I’ll be using names when I meet them, its very weird for me. I always said ‘tio and tia’. Grandma was ‘lita’. My nieces call me ‘tia’ (LOVE hearing it 🙂  ) Only people called by their names are siblings, cousins, and son/daughters. And if cousins are older … like I am 22 and my little cousins are 12 and under, they call me tia. I do the same to my older cousins as well. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t even call my own aunts and uncles “Aunt_” or “Uncle _,” so I don’t call his that either. Luckily, he calls them by their first name, as well. 

 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have never even met most of my FI’s aunts/uncles yet, but I will be meeting them for the first time at our shower in a few days. I just refer to his closest aunt that I’ve met by her first name cuz I don’t feel particularly close to her since I’ve only seen her a few times.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I always call them by their titles. It’s more respectful, I think. I even call his parents Mom and Dad.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Seems I do that with teh older generation..his 80 year old is “Aunt Claire,” Grandma is Grandma, but the younger aunts/uncles/cousins are just first names.

Although we both call his dad Uncle but that is an inside joke.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

@Kant: I say Aunt and Uncle so and so. I call his grandma, grandmama so and so. etc. For me it is a matter of respect I guess.

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

They are not MY aunts and uncles- so why would i?  Then again, I call my own aunts and uncles by their first names only since I’ve been an adult.  At this point in life they are much more my friends than my parent’s sbilings.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I call them by their first names, but so does Darling Husband and his siblings.  The only people I call by a title are his grandmas.  I also call my aunts and uncles by their first names, and so does Darling Husband.

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