(Closed) Do you call your in-laws (or future in-laws) mom and dad?

posted 4 years ago in Family
  • poll: Do you call your (future) in-laws mom and dad?
    Yes, and I'm comfortable with it : (12 votes)
    10 %
    No, I call them by their first names : (91 votes)
    78 %
    Other - Feel free to explain : (13 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 16
    11455 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    ladyvictoria:  When we were dating and engaged, I called them by their first names. After the wedding, I immediately switched to calling them “Mom and Dad.” Darling Husband, who had been married previously and had already called his first set of in-laws that, also immediately began calling my parents Mom and Dad. All of the parents love the fact that we do this.

    Once you begin doing it, it will get much easier.


    Post # 17
    769 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: Saint Domingue

    I call them mom and dad.  

    Post # 18
    39 posts
    • Wedding: December 2014

    DH’s parents are both deceased and I never had the opportunity to meet them. Darling Husband calls my parents by their first names.

    Post # 19
    998 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015 - City Hall!

    Yes I do call them mom and dad. But I also don’t have a relationship with my mother or father. I only have a relationship with my grandmothers. 

    Post # 20
    2595 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    No, I’ll never call them as though they’re my parents. I already have parents and I don’t need anymore!

    Post # 21
    6395 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

    I call them by their first names.

    Post # 22
    180 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    I call them by their first names. I believe they sign cards to me and stuff as Mom and Dad. I already have two parents. For my IL’s in particular I think it is also good for them to be reminded that I have a family outside of theirs, and not calling them Mom and Dad is a good way to establish that.

    Post # 23
    902 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I gave this a lot of thought at one point and you know, I only have one mum and dad.  While I love and am close with my in-laws, I call them by their first names as mom and dad just seems too odd to me.

    However, when I address them on a card or gift from both of us, I do refer to them as Mom and Dad being that they are DH’s, I don’t think that’s weird at all.


    Post # 24
    320 posts
    Helper bee

    Nope. First names.

    Post # 25
    1709 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2016 - Garden

    Even before I was engaged to my Fiance his parents already started calling me daughter. I’m like…okay haha so they pretty much know im marrying their son. Yippee!! 😀 

    They told me to call them mom and dad all the time. And now that I’m engaged its mandatory for me to say it. No backing down once you start calling them that now. :)~ eveyr time I’m on the phone when my Fiance is around he’ll look at me and laugh when I call his mom by her first name and correct me saying “you mean mom?” I’m like oh right mom…

    And when his parents came by to meet me the first time it was very awkward! I was like uh hey **** and ***, so how’s your day? Oh I mean dad and mom. On the phone it flows nicely but in person? Haha I was having a hard time. Not registering yet. It’ll get better when you’re finally married :)) 

    Post # 26
    435 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    My parents are the only people I will ever call “Mom” and “Dad”. As much as I love FI’s parents, they are not my mom and dad, and I simply will not refer to them as such.

    Post # 27
    1521 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    We’re a bit different because of culture. I’m Caucasian, and my husband is Chinese. It would be very disrespectful to my in-laws if I were to call them by their first names, so I call them Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law in Mandarin. 

    My husband, on the other hand, has debated about what to call my parents. My parents are fine with him calling them by their first names or Mom and Dad. Mr. and Mrs. Last Name is too formal and distant for family! Because my husband doesn’t feel comfortable calling them by their first names (he feels it’s disrespectful), he calls them Mom and Dad. It’s taken him a bit to get used to, but is getting more comfortable with it.

    Post # 28
    13578 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Not a chance in hell.  I have kind and loving parents, and his parents are rude and unwelcoming to me.  All of our cards to them have their names and a slash with Darling Husband writing “mom and dad.” 

    Post # 29
    174 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Very rarely I’ll call Father-In-Law Dad. Mostly it’s Steve, unless I’m tipsy and feeling affectionate lol. Mother-In-Law is always Linda. 

    Post # 30
    5155 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    ladyvictoria:  I don’t. Honestly, I try not to call them anything! If it’s a gift or card from us, I will write “mom and dad” on the inside, but will always sign “from husband and I” on the bottom. They wrote “Mom and Dad LastName” on all the Christmas gifts to me – which I am fine with.

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