Post # 31
- Wedding: April 29th, 2016
weatherbug: I think this is what I’ll continue to do… My stepmom was good practice! lol The more I read these posts, the more I feel justified in being uncomfortable with the whole thing simply because they’re not my parents, even though I do adore them and they treat me so well.
JiminyCricket: I’m sorry your in-laws aren’t the best to you. If mine weren’t so great to me, I’d have no problem declining to call them mom and dad.
Keroppi: I can see how the cultural difference makes it a little different. I’m African American and Fiance and his family are Italian American. But no one speaks Italian (except me, ironically) so it would be weird if I tried to use Italian terms to refer to them.
CanadaMoose: That’s exactly how I’m feeling about this!
princessbee1991: I honestly don’t even think my Fiance would correct me since he calls them by their first names most of the time! lol Calling them mom and dad would definitely take some getting used to though.
Post # 32
I address them by their first names. I’ve considered calling Mother-In-Law “mom” but I just can’t get comfortable with it. Darling Husband calls my parents mom and dad.
Post # 33
- Wedding: March 2016 - Sand Key Park- Clearwater Beach Elopement
I do call my in-laws “mom” and “dad”. I’m very comfortable with it, and so are they. Even their younger friends call them “mom” and “dad”. They consider me their daughter, not just a daughter in law or their son’s fiance, and it just comes naturally to us. I can’t call them by their names, it’s just too stuffy, formal, and uncomfortable for me.
Post # 34
I call my future in laws by their first names, occasionally mom and dad. After my fiance and I get married, I’ll probably call them mom and dad. We call my parents mum and baba so at least it’s kind of different. I think it depends on what is normal for you and your in laws families’.
Post # 35
I hope to get to the point where I can call my in laws by mom and dad, but I’m not comfortable with it yet.
Post # 36
I just ran into this today when writing my thank you notes! I went back and forth a hundred times whether to say Mrs. X or “Firstname.” She has said to call her whatever I feel comfortable with, but they are very formal. I’ve called her Mrs. X for the last 2.5 years, so I finally decided on Mrs. X on the envelope and “Firstname” in the card. GAHHH I was soo stressed over it!
Post # 37
Darling Husband and I have been married for months now, and I still can’t decide. I think they are special people, but I think they are in a different category from “mom and dad.” They have said I can call them whatever I feel comfortable with, but they sign their emails to me with their first names.