(Closed) Do you CARE about what gifts you get at your wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Do you care about what gifts you get at your wedding?
    No. My guests can get me whatever they want, even if it's NOT in our registry. : (25 votes)
    37 %
    Yes. We prefer cash, or that they stick to our registry. : (43 votes)
    63 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    175 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    We do not live together and have totally different tastes – he loves modern/contemporary and hates my casual comfy style almost as much as I hate his style…..j/k (well, maybe not). So we are going to have to find a happy medium – will register for stuff that both of us can live with.

    But, cash is always good!

    Post # 4
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    1490 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    As someone who didn’t receive many gifts at all, I really just wanted cards. I wanted our wedding to be acknowledged – and it just wasn’t. Gifts? I would have been happy with anything or nothing – just please, please a card…

    I’m still a little upset, obviously 🙂

    Post # 5
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    873 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    We absolutely must get cash.  We’re traveling across continents on a plane to a place with different plugs, different voltage, different bed sizes, and different stores …we cannot get any gifts because we can’t bring them back home. 

    Post # 6
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    2280 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    The nice thing about marrying someone eight years older is that they have all the home necessities. And I already have a full set of bedroom furniture, dishes, towels, blankets, cleaning supplies, hundreds of books…so aside from some big ticket items (sewing machine, new vacuum, KitchenAid mixer), I don’t care if they bring a card, cash, or gift!

    Post # 7
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    1426 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I would never say it, but I would be a little disappointed if people got us stuff that wasn’t on the registry/cash.  I’m sure some gifts like that would be very nice, but I’m afraid most of them would not be to our style or taste.  Then we would end up boxing them up somewhere or giving them away, and I would feel guilty that someone spent money on us and we weren’t using the item.  If they really did get us something we loved then that would be fine, but honestly I would rather someone give us a card and their well-wishes than give us something that we didn’t like and would have to feel guilty about, stash away in a closet, and pull out once a year when whoever it was comes to visit or something.

    Post # 8
    Hostess
    18644 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Most people did get us things off the registry or cash which was what we were hoping for.  We had a house before we got married so we only needed specific things and didn’t need all the normal things that people register for.

    Post # 9
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    1757 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    For us, registering took forever and was exhausting. Therefore, I’d somewhat prefer that people stick to getting the stuff we’ve asked for. However, I know that one of my friends has a tradition of giving the couple a really fancy framed copy of their invitation, with stained glass around the edges, incorporating their wedding colors, and I’m looking forward to seeing what she comes up with for us. Basically, I would love to get either registry gifts/cash, or personalized handmade items.

    Post # 10
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    4382 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

    I think that most of us care to some extent, that’s why we registered. 🙂 I also think it helps the guests, tbh. (Well, not if they’re all super super expensive, but if they’re at all price-points, yeah).

    Post # 11
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    4385 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I really hope people just buy off the registry. We already live together and will be moving into our new house (currently in an apartment) over a year before our wedding. We already have most things we need, so will be registering for upgraded stuff or fun stuff. I really don’t want to get things we already have or things we do not need or like.

    That being said I know it will likely happen, and it won’t be the end of the world. I mostly just want people to show up since most of them will have to travel!

    Post # 12
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    2054 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Im hoping that most give us gifts off of the registry. My family is very traditional and Im actually foreign and giving cash in my culture isnt an option…it is considered rude! If people get me stuff that arent on the registry I will be fine with that…

    Post # 13
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    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    i think it depends. if it’s an awesome gift off of the registry, then i’ll be excited about it. if not, then not so much. i want gifts from my registry, that’s why i registered for them, i need them. and of course, i also wouldn’t mind cash. i need that too!

    Post # 14
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    4567 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We’ll need really stupid basics like a full set of every day dishes, silverware, and glasses, but honestly, it would be SO much easier for everyone to get us gift cards. We’ll be moving right after the wedding (like, the week after…) and to have to move all that extra stuff would be a pain. We’re luck to have alot of people love us, but man…

    Post # 15
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    404 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I didn’t mind getting gifts that were not on our registry, however I did return some of them.  For example, someone bought us a set of pans that we didn’t register for, because we didn’t need them.  I just wish that if guests are going to buy off registry, they would look to see what you DID register for so they don’t buy something you obv don’t need.  I was greatful for their sentiment though, that at least they got us something, you know?  With the wedding gifts, it really was the thought that counts. 

    Cheerful: I am right there w/you about the cards though.  So many ppl showed up to our wedding & didn’t even give us a card, and that kind of hurt my feelings.  It was like they didn’t even think enough of us to go to Walgreens and get a card or something. 

    Post # 16
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    548 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    Most of our gifts were registry gifts, which is what we were hoping for… we would have been fine with good friends going off-registry, since they know our tastes, lifestyle, preferences, etc. As it turned out, they *knew* we’d registered for things we wanted and needed, and that’s what they gave us. Lots of parents’ friends, distant relatives, etc. went off-registry, and while the things they chose were lovely, there just isn’t space for a lot of the big serving pieces, vases, etc. in our tiny Manhattan apartment… Undecided

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