(Closed) Do you care if your guests wear black to your wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do you care if your guests wear black?

    Yes but I would not say anything

    Yes and I will tell them

    No - I am requesting that they wear black

    No I couldn't care less

    Maybe - explanation below

  • Post # 20
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    i don’t care if they wear black becasue on a daily basis i dress in all black. Whatever they are comfortable to party in i’m fine with ^_^

    I heard someone say your not suppose to wear red becasue it pulls attention away from the bride, but i havn’t heard that your not suppose to wear black o_o. i can see how it would be kind of out of place at a garden party though.

    Post # 20
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    8878 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I don’t care ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 21
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    1375 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My bridesmaids are wearing little black cocktail dresses of their choice, so clearly I don’t mind.  But even if they were in a different color, I really wouldn’t mind my guests wearing black,  Its not like they are trying to overtly disapprove of my wedding.  If they were, I hope they would show their discontent in a less passive-aggressive manner.

    Post # 22
    Hostess
    11161 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    I honestly don’t mind black at weddings and I am glad that people are starting to embrace it more for all events.

    I would mind women wearing all white, that to me is a no-no.

    Post # 23
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    2363 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    No, in NYC it’s very common to wear black to weddings.  I have felt underdressed at times wearing color!

    Post # 24
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    5089 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Ha, both my mom and one of my best friends wore all black to my wedding. It didn’t bother me in the slightest; hell, my mom actually wore black to her OWN wedding when she married my stepdad. (It had some colored accents and didn’t look like a funeral or anything!) I think it’s just a classy dress-up color.

    One of my fave pics of me and my mom:

    Post # 25
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    7898 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    Just a brief comment: “I could care less” means you care. It’s “I couldn’t care less.”

    I prefer that people don’t wear black, but it’s not that big of a deal.

    Post # 26
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    1621 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

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    @mrsSonthebeach:  haha that is actually a pet peeve of mine as well ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 26
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    768 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    No not at all. I tried to convince both my mom and my Future Mother-In-Law to wear black, but both didn’t want to appear to be sad. So no black for either of them.

    Post # 28
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    642 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Nope, I really wouldn’t care. My BM’s are going to be in black, so as long as my guests don’t show up in the same dress I couldn’t care less. 

    Post # 29
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    699 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I wouldn’t be offended but I do think it would look out of place considering we’re having an outdoor lunchtime reception in SoCal. Having said that, I was trying to convince my mother the other day that if she couldn’t find anything else, she could wear a black skirt with the blue jacket she’s wearing, and she would have none of it. “I am not wearing black to your wedding!” Um, OK Mom. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 30
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

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    @Frog E.:  Hah!  My mom said the same thing.  ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 31
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Apparently, I missed an important memo somewhere.  I was never under the impression that it was unacceptable to wear black to a wedding.

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