(Closed) Do you care if your guests wear black to your wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do you care if your guests wear black?

    Yes but I would not say anything

    Yes and I will tell them

    No - I am requesting that they wear black

    No I couldn't care less

    Maybe - explanation below

  • Post # 33
    2135 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I wouldn’t care if people wore black! As long as they are not wearing white, I’m all good.

    Post # 34
    7766 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    ?  I love black.  I think it looks great on people, so I wouldn’t mind 🙂  I would be glad because they would look nice.

    Post # 35
    260 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I would rather they wear black than wear white 🙂

    Post # 36
    47423 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Black used to be a faux pas but I don’t think it is any longer.

    Post # 37
    2849 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I have no problem with black. It is a sophisticated and classic color that most people look good in.

    Post # 38
    331 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    More and more modern dresses are made in black… and look nice.  I have never worn all black to a wedding, but I have worn black and white —I think that is fine.

    Anyone have an issue with black and white pattern dresses –like the dresses from White House Black Market??

    Post # 39
    1632 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I get that wearing black to a wedding was traditionally viewed as an expression of disapproval, but I think it’s one of those rules that has really changed, and it would be very easy to determine whether someone is wearing black as a negative statement or whether they’re just wearing it because it’s accepted formal wear.  If someone’s been dramatic in her criticisms of your wedding and she shows up wearing a black shroud with a veil, it’s probably safe to assume a judgmental statement is being made.  If someone shows up in a black cocktail dress for an evening event, the only statement being made is of the fashion variety.  None of the other guests are going to look at someone wearing a tasteful LBD and think she’s protesting the event.  I’ve worn plenty of black to weddings before.  It may be a little weird wearing it to an afternoon wedding as opposed to an evening wedding, but for some people it may just be what’s in their comfort zone, particularly if it is still a semi-formal event.

    Post # 40
    1826 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    No, why would I?   My mom wore black to my sister’s wedding, as did the MOG and it looked beautiful (funny enough, they actually ended up picking out the exact same dress and never realised it until 30 minutes before the ceremony when they ran into each other – it was hilarious!)   I have never given a second thought to anyone wearing black and in fact, I’ve worn black to several weddings. 

    Black looks good on everyone and whilst I know some people think it looks like mourning – there is a big difference between a black mourning dress and a black cocktail or evening dress.  IMO, it’s not very hard to differentiate between the two.  

    Post # 41
    7691 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I didn’t care that people wore black dresses, but at the same time I didn’t care that there were a few people who wore white dresses. I honestly didn’t even notice what people were wearing until I got our photos back! 

    Post # 42
    1850 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I would rather people wear something that they are comfortable and feel beautiful in  than worry about the color. Black would not be my first choice to wear to a wedding, but it wouldn’t phase me unless a majority of people were wearing it

    Post # 43
    5667 posts
    Bee Keeper

    No, not at all. My typical wedding wear is a LBD.

    ETA: My Maid/Matron of Honor (only BM) will probably be in a LBD.

    Post # 44
    893 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @unixfairy:  For the ceremony, I would mind it but for the reception, I don’t mind.  We’re having a Hindu ceremony and I was told that you’re not allowed to wear black.

    Post # 45
    1304 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I feel most comfortable in black, so I would be okay if someone wore black to my wedding.

    Post # 46
    2104 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I hope lots of people wear black! It will make my dress pop even more!

    In my opinion, a black dress is only a problem in these circumstances:

    1. A daytime wedding 

    2. Low cut, strapless, or ends at the lower ass.  

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