(Closed) Do you care if your guests wear black to your wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do you care if your guests wear black?

    Yes but I would not say anything

    Yes and I will tell them

    No - I am requesting that they wear black

    No I couldn't care less

    Maybe - explanation below

  • Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    nah, because usually the black dress is fancy and accessorized with colorful shoes or something.  As long as it doesn’t look like a mourner’s outfit and they don’t drape a black veil over their faces I’m okay 

    Post # 14
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    1370 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Not in the least. It would fit our color scheme perfectly if the guests wore black! White might upset me though. My Fiance and I are both wearing white.

    Post # 14
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    1064 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I don’t care if they wear black, I DO care if my mother wears black, and I got called a bridezilla (by a bridal shop worker) for saying that. 

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I didn’t care one bit what people wore.  I had plenty ask me, and I just told them to wear something they liked and would be happy to see themselves wearing in pictures.

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

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    @TopazWedding:  I can’t believe they would say that to you!

    On the other hand, my mom is wearing black and cream to my wedding, haha!

    Post # 17
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 1999

    No. Our bridesmaids wore black and so did my step mom. Unless they were the hat with the veil over their face like they are mourning, then I don’t care at all.

    Post # 18
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Most people wore black to ours, I think! All of the bridesmaids were in mismatched LBD’s, and several guests wore black dresses/skirts, etc. Both of our moms wore black pants suits with silver accents. My grandma wore a black dress too.

     It was New Year’s Eve, after all 🙂

    My mom said to me, “But if your BM’s wear black dresses, how will your guests know who they are if other people wear black?”

    My response was, “Uh, because they’re standing next to me and sitting at the head table?!”

    Grandma was also afraid of “looking like a bridesmaid.” I was like, “No offense intended grandma, but no one is going to think you’re a bridesmaid.” Hahahaha.

    Moral of story: I didn’t care. AT ALL.

    Post # 19
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    No but white/ivory/cream and some shades of champagne would bother me. I would say something if they asked in advance, but not day of.

    Post # 20
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    i don’t care if they wear black becasue on a daily basis i dress in all black. Whatever they are comfortable to party in i’m fine with ^_^

    I heard someone say your not suppose to wear red becasue it pulls attention away from the bride, but i havn’t heard that your not suppose to wear black o_o. i can see how it would be kind of out of place at a garden party though.

    Post # 20
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    8880 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I don’t care 🙂

    Post # 21
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My bridesmaids are wearing little black cocktail dresses of their choice, so clearly I don’t mind.  But even if they were in a different color, I really wouldn’t mind my guests wearing black,  Its not like they are trying to overtly disapprove of my wedding.  If they were, I hope they would show their discontent in a less passive-aggressive manner.

    Post # 22
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    11164 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    I honestly don’t mind black at weddings and I am glad that people are starting to embrace it more for all events.

    I would mind women wearing all white, that to me is a no-no.

    Post # 23
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    No, in NYC it’s very common to wear black to weddings.  I have felt underdressed at times wearing color!

    Post # 24
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Ha, both my mom and one of my best friends wore all black to my wedding. It didn’t bother me in the slightest; hell, my mom actually wore black to her OWN wedding when she married my stepdad. (It had some colored accents and didn’t look like a funeral or anything!) I think it’s just a classy dress-up color.

    One of my fave pics of me and my mom:

    Post # 25
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    Just a brief comment: “I could care less” means you care. It’s “I couldn’t care less.”

    I prefer that people don’t wear black, but it’s not that big of a deal.

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