(Closed) Do you care if your guests wear black to your wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do you care if your guests wear black?

    Yes but I would not say anything

    Yes and I will tell them

    No - I am requesting that they wear black

    No I couldn't care less

    Maybe - explanation below

  • Post # 26
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

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    @mrsSonthebeach:  haha that is actually a pet peeve of mine as well πŸ™‚

    Post # 26
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    No not at all. I tried to convince both my mom and my Future Mother-In-Law to wear black, but both didn’t want to appear to be sad. So no black for either of them.

    Post # 28
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Nope, I really wouldn’t care. My BM’s are going to be in black, so as long as my guests don’t show up in the same dress I couldn’t care less. 

    Post # 29
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I wouldn’t be offended but I do think it would look out of place considering we’re having an outdoor lunchtime reception in SoCal. Having said that, I was trying to convince my mother the other day that if she couldn’t find anything else, she could wear a black skirt with the blue jacket she’s wearing, and she would have none of it. “I am not wearing black to your wedding!” Um, OK Mom. πŸ™‚

    Post # 30
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

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    @Frog E.:  Hah!  My mom said the same thing.  πŸ™‚

    Post # 31
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Apparently, I missed an important memo somewhere.  I was never under the impression that it was unacceptable to wear black to a wedding.

    Post # 33
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I wouldn’t care if people wore black! As long as they are not wearing white, I’m all good.

    Post # 34
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    ?  I love black.  I think it looks great on people, so I wouldn’t mind πŸ™‚  I would be glad because they would look nice.

    Post # 35
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I would rather they wear black than wear white πŸ™‚

    Post # 36
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Black used to be a faux pas but I don’t think it is any longer.

    Post # 37
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I have no problem with black. It is a sophisticated and classic color that most people look good in.

    Post # 38
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    More and more modern dresses are made in black… and look nice.  I have never worn all black to a wedding, but I have worn black and white —I think that is fine.

    Anyone have an issue with black and white pattern dresses –like the dresses from White House Black Market??

    Post # 39
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I get that wearing black to a wedding was traditionally viewed as an expression of disapproval, but I think it’s one of those rules that has really changed, and it would be very easy to determine whether someone is wearing black as a negative statement or whether they’re just wearing it because it’s accepted formal wear.  If someone’s been dramatic in her criticisms of your wedding and she shows up wearing a black shroud with a veil, it’s probably safe to assume a judgmental statement is being made.  If someone shows up in a black cocktail dress for an evening event, the only statement being made is of the fashion variety.  None of the other guests are going to look at someone wearing a tasteful LBD and think she’s protesting the event.  I’ve worn plenty of black to weddings before.  It may be a little weird wearing it to an afternoon wedding as opposed to an evening wedding, but for some people it may just be what’s in their comfort zone, particularly if it is still a semi-formal event.

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