(Closed) Do you care if your ring has a real diamond?

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
Post # 62
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

To answer the original question: I got a real diamond and that’s what I wanted.

My personal rankings of desire would be: 1st choice, diamond; 2nd choice, gemstone; 3rd choice, CZ/moissanite.

Post # 63
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Edina: you make total sense.

PS. LOVE AbFab!

Post # 64
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

we had a set amount of money for the engagement ring (2 Gs), and I picked out a near-perfect half-carat from blue nile as opposed to a larger colored stone or lower-grade diamond and I have no regrets.  We are the first couple in our families to be able to afford a separate engagement ring and wanted something of heirloom-quality, rather than something flashy just for the sake of showing off.  I hope to pass it on to my children and then grandchildren … for some reason we couldn’t imagine doing that with a CZ.  As graduate students, we were able to save up money by Fiance moving in with me and my then-roommate for 2 months to save on rent; it was worth for us to begin a family tradition.  

To each their own, although I agree with some of the PPs that ask why go for a clear stone if you don’t like diamonds?

Post # 65
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

hell yes i care.

i would never consider a FAKE and pass it off as real.

Post # 66
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Sugar bee

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@Miss Leopard:  Thank you!  Some of these ladies do other “fake things” (tanning, hair coloring, etc) and then complain when someone wears a CZ or moissanite ring.

I have a CZ.  I don’t go around telling strangers that I have one, like “hi, my name is _______ and my ring is a CZ.”  However, pretty much all of my friends and family members are aware that I have a CZ.  It’s very pretty.  It captures and refracts light beautifully.  It was cheap.  I’ve had complements and most of the time, I let them know it is NOT a diamond.

My fiance and I have a strict budget, fun spending really doesn’t exist.  I told him to purchase a CZ and I picked it out.  It’s a 0.75 solitaire stone set in sterling silver.  He has always said on a major anniversary or holiday, he will “surprise” me with a new ring.  It will not be a diamond and I have made this perfectly clear.  After I received my CZ and joined WB, I noticed alternative stones.  I fell back in love with Aquamarine.  An aunt of mine has a right hand aquamarine anniversary ring, and I always used to be fascinated with it as a child but I never considered it to be “appropriate” for a wedding ring until WB.  My attitude changed when I saw all these lovely rings with different stones in unique settings that, in my opinion, looked better than the diamond rings.  I have given Fiance some ideas and he’ll more than likely pick one of them but I will be surprised with whatever choice he makes.  For now, we’re buying unique wedding bands that match and I’ll stop wearing my CZ (I’ll have it placed in a pendant on a necklace to wear).

I applaud you OP for your conscious and in my opinion, better decision.  Some people don’t think about what type of ring b/c it’s automatically assumed it should be a diamond.  I love uniqueness/exclusivity and that’s usually what’s prized in society, however it seems that diamonds are way more pervasive and ingrained in us than most people believe.

My advice, find something you love, thoroughly researched and be prepared to stand up for what you have.  I’m glad I started off with a CZ or else I wouldn’t have considered an alternative gemstone.

EDIT:  My question for the bees who prefer diamonds:  why is it that you prefer it?  Is it it’s exclusivity?

Post # 67
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I wanted a real diamond and that’s what I got.  DH and I are fairly comfortable financially, so there was no reason not to get one.  Also, it’s something I’ll wear forever, so I didn’t want just any old ring. 

 

Post # 68
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Personally I wanted a diamond. I like the sparkliness, and the fact that its a diamond. Call me shallow if you’d like. I honestly can’t pinpoint what it is that I like about having a diamond besides the fact that I like it and I want it.

 If you know what you like and you know what you want then get it. YOU are the one wearing it. I honestly could give two shits if Lucy from Accounting or Mary from HR are wearing fakes. Nobody cares!!!! they might comment on it but you brush it off and ignore them. I just don’t understand why you want to lie to people and tell them that a CZ is a diamond. I have highlighted hair and that’s as fake as I get, I HIGHLY doubt that anybody thinks that my caramel blonde highlights are my natural hair color. I’m not trying to fool anybody. If you want to wear a CZ, then own it and be proud of it, don’t be ashamed that someone will find you out .

Post # 69
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Sugar bee

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@MyraG:  I agree, if you have a CZ then be comfortable with it.  You don’t have to be like “hey, my ring is a CZ.” But if someone complements you on it, a good response would be “Thank you, it’s actually a cubic zirconia and I love it!”

Post # 70
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

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@Loulee:that’s really harsh. If someone can afford a bigger diamond it doesn’t make them a bad person. Its life, somebody will always have it bigger and better and as adults we should be pretty aware of this. FI’s mom has a family heirloom ring that’s 4 carats flawless diamond and she is the nicest woman ever and her feet are firmly planted on the ground. So…yeah I disagree that people with big rings have no concept of the real world. That’s really short sighted.

Post # 71
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

@beekiss2: I really wanted something super sparkly, and a perfectly-cut diamond is the sparkliest that you can get.  My girlfriends and I actually bought some diamonique rings from QVC in college that we wore to bars so we wouldnt get harassed by sleazy guys (not like it worked, ha!), and honestly I can see a big difference between a diamond and a CZ.  To each their own though … I remember when we were rockin those 3-carat CZs there were some drunko girls at the bars that were totally drooling over them, it was kinda nice!

Post # 72
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Sugar bee

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@peanutlovespumpkin:  In comparison to some of my family members diamond rings, my ring sparkles more (I am by no means a professional gemnologist!).  I assume you have a near perfect (nearly colorless and perfectly cut) diamond?

Post # 73
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

@beekiss2: yup 🙂 E color, VVS1, signature ideal cut from blue nile.  It took like 24/7 internet stalking (and a coupon from the site) to find one within our budget.  Our situation was a bit different that the traditional … we got engaged and then purchased the ring together, and really talked about what the ring represented, what it was about; I would honestly have preferred an heirloom ring, of any stone, but no women in our family had anything that would fit the bill so we decided to start our own.

Post # 74
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’ve actually asked my boyfriend to get me CZ.  I like the look of a diamond, but there’s no way he could afford something as sparkly as I’d like.  Plus, no one’s ever been killed over CZ before.  He wanted to do something else, maybe a colored gem, but I told him that I like the idea of diamonds, even if I don’t care for the real thing.  It’s the best choice for us, really.

Post # 75
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I understand ur reasoning and respect it-but honestly i WOULD BE OFFENDED if my fiance’ gave me fake diamonds and to be honest he would never do that even if I told him to because I am worth way more than thay(not saying your not worth that) it is just the dymanics of our relationship, he treats me like a queen and I treat him like a king nothing but the best for us because we deserve it.

Post # 76
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

My BF doesn’t like diamonds because of the conflict thing, but said he wanted to get me one, and I had to fight him for CZ.  As long as I look and feel like a queen and he looks and feels like a king, we figure it’s good enough, and we don’t need to really be that way.  🙂

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