(Closed) Do you care if your ring has a real diamond?

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Post # 122
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would not be happy with anything of poor quality.  This includes fake diamonds or rings passing themselves off as diamonds.  I’ve never seen a cz that looks like a real diamond, but that’s just me.  In fact, when I told my husband what kind of ring I wanted, I told him that the most important thing to me is the quality.  He did exactly what I wanted and its brilliance is amazing!

If he couldn’t afford a real diamond and one that was excellent quality, then I would have preferred a gemstone, but I would want one that was excellent quality. 

Post # 123
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Favorite stone of mine – tsavorite, a type of garnet.  Bright green, diamond-quality sparkle, and a small fraction of the cost.  I also have a diamond ring from my great-grandmother – if he wants to use a diamond, he should cannibalize that.  Really, as long as the band is some metal like silver or gold, I’m good.  

Post # 124
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2021

For me, I wanted a real diamond and we could afford it.  I don’t like colored stones because I’m compulsively matchy-matchy, so I rarely wear them.  On the topic of a “fake” clear stone, I think I’d rather have a plain band – I’ve always worn real stones or no stones, it’s just my style.  In the same vein, I’ll buy a fabric handbag before I’ll buy fake leather. 

To each their own – I certainly wouldn’t judge someone else’s personal choice – diamond, sapphire, CZ, big, small, in-between – it’s all about personal preference. 

Post # 125
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Whether it be tradition, or Debeers, or just what the general population has molded into peoples mind as what an engagement ring ‘should’ be, I wanted a diamond.  I’ve always loved the sparkle that it has… I know i know, Moisonite is said to have more fire than a diamond, damit debeers!  Fiance said it actually crossed his mind to look at Moisonite, but didn’t think I’d like that.  At the end of the day he picked out a diamond with all the specs I wanted over the Moisonite… we’re not in debt for it, we still have money for our house and everything else we need and I love my diamond ring!  Though, I don’t know what my stance would be if we were in a different fiancial situation where we couldn’t afford what I really wanted.  I’m sure I would have been more open to other options.

Post # 126
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I am against diamonds for various reasons. I hate the diamond industry with a passion. I would prefer a moissanite. I don’t think of moissanite as being a “fake diamond”, it’s just a moissanite (that is like saying a sapphire is a fake blue diamond). I wouldn’t want color stones only because a white stone matches with everything. Also many colored gems are considered “soft” and won’t hold up to the stress a diamond or moissanite will. Also, moissanites are gorgeous in person, especially the “enhanced” ones.

Post # 127
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I wanted a diamond and I’m going to be getting a diamond. We saved for an engagement ring and it meant a lot to me that we could save the money for something that mattered to both of us. If our finances had been different, or if we were at a different point in our lives (we are late 20s/early 30s and have both been on our own for a long time) than I would have considered a gem stone or something else. The ring isn’t nearly as important as being with the man I love, but I’m so excited to get the ring of my dreams from him and be able to wear it for the rest of my life and pass down to my children some day.

 

Post # 128
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

 

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@TheFutureMcBride: I understand some people can’t take a joke and don’t see sarcasm in writing, hence why I wrote lol. I kid after the sentence. I was trying to bring light to this board that had their panties in a wad.

Post # 129
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@flutterbi:

 

Is it common that couples save together for an engagement ring?

 

I don’t think I would be happy with a CZ, I’d rather have a non-diamond gemstone instead. Regardless, I’m not in a place in my life where I couldn’t afford a relatively cheap GIA stone, so it would feel odd getting a CZ.

Post # 130
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Bumble bee

@deathbydesign Totally! Moissanite isn’t a fake diamond, it’s a natural property that exists 100% on it’s own.

I also think it’s funny that when a girl who is anti-diamond expresses her views it’s not really acceptable, but when someone calls someone with a CZ or a Moissanite “cheap” or “fake” or “tacky” it’s totally okay.

Post # 131
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678 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I do think it’s a matter of preference and wouldn’t down anyone for their choice.  However, to make a diamond the sole symbol of the committment that an engagement ring stands for is not “me”.  I did want a diamond when I was younger (I’m 29); however, the more I learned about the diamond market/trade and the marketing behind it’s prominence it has lost much, if not all, of its “luster” to me.  I prefer moissanite over a diamond and because it gives a traditional look (and it sparkles MORE), but I love rubies-so I’d like a ring that combines both.  I’ve given my SO my preferences and told him my reasoning, but what he ultimately chooses for my e-ring is up to him.   

 

 

Post # 132
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610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I enjoy reading about advertising campaigns, and the DeBeer’s “A diamond is fovever” campaign has been declared the most successful campaign in advertising history (Advertising Age Mag).  Though diamonds had been used in engagement rings in the past, diamonds were not the exclusive stones that they are today. 

I think choosing a diamond, colored gemstone, or lab created stone is just a matter of personal preference.  Does the type of stone really matter when it is the meaning of the ring that is most important?

My preference..I didn’t want a diamond center stone. I think diamonds have a cold, sterile quality.  But that’s just my opinion on my own jewelry.  I have always loved Alexandrite (beautiful color change properties) and Amythest.  Choose whatever makes you and your fiance happy.

 

Post # 133
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@d-girl: I don’t know if its common, but it made sense for us. At the time we started saving I made more money than he did. Since then, I lost my job and went back to school full-time and he took a second job to make up for my lost income. We live together and our finances are dependant on each other so any extra money just goes into savings and that’s where the money for the ring came from. I probably could have waiting on him saving alone, but I didn’t know how dramatically our circumstances were going to change and I knew what I wanted.

Post # 134
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Helper bee

I did not want a diamond unless it was certified from Cananda.  Even then I wasn’t set on a diamond.  I always thought I would have a colored gemstone.

We both decided an Aquamarine would be the perfect choice for us.

I wouldn’t have cared if he did get a “fake” diamond but I would rather have a gemstone.

Post # 135
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@flutterbi:

That makes perfect sense. I’m in a similar situation.  I have been working for several years while he is just out of school and newly working for 4 months. I could afford to buy my own ring that I would love, but it really isn’t in his budget. In fact no ring is in his budget right now which makes the whole process super annoying because at this rate I will be waitng forever. I’d almost wish we could forgo the proposal with a ring and then buy it together at a later date. ~le sigh~

Post # 136
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I don’t get how people with CZ or moissanite can claim that they aren’t trying to pass their stone off as a real diamond.  They may never say an outright lie and call it a diamond to someone but they’re still trying to pass off a fake as something real.

It all comes down to the assumptions of society.  In today’s society, if someone sees a colorless stone in a ring on a woman’s left ring finger, they are going to assume it is a diamond.  Therefore, by choosing a CZ or moissanite (as opposed to a colored stone or a real diamond), you are using the known assumptions that you know others will make about your ring to pass off your stone as a diamond to those in the world around you – whether you call it that outloud or not!

I knew I wanted a diamond but that doesn’t mean I see in any fault in those women who want less “traditional”, more different rings/stones (even CZ or moissanite).  But don’t beat around the bush with what is really being done if you choose a non-diamond colorless stone.

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