(Closed) Do you care what people think about your decision on strippers?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Did people/will people pass judgment on you (and FI)?
    We agreed that strippers were okay; there was no judgment : (39 votes)
    38 %
    We agreed that strippers were okay and people have judged me/us for it : (5 votes)
    5 %
    We agreed that there will be no strippers and there was no judgment : (44 votes)
    43 %
    We agreed that there will be no strippers and people judged me/us for it : (15 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    7779 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I feel like the only judgement I have gotten on this issue is from this website, honestly. I am completely okay with him going to stripclubs. I dont even care if he gets a lap dance. I feel like I am one of the only people on here who is alright with this issue and I have gotten attacked in the past for it. In real life, people I know are just like… “Oh, alright”.

    I feel this way because I know a lot of strippers. I know how these girls think. I know that they have no interest in Fiance as a person, he’s a client. It’s a job. It’s business. In the end, he’s coming home to me…. I just dont see the big deal.

    Post # 4
    Member
    5388 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    We don’t receive any judgement because people know how we are. They know we aren’t the type to go to clubs, go to strip clubs, drink, etc. If anyone would try to judge us, our friends would probably attack them. lol

    Post # 5
    Member
    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    It’s weird, I honestly was never phazed by the idea of Darling Husband going to strip clubs on his bachelor party and I was actually surprised to come on this site and hear the opinion that I’m possibly doing something wrong by not caring. So that’s the only backlash I’ve received for my decision.

    My Darling Husband went to a friends bachelor party years ago and there were no strippers out of respect for the bride who was really against it. I heard about that and thought it was really sweet of all the guys to respect her wishes like that. I agree, to each her own and everyone else can stuff it!

    Post # 7
    Member
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I told my hubby he can go to a strip club, but no lap dance. He decided not to go at all… since he knew the guys would want to buy him a lap dance and wouldn’t take no. They went bar hopping.

    I never heard anything from any of the guys involved, so I don’t really know how they feel. I know that a few guys aren’t strip club types, so they were probably happy. His bm is his brother, who’s married with a kid, so I think he’s done with strip clubs too. Now that I’m thinking about it, I doubt they really cared either way.

    Post # 8
    Member
    3576 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    My sentiments are with @zippylef.

    Post # 9
    Member
    379 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    My Fiance can do whatever he wants for his party.  He is excited about his party but no official plans were made yet. Theyre talking about vegas.  He has never been to a strip club.  But if you dont want strippers and your Fiance is okay with who cares what his best man thinks.  There are plenty of fun things guys can do together.

    Post # 11
    Member
    682 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I have no problem with strip clubs and I have gone with Darling Husband and friends. I can see where some women have issues with it but I am totally comfortable letting my Darling Husband go with or without me. And when we do go I am usually the only girl in our group and I am the one who gets all the lap dances! (I don’t buy them, Darling Husband and our friends like to buy them for me).

    And for DH’s bachelor party it was his best man that didn’t want to go to a strip club so they ended up going to a baseball game.

    Post # 12
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    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I told my husband that he could go to a strip club but there could be no touching including no lap dances. He ended up going to Vegas for 4 days which actually upset more than if he had just gone to a strip club! He didnt end up going to a strip club….just getting in shenanigans and spending a LOT of our money!

    Post # 13
    Member
    14495 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I feel the same way and have know some myself. Ditto on your response.

    Post # 14
    Member
    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’m with stephinPA and zippylef – I honestly have no problem with it (just no back rooms / hotel rooms but lap dances are totally fine).  I had never seen backlash against that opinion/choice until I came to this site!

    Post # 15
    Member
    615 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Fiance and I agreed 6 years ago (when we first started dating) that neither of us would go to a strip club or be around anything along those lines. Ironically, he passed up the opportunity to go to a strip club the night he officially asked me to be his girlfriend :-D. People around me have told me that I am being rediculous by not allowing my Fiance to go to a strip club, but he really has no desire to go. I don’t either, but then again, we are both more old fashioned as a couple lol. We were each other’s first real kiss and etc. I do not think that my dislike of strip clubs makes me a bad Fiance, and his dislike of me going to strip clubs makes him a bad Fiance. We have a mutual agreement on it. I had some of my friends ask me to go to a strip club with them and I explained everything. They could not understand at all lol. I think we are fine the way we are :-).

    Post # 16
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    4123 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I LOVE our best man. He’s a radio personality who shared a manager with Howard Stern. They’ll have strippers on the show, they can be really vulgar always asking ladies about the proportions etc… One day they were discussing bachelor parties. My Fiance texted in joking about something because he knows our Bridesmaid or Best Man is well aware of the fact that we both are anti stripper. On air, our Bridesmaid or Best Man went off on this whole tangent about how bachelor parties need to be about the groom and what kind of guy he is. If he’s into strippers, then sure, if that’s what he wants… but in my FI’s case, that’s not his deal so they shouldn’t be made part of it. 

    In my honest opinion, if “friends” around you can’t accept the no-stripper policy they’re not true friends. 

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