Post # 1
I am currently 30 weeks pregnant with my first child and Darling Husband and I are tossing some name ideas around.
We do not know the sex of our baby so we are coming up with names for both boy and girl..
We are both set on a girls name thankfully but are butting heads over boys names!
We have 3 names on the list and are really struggling to agree on one.
I suggested Dax to my husband awhile ago and he LOVES it, wants to 100% commit to it and discuss no other names but I am worried that here in Australia it will be considered a ‘bogan’ name (Bogan is Australian and New Zealand slang for a person whose speech, clothing, attitude and behaviour are considered unrefined or unsophisticated. – googles definition of the word for anyone not in Australia ). I don’t recall ever having met a Dax in Australia and the only real person I know with the name is Dax Shephard the actor (who we both think is awesome!) so it would be totally cool to have a unique name.
I guess my question is – should I even care what people think? Once the baby is born I highly doubt anyone will say they hate it outright but I have a few close friends and family members who won’t be able to hide their reactions if they don’t like it and I don’t want to feel like I have to defend the name.
I’m sure after all of this worrying we will have a girl and and this will all have been for nothing but I just have a feeling it’s going to be a boy so I’m trying to be prepared!
Post # 2
Ha I’m from New Zealand & i know all about bogan names 🤣.
I do care what people think. That name is something the kid carries around their whole life, it’s often the first impression people have of a first person too. Also I’m sure kids still get teased for having a different name.
I might be one of many Jessica’s but I’ve never been teased for my name. Last name sure 🤦🏼♀️
Post # 3
missviolet92 : I was hoping I’d get an Aussie or Kiwi Bee who knew what I would mean by bogan haha! The name Dax with our surname actually sounds pretty good when you say it but not many people walk through life being called by their first and last name lol
Post # 4
Brickette : we picked an uncommon name for our DS and didn’t tell anyone until after he was born. I really don’t care about other people’s opinions and since they aren’t the parents of my child and had no part in making him, their opinions are irrelevant to us.
Post # 5
US bee. I know 2 people that named their kids Daxton but call them Dax. I don’t see anything wrong with the name.
Post # 6
I’d definitely consider the impression that a name makes to the outer world. Studies have shown how names impact things like job application success, and I’m not going to make my child’s life harder just to be unique.
Post # 7
buzzerbeater : We would just go with Dax not Daxton, Darling Husband has a 3 letter name and so does his father so it would fit well with the family I think.
BookishBee : It’s a tough one for me as I have always wanted a more unique name as I feel mine is very common/boring. I have a friend whose name I have never heard anywhere else and I think it is lovely and I asked her how she felt about it. She said growing up it sucked because no one knew how to pronounce it but now she loves that she is “one of a kind” (she and all of her family and friends have yet to meet anyone else with her name).
Post # 8
I care about what people will think when she gets older and wants to secure a good job. People definitely judge.
Post # 9
I think Dax is a cute name that will grow with your DS too! And btw I definitely know what bogan means from Summer Heights High lol
I have confidence that Darling Husband and I will pick interesting names that are well within the normal range. So no, I don’t care what others think about them. My mother has already stated that she hates our #1 choice for a girl name (Daisy) and that we simply “can’t name our child that because she will be teased her whole life”. Guess who is going to find out their future grandchild’s name after the ink is dry on the birth certificate now..
And for what its worth, Darling Husband and I both dislike our common, boring names. I think being a little different makes you stick out for things like job applications.
Post # 10
sapphire27 : Haha yes good old Summer Heights High! Thankfully I haven’t been able to think of anything that rhymes with Dax for kids to tease him with! Yes we will be 100% waiting to tell our families whatever name we end up choosing (especially my mother lol) – Darling Husband did let Dax slip to his dad though after a few drinks and his dad LOVED it so thats one for Team Dax
Post # 11
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
No kids yet, but no, we don’t care. We’ve both worked in jobs where people had unusual names and those people were still able to thrive and progress in their careers. Besides, people can hate a name for all sorts of dumb reasons, like it was their old high school exes name or something. So a “safe” name doesn’t necessarily save them from grief growing up.
Post # 12
I have to agree with the fact that people will judge, and I refuse to put my child at a disadvantage before people ever meet him/her. So while I am not Australian, there are definitely names that have a certain stigma attached to them here, as I think there are everywhere. The only association I have with Dax is Star Trek, but I would take seriously the negative associations others might have with a name I considered for a child. For the one person who might say it, there are a hundred who will think it. And it’s nice to say you don’t care, but because that name will precede meeting them on every college application and job resume, it absolutely matters, IMO.
Post # 13
I care because I don’t want my kid judged by his name before he’s been able to make his own impression, but ultimately some group that favors something else will still judge your choice. My kid has a nice, traditional name and I’m sure there are people who think we are incredibly boring for it. I think it’s very versatile but it doesn’t even fit my own rule of being relatively short so it’s easier to learn to write… schools don’t let you get away with just your nickname anymore (4 vs 9 letters).
the only thing I’d definitely steer clear of now is intentional misspelling for uniqueness. That’s confusing and kids should be unique for their personality, not their name.
ETA: if you’re really worried, make it his middle name and call him by it anyway. If it becomes a problem, he can switch to his first name.
Post # 14
skunktastic : We have already chosen a middle name, it is a family name that neither of us like as a first name so that won’t work unfortunatley. One the reasons I do like Dax is because our surname is quite long so having a short first name is a neat bonus!
echomomm : We won’t be telling anyone our name choices before the baby is born to specifically to rule out other peoples negative associations with the name/s as Darling Husband doesn’t care what other people think (I am a little on the fence about what people think so it’s hard for me not to talk about the name with friends). Darling Husband slipped up and told his dad that we liked Dax but other than that we haven’t told anybody.
Post # 15
Aussie Bee and teacher Bee here! I do care what people think, as other PPs said, because I wouldn’t want to disadvantage my child. Some people forget that the name is not for the parents, it’s for the person who has to live with it! It’s great that you are thinking about the imapct the name will have on your son. Personally I think Dax sounds cool, but you are right – It has the potential to be a little bit bogan. Some of my colleagues might be a touch worried if they saw that name on a class list! 😉