Do you care what people think of your child's name?

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
2208 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Ha I’m from New Zealand & i know all about bogan names 🤣.

I do care what people think. That name is something the kid carries around their whole life, it’s often the first impression people have of a first person too. Also I’m sure kids still get teased for having a different name.

I might be one of many Jessica’s but I’ve never been teased for my name. Last name sure 🤦🏼‍♀️

Post # 4
844 posts
Busy bee

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Brickette :  we picked an uncommon name for our DS and didn’t tell anyone until after he was born. I really don’t care about other people’s opinions and since they aren’t the parents of my child and had no part in making him, their opinions are irrelevant to us. 

Post # 5
827 posts
Busy bee

US bee. I know 2 people that named their kids Daxton but call them Dax. I don’t see anything wrong with the name. 

Post # 6
940 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I’d definitely consider the impression that a name makes to the outer world. Studies have shown how names impact things like job application success, and I’m not going to make my child’s life harder just to be unique.

Post # 8
5884 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

I care about what people will think when she gets older and wants to secure a good job. People definitely judge.

Post # 9
3486 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I think Dax is a cute name that will grow with your DS too! And btw I definitely know what bogan means from Summer Heights High lol

I have confidence that DH and I will pick interesting names that are well within the normal range. So no, I don’t care what others think about them. My mother has already stated that she hates our #1 choice for a girl name (Daisy) and that we simply “can’t name our child that because she will be teased her whole life”. Guess who is going to find out their future grandchild’s name after the ink is dry on the birth certificate now..

And for what its worth, DH and I both dislike our common, boring names. I think being a little different makes you stick out for things like job applications.

Post # 11
3664 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

No kids yet, but no, we don’t care. We’ve both worked in jobs where people had unusual names and those people were still able to thrive and progress in their careers. Besides, people can hate a name for all sorts of dumb reasons, like it was their old high school exes name or something. So a “safe” name doesn’t necessarily save them from grief growing up.

Post # 12
8000 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I have to agree with the fact that people will judge, and I refuse to put my child at a disadvantage before people ever meet him/her. So while I am not Australian, there are definitely names that have a certain stigma attached to them here, as I think there are everywhere. The only association I have with Dax is Star Trek, but I would take seriously the negative associations others might have with a name I considered for a child. For the one person who might say it, there are a hundred who will think it. And it’s nice to say you don’t care, but because that name will precede meeting them on every college application and job resume, it absolutely matters, IMO.

Post # 13
6260 posts
Bee Keeper

I care because I don’t want my kid judged by his name before he’s been able to make his own impression, but ultimately some group that favors something else will still judge your choice. My kid has a nice, traditional name and I’m sure there are people who think we are incredibly boring for it. I think it’s very versatile but it doesn’t even fit my own rule of being relatively short so it’s easier to learn to write… schools don’t let you get away with just your nickname anymore (4 vs 9 letters).

the only thing I’d definitely steer clear of now is intentional misspelling for uniqueness. That’s confusing and kids should be unique for their personality, not their name.  

ETA: if you’re really worried, make it his middle name and call him by it anyway. If it becomes a problem, he can switch to his first name. 

Post # 15
825 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Aussie Bee and teacher Bee here! I do care what people think, as other PPs said, because I wouldn’t want to disadvantage my child. Some people forget that the name is not for the parents, it’s for the person who has to live with it! It’s great that you are thinking about the imapct the name will have on your son. Personally I think Dax sounds cool, but you are right – It has the potential to be a little bit bogan. Some of my colleagues might be a touch worried if they saw that name on a class list! 😉

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