(Closed) Do you care what your mom or FMIL wears?

posted 9 years ago in Family
  • poll: Do you care what they wear?

    Nope, they can wear whatever they choose.

    They just cant wear any shade of white.

    They cant wear white and they must follow the color scheme.

  • Post # 3
    1030 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @allyfally:  I say no now, but neither of them have picked anything out yet.  I guess I’d hope they would at least show me a picture of what they’re consideringm but another part of me is just kind of like, “Whatever.  As long as it makes them feel good, who cares what it is?”  

    Post # 4
    807 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    In my head I picture my mom in red trench style dress with a full skirt so I guess if she asked my opinion I would steer her towards something like that but honestly I don’t care what she wears. My mom is actually very stylish for a woman in her late 50s so I’m sure whatever she decides to wear will be great. I’m also not in the “no one but the bride gets to wear shades of white or anything that could be photograph white camp,” so I don’t care about what colors my mom or Future Mother-In-Law wear. 

    Post # 5
    5229 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    There’s an old saying that the mother of the groom’s job is to show up and wear beige. Since that’s a shade of white, I’m fairly convinced this MOB/MOG can’t wear a shade fo white thing is rather new. No one is going to mistake them for the bride.

    These womena re adults. They can wear what they want. If they dress inappropriately, they’ll only embarrass themselves. And personally, I’d rather they not match the bridal party, but I wouldn’t dictate that they couldn’t. I wouldn’t want them to be mistaken for a bridesmaid just as I wouldn’t want them mistaken for the bride (which would be much harder to do and I don’t think is something brides need to worry about).

    Post # 6
    2706 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @allyfally:  It flatters her and is appropriate for a wedding so that dress is fine IMO.  Parents are not members of the bridal party so they don’t have to wear those colors, altho something that “works” with those colors helps with pictures.


    Like you said, she is happy with it.  What color is your Future Mother-In-Law wearing?  You could get them white corsages, it’s them wearing flowers that sets them apart from other guests, so the color of the flowers shouldnt’t really matter.


    I hardly remember them on my MOB or Future Mother-In-Law… or the rest of the family.

    Post # 7
    214 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @allyfally:  I think the dress looks great on her! But only if she wears the socks with it! J/K Wink 

    I told both (Mom & FMIL) that I really didn’t care what they wore. Future Mother-In-Law already has her dress and it’s a darker almost navy blue. Our wedding color are black, white and a accent color of malibu blue. It technically doesnt match but I don’t care. I want them to be comfortable in what they have on. I swear my mom’s wardrobe consists of almost nothing but purple, green and orange, those are her favorite colors and they flatter her. If she chose one of those it wouldn’t matter to me. 

    Post # 9
    3631 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I’ve said this before but,  while I didn’t really care what the parent’s wore,  it looks much nicer in the pictures that my parent’s tried to coordinate with the wedding and each other while ils just wore whatever. So while it isn’t a huge deal I totally agree it is really nice for the parent’s to coordinate too. 

    Post # 10
    51 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Nope, they can show up as plain or as flashy as they want. Jeans or sparkly red evening gown, I don’t care. As long as they’re comfortable and happy, I’m happy. 

    Post # 12
    8700 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    My mom/FMIL kept asking me what colors/cut/length they should wear! I just kept saying “You’ve been dressing yourselves for 40/50 something years. I’m sure you can pick something!”

    They book picked dresses they LOVE, and they both look AMAZING! Future Mother-In-Law is wearing purple, and my mom is wearing blue! Our wedding colors are red/blue, to they coordinate, but that’s just a really happy coincidence!

    Post # 13
    362 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I inititally asked my mom and Future Mother-In-Law to coordinate with the bridal party (grey Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses/yellow & white flowers). My mom went shopping first and actually ended up chosing a silver dress that coordinates well – I think is the perfect mix of her style with a little of my dress and the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. She loves it and looks beautiful in it so, really, that’s all that matters. My Future Mother-In-Law was going to coordinate too, but when she went shopping, she changed her mind and bought a blue dress. Honestly, when I first found out about her purchase I was a little peeved, but I quickly realized that t was being ridiculous and it was selfish of me to be upset so I let it go and never said anything. 


    So, I guess what I’m saying is, I’ve realized that it shouldn’t matter what color they want to wear, as long as they love it and feel confident/comfortable in it (and it’s not white lol that’s the only no-no). 

    Post # 14
    3054 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I didn’t care. They wore what they wanted and looked lovely.

    Post # 15
    219 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I said no shade of white, but if it were a beige I wouldn’t care, I just don’t want my mom wearing white or ivory. My mom is actually wearing a dark gray dress which she loves and picked out without me even telling her what I wanted or liked, and I was fine with that. My mom isn’t the type of gal to want to wear light colors anyway. She loves darker colors.


    Post # 16
    532 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I really don’t care what my mother and Future Mother-In-Law wear, but they seem to want me to really really care. They are both wearing different shades of blue which aren’t in our colors but will be perfectly fine.

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