(Closed) Do you care what your mom or FMIL wears?

posted 8 years ago in Family
  • poll: Do you care what they wear?

    Nope, they can wear whatever they choose.

    They just cant wear any shade of white.

    They cant wear white and they must follow the color scheme.

  • Post # 62
    729 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    My mom wore black, funeral black.  Even tho she loves DH and he does tons to help my parents.

    Everyone else wore at least something with our wedding colors (unasked… it was pretty awesome when we realized it) in our small wedding.  She stuck out like a sore thumb lol, her problem not mine!  I didn’t care.  She’s nutty, I love her, but she is.  And it’s easier knowing/accepting it than trying to ignore/change it.

    We hired a local young photographer starting out on recommendation from a friend (and seeing her work).  We picked her because we wanted all the random moments we’d miss being busy being bride/groom and not so much (other than family groups) for staged pics.  She got my mom, in black, in full pout mode when no one was paying attention to her.  DH and I laughed out loud when we saw it when the photographer sent us the pics, if that was the only pic she took, it’d have been worth at least twice what we paid!

    Post # 63
    194 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    When our parents asked what we wanted them to wear, our only response was “clothes please.”

    My mom wore a nice navy pants suit and his mother has a pants suit based on on a sari she fell in love with on her travels somewhere made for her.  The pictures look fine, they were comfortable and happy.  That’s all that mattered.

    Post # 64
    909 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @ldyparadox99:  +1! I didn’t even realize it was a “thing” for brides to get involved in dressing anyone but the wedding party until coming on the Bee. It still seems a bit odd to me…if she loves it and it’s not all white, I say it’s fine! 

    Post # 65
    1203 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    First of all — your mom looks adorbs! That’s a really cute MOB dress. It’s showing up more coral than orange on my computer, which in my mind says that you can absolutely pull some of your colors in. My suggestion would be a primarily white corsage with little pops of aqua — whether that’s a flower or just in the ribbon wrap.

    Second of all, as far as the MOB/FMIL dresses went…I have to be honest, I knew I couldn’t tell them what to wear, but I DID care what they wore and hoped they would make good choices. (They did.) I actually gently steered my mom away from her first choice, both because the color was not great and the style was not as flattering as it could have been. (My mom is stuck in the 80s a little bit.) We went shopping together and found something that was much more flattering, and very complimentary color-wise. My dad essentially asked me to put together his outfit, which I was happy to do. 🙂

    Future In-Laws did their own thing — I was determined that it was up to my husband to deal with them, and while I would have chosen a different tie for my Father-In-Law…it was no big deal in the grand scheme of things.

    Post # 66
    846 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    As long as she doesn’t wear a wedding dress, I don’t care what my mum wears. The only thing that really matters is that she be there on the day. I trust her taste in clothes, but even if I didn’t I want her there because I love her, not because I want pretty pictures.


    My mother in law sadly passed away last year. Both me and Fiance would give anything to have her there. Who cares about what your pictures look like or whether they match your colour scheme. Its far more important to have your loved ones with you.

    Post # 67
    1436 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I definitely care what they(my mom and FMIL) wear. It’s not that they don’t have a sense of style because they definitely do and it shows but I also want to be the one to oversee everthing and make sure they’re all in order!!!! 

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