@Sasha2011: the place we went to was a restaurant that also has a bar you can sit at…. we didn’t have a reservation (it was a nicer restaurant) so we just met at the bar for drinks (she was in from out of town and the place is down the street from her office). It wasn’t the type of place where people go to hook up …
@jjmomma: thank you for the introspective perspective. I’ll definitely do some soul searching to see if there’s something I’m not getting that made me desire the attention more than otherwise.
I honestly think it was a combination of having a couple glasses of wine + having an incredibly handsome man banter with me in a charming way + enjoying being out. I was single for a long time before I got married and while I adore my husband and am serious about the commitment I made to him, sometimes miss fliratious fun (@jjmomma – I think this is what your post made me realize… which I might need to address w/ DH).
While the events made me ponder the situation today, I’m not sitting here feeling guilty about it – I was moreso surprised at my desire to push it farther (even though I didn’t) and how much I enjoyed the attention.
Again – while I don’t think Darling Husband would be overjoyed seeing an attractive man chatting me up (the same as I don’t like the idea of an attractive woman chatting him up), as long as he didn’t take it any further (physical contact, phone numbers, plans without me involved, etc.) it’s not breaking any vows, because of the intent and subsequent actions.
I don’t make plans with the intent to seek out that type of attention (like frequent pickup type places, etc)… but I did find myself wanting to hang out with them longer (it would have been a group of about 6 people). I also knew that in my tipsy state, I didn’t trust myself, and I would have been riddled with guilt had I allowed things to get even slightly physical (we are talking any sort of touching – like an arm on shoulder kind of thing).
And, for the record, after one of them offered to buy us drinks, I thanked him but declined, excused myself to the restroom, and when I got back, my glass was filled. I obvious could have refused the poured glass, but I didn’t.
Anyway – thank you everyone for your input and thoughts. It really helped me think through things and think about how I will approach similar situations in the future.