(Closed) Do you consider hand-holding too much PDA?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: If hand-holding made your friend comfortable, would you try not to do it around her?
    Yes - I would try not to hold SO's hand. : (7 votes)
    5 %
    No - if I want to hold my SO's hand, I'll do it : (137 votes)
    88 %
    Other : (0 votes)
    I'd start making out with him, to give her some perspective ;) : (11 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think no-hand-holding is taking it too far. It makes me really uncomfortable when couples sit/stand with their faces *thisclose* to one another kissing over and over inbetween sentences. I see it a lot on the subway and it makes me want to scream “there are hundreds of people staring at you, some of which are actually 2 inches away from you on the train, GET A ROOM, SERIOUSLY”.

    But hand holding doesn’t bother me at all.

    Post # 4
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    2192 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    She needs to get over herself. TBH

    Post # 5
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    119 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I agree – I don’t think you were doing anything that was inappropriate/overlyPDA-ish for the situation. It’s very kind of you to give this so much thought. I wouldn’t bend over backwards though – I also know what it feels like to be the only single person ANYWHERE, but it’s not an excuse to be unpleasant or make other people uncomfortable. Personally, I wouldn’t change the hand-holding, and if she makes another comment, I would just nicely say to her that you’re sorry if she’s upset, but you’re not doing anything wrong – I mean, geez! handholding would barely get a movie a “G” rating, much less “PG!”

    Post # 6
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    5977 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Yeah, she needs to get over herself. I know it can be tough when someone doesn’t have someone to see others so happy, but there’s no reason to be snarky, and it’s not like you’re all over each other. You’re holding hands. I would have a talk with her and let her know that her nasty looks aren’t appreciated.

    Post # 7
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    6825 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I have to agree with Crisark your friend needs to get over it. It is only hand holding for pete’s sake

    Post # 8
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    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Agree that she needs to get over it!

    Post # 9
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    7300 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    lol unless hand holding is a new term for doing the dirty, then she needs to get over herself.

    Post # 10
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    7431 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Hand holding???/ Yeah, she needs to get over it. Sorry she’s not in a relationship, but she needs to get over herself.  Ask her – how would you feel if you were the one in the relationship and I wasn’t, and I made you feel bad for something as silly as hand holding???

    Turn the tables on her, and see how she responds.

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    she really needs to get over it! You guy are married…what are you supposed to act like you don’t even like or know each other?

    Post # 12
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    2320 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I voted for the make-out session! She needs to get over it… yes, it sucks to be single and to see people happy and affectionate, but c’mon! Ugh…you were holding hands UNDER the table, which I think is considerate enough…

    Post # 13
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    4150 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    She’s being ridiculous!  Hand holding is not even close to too much PDA.

    Post # 14
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    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I agree with the PPs that she needs to get over herself.  There is nothing wrong with a couple holding hands around single people.

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    This is her problem, not yours. She needs to adjust her reactions because in no way is your behaviour inappropriate – she can’t expect people around her to adapt to the fact that she’s single and miserable about it. Making people around you feel miserable so you’re not the only one in that state is not ok.

    Post # 16
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    That’s ridiculous! When she has bf is she going to refrain from holding his hand? I don’t think so! sorry but she needs to get over it

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