Post # 1
I have a friend who is currently single. I’ll also say, she’s unhappily single – especially because everyone around her seems to be coupled up. I know that when I’ve been in those shoes, it’s easy to look around and see that everyone you encounter seems to be in a relationship.
Darling Husband and I are not particularly PDA-prone. We’ll hold hands, mostly – and usually when we are sitting next to each other.
I’m realizing this is a BIG issue for her. She made a snarky comment about a month ago, when we took her out for her b’day. DH got up from the table to go the restroom and she made a big fuss about the fact we were holding hands at the table (it was under the table, not on top – if that makes a difference). I didn’t think we were being particular ‘flashy’ about it – and I kind of gave her a ‘what gives’ type look.
Then, yesterday – same kind of thing – Darling Husband felt like he was doing something wrong, when he was holding my hand, because of the way she was looking at him.
While I don’t want my friend to feel uncomfortable hanging out with us – I also don’t really feel like I’m doing anything that is out of the norm. I don’t try to make her feel uncomfortable and, if anything, when we are with her, I’ll try to be as non-couply as possible. But, if I’m sitting somewhere in public and want to hold DH’s hand – it feels equally wrong to not do so, because she’ll be uncomfortable….
Post # 3
I think no-hand-holding is taking it too far. It makes me really uncomfortable when couples sit/stand with their faces *thisclose* to one another kissing over and over inbetween sentences. I see it a lot on the subway and it makes me want to scream “there are hundreds of people staring at you, some of which are actually 2 inches away from you on the train, GET A ROOM, SERIOUSLY”.
But hand holding doesn’t bother me at all.
Post # 4
She needs to get over herself. TBH
Post # 5
I agree – I don’t think you were doing anything that was inappropriate/overlyPDA-ish for the situation. It’s very kind of you to give this so much thought. I wouldn’t bend over backwards though – I also know what it feels like to be the only single person ANYWHERE, but it’s not an excuse to be unpleasant or make other people uncomfortable. Personally, I wouldn’t change the hand-holding, and if she makes another comment, I would just nicely say to her that you’re sorry if she’s upset, but you’re not doing anything wrong – I mean, geez! handholding would barely get a movie a “G” rating, much less “PG!”
Post # 6
Yeah, she needs to get over herself. I know it can be tough when someone doesn’t have someone to see others so happy, but there’s no reason to be snarky, and it’s not like you’re all over each other. You’re holding hands. I would have a talk with her and let her know that her nasty looks aren’t appreciated.
Post # 7
I have to agree with Crisark your friend needs to get over it. It is only hand holding for pete’s sake
Post # 8
Agree that she needs to get over it!
Post # 9
lol unless hand holding is a new term for doing the dirty, then she needs to get over herself.
Post # 10
Hand holding???/ Yeah, she needs to get over it. Sorry she’s not in a relationship, but she needs to get over herself. Ask her – how would you feel if you were the one in the relationship and I wasn’t, and I made you feel bad for something as silly as hand holding???
Turn the tables on her, and see how she responds.
Post # 11
she really needs to get over it! You guy are married…what are you supposed to act like you don’t even like or know each other?
Post # 12
I voted for the make-out session! She needs to get over it… yes, it sucks to be single and to see people happy and affectionate, but c’mon! Ugh…you were holding hands UNDER the table, which I think is considerate enough…
Post # 13
She’s being ridiculous! Hand holding is not even close to too much PDA.
Post # 14
I agree with the PPs that she needs to get over herself. There is nothing wrong with a couple holding hands around single people.
Post # 15
This is her problem, not yours. She needs to adjust her reactions because in no way is your behaviour inappropriate – she can’t expect people around her to adapt to the fact that she’s single and miserable about it. Making people around you feel miserable so you’re not the only one in that state is not ok.
Post # 16
That’s ridiculous! When she has bf is she going to refrain from holding his hand? I don’t think so! sorry but she needs to get over it