- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
It makes me very upset when other people are late.
But to be fair if it’s me that’s running behind I hyperventilate, lol. I’m always 15 minutes early or right on time. I even have my car clock set 12 minutes fast so I can give myself some buffer time in case I do hit every red light or get stuck in traffic because some chickens escaped from a Tyson truck (yes, this happened).
I mean, I’m pretty reasonable though. I can understand if you had another appointment that ran over or if something bad happened, but if you just waltz in late for no reason? No way. I will not take that crap, because to me that says that my time is not important.
I am NOT a chronically late person, but I am one of those easygoing types that doesn’t stress about always being early for fear of being a minute or two late. Sometimes this catches up with me, and since moving to a place where traffic is unpredictable, and getting dirty looks from one professor and a speech about punctuality to the class (as I walked in the door 2 mintues late), I always try to be 5-10 minutes early now to professional meetings/classes, etc. With friends? If I’m 5 minutes late, I don’t stress, and would be annoyed if they said something for that small amount of time.
I undestand that adopting the “if you’re not early, you’re late!” attitudes make me seem more responsible, but I secretly HATE people who give other people shit about a few minutes… under 5 minutes, and it could just be a difference of a slow or fast clock!
I also understand that I can’t let kids slide by coming to class a minute or two late when I’m a teacher… because they will start coming later and later and expecting no consequences. If I were a professor, I might be a little more lenient. Who knows? Maybe teaching will make me care more about punctuality in general, when my precious class time is wasted!
I have a coworker (supervisor) who gives everyone a hard time if they are not early every single time they clock in, by at least a few minutes. She is annoying as hell! God help you if clock in one minute late, she will be all over your ass before you are even on the clock! That’s overkill… we are all adults, and only one of our coworkers is chronically late. Everyone else slips up occasionally, but I don’t see that as a reason to bite their heads off!
Biggest pet peeve!!! I’m early everywhere
SO. EFFING. RUDE. I have ZERO tolerance for someone wasting my time. I’m busy too, but I budget my time carefully and pay close attention to traffic patterns. If I think there is a chance I might be cutting it close, I skip that second coat of mascara and LEAVE. I’m always at a minimum 5-10 minutes early for everything. I live by the motto “if you’re on time, you’re late!”
My mom and I are both “go,go,go” type people, and my stepdad and sister are soooo NOT! Mom and I learned early that in order to keep our sanity and not kill our loved ones, that we need to drive in one car and they take another. Might seem like overkill but unless we are going on a looong ride, we hop in the car and go. We are the “table getters” and “seat savers” of the family lol.
Oh, I should add that if you are a parent/future parent who is chronically late… please, for the love of god, try to at least get your children where they need to be on time.
I was disliked by my dance teacher, as well as one of my band teachers, because my mother could. not. leave. on. time. EVER! I don’t think anyone believed that it was my MOTHER, not me, the teenager, making me late to rehearsals!
I remember once in elementary school the principal stopping us in the hall (my mother walked in to sign me in late), and lecturing 4th grade ME for being tardy too often, when it was my MOTHER who could not manage time and often my (multiple, younger) siblings made us late as well!I was sooooo embarrassed, but was afraid to say that it was my mom’s fault.
I remember begging, and even crying a few times, to try to get my mother to leave the house before we were late. I couldn’t drive myself! Getting my license was the best day ever because of this fact.
Regardless of whether it’s your intention, chronic lateness sends a message that you consider your time to be more important than everyone else’s. If we have a meeting at 2 and you don’t show up until 2:30, I’m leaving.
And for those of you who argue that you’re on time for work but can’t do so for friends, why not? To me that’s even more disrespectful. It shows you are capable, but just don’t care to put forth the effort.
Those of you who are bothered by lateness, you’ll never get some people to understand the reason it’s wrong. They’ll continue to say you’re being unreasonable and stuck up. To them, the rest of the world should revolve around their schedule and we should be honored they chose to grace us with their presence.
Yes, it is rude, especially if the person can manage to be on time for other people/things, however, if the person is generally very considerate and yet often late (and seems upset that they are late), I will consider whether they might have a problem such as ADHD that’s causing it, rather than it being something they can control.
I’d raise the issue to get to the bottom of the lateness if there were any doubt about the cause in my mind, but in a gentle way, at first.
If the person tends to be more than 15 mins late, I may need to raise the issue over the phone, because after they’re ~15 mins late with no apologetic update, I feel that I’ve waited long enough, and unless I’m very comfortable and enjoying myself while I’m waiting (like at home or something), I’ll go.
This whole time reading I was forgiving of the 5-10min chronically late people that were working on it. Now I’m reading that some of you have friends that are 20-30min late? ALL. THE. TIME? Really? I honestly don’t think I could handle that. I’d leave after 15 minutes. No lie. Especially since my goal arrival is 5min prior. UGH
I’m chronically early, so I’m used to waiting for people. If they’re late enough that I notice I’ve been waiting around for a while, then I get annoyed. But if you’re five minutes late, I probably won’t even notice.
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