Post # 1
If you call someone and leave them a voice mail and they respond the next day or so with an email, do you consider this rude?
In a nutshell, what I’m asking is: do you expect a like form of communication back (text for text, call for call, email for email).
Here’s the backstory: I’m an email person. I like writing and catching up this way. I hate playing phone tag and don’t like being on the phone in general. I have a friend who prefers phone conversations (or, at least, has made about how I like to email vs. talk on the phone). I’m not completely opposed to talking on the phone, but my time is limited and I have much more time to email than I do have a phone conversation. I got a vm from him over the weekend and I wasn’t able to return the call. I’d much rather just WRITE to him via email vs. play phone tag with him and/or find time to call him this week. But, I didn’t want to come across as rude for not returning like communication w/ like communication.
Post # 3
I’m an email person, too. I have no idea if people think it’s rude to return a call with an email, but I actually think I don’t care ;-).
Post # 4
I’m an e-mail person, too.
In a business context I don’t think it matters so long as you’re prompt. In personal relationships? I’m not sure and, like crayfish, don’t care overmuch.
Post # 5
I do this at work all the time because of my schedule and how my job functions (I’m a wedding coordinator, and with a few in person or phone call meetings, have found through experience it’s better to write very detailed emails to people so they can go back and read as needed)
I pretty much hate talking on the phone with my friends, mostly because I dislike cell phone connections and we all have weird schedules. It’s usually texts or emails/facebook messages until we’re together in person.
If someone calls me, I know it’s usually important so I’ll call them back only because it happens so rarely.
I wouldn’t consider it rude, but can see how others might.
Post # 6
i actually hate talking on the phone, lol, i’m also so much more an email person! if it’s about something specific, email is just so much better. i think it someone leaves a vm with a question and you email them back, that’s much easier. if he was calling just to chat and catch up, then i could see someone considering an email response a little bit rude…i mean, i wouldn’t consider it rude, but i can imagine someone else thinking it was…
Post # 7
I don’t find it rude at all, but then I’m probably an email person too. I hate phone tag and I like having a written answer that I can read when I have the time.
Post # 8
I have like total phone phobia as I call it, so I email all the time instead. And this is 2011, if email is considered rude then we’re in trouble!!!
Post # 9
I dont think its rude. I prefer texting/emailing to phone calls. I have one particular friend that I avoid calling if possible I text her, send emails or facebook messages but dont call her that much. I cant explain why but I just dont enjoy our phone conversations.
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2011 - Mackinaw Valley Vineyard; Bloomington Center for the Performing Arts
In general, I don’t think it is rude (not a phone person either), but if the person specifically asks you to call them back I think it would be rude. If they didn’t specify, I think an email is fine (maybe explain you’re busy/can’t call in the email too).
Post # 11
I sorta consider it rude. partially, because I do that when I don’t feel like talking someone I find annoying. Ie. they’ll call, i’ll wait till the next day then send a “hey, see you call, what’s up”. The people who email me back to my calls, I generally feel are likewise avoiding/uninterested in me.
But that being said, I tend to text my friends a lot more than call. As long as you are emailing close friends who know that “phone calls aren’t your thing”, then I don’t think they’d be offended.
Post # 12
Maybe PHONE people would think getting an email is rude – where EMAIL people don’t care either way…. (just an idea??)
Post # 13
@MrsMaine: me too! I use to be fine with it. If I have to call people, fine–whatever. But I hate coming up with small talk, the awkward silences. Unless there is something super important to communicate, I just e-mail.
I don’t think responding to a call with an e-mail is rude at all. I probably wouldn’t do it for work but friends, family, people who I’ve hired for the wedding–sure.
Post # 14
Lots of people hate talking on the phone and now, more than ever before, other forms of communication are commonplace.
I only think it’s rude when you contact someone, no matter in what way, when they don’t get back to you at all.
Simply explain calling is difficult and they should be fine with it.
Post # 15
I’m not a huge phone talker. I kind of really don’t like it. So it drives me crazy when I text or email someone, and they call me back. I was talking to my husband about that this week, and he said not everyone knows my “rules” but it really does drive me nuts. If I text you, it means I don’t really want to be one the phone at that point in time. If I call you, I probably really need to talk to you.
Post # 16
I don’t like talking on the phone either. Plus, I know people will start talking about random things and I just don’t feel like talking about that. But I have noticed that my friends who prefer phone calls gt annoyed at my texting. For them, I try to call instead and if they don’t answer, I just leave a voicemail. I don’t worry about them calling me back and so on and so forth. If they want me to call them, they know it will take longer than a text.
In some ways, I feel like that has made the world disconnected from each other. We don’t have time to actually call a person, much less see them face to face. I’m totally guilty of this… but it still doesn’t make me want to call and spend tons of time with the small talk beforehand. Oh well 🙂