Generally, I am not into socio-political labels. And I don’t dig people telling me what I believe. That said, this is what I believe about men and women in a nutshell:
1. There is nothing wrong with Patriarchy. The system of the man being the head of the woman (having both authority AND responsibility) was designed by God and I have the utmost respect for it. Has it been abused by imperfect humans? Of course. But what hasn’t? I’m not turning my back on the social construct set forth by the creator because certain humans can’t do it right.
2. Men are not inherently more intelligent or more capable than women. The Bible says this in many places. But, still, it was the man was who was designated to be in charge of the household, the congregation and society at large. This is not a problem for me.
3. I happily submit to my husband in all things. And I do it simply because he’s my husband (not because he’s smarter than me, or more capable). If I had a problem submitting to him, I would not have married him.
4. I do believe there is a good deal of truth to the idea that men are “wired” to be providers and women are “wired” to be nurturers. I would love to be fully taken care of so that I can more fully exercise what I believe is my true role in the family. However, the realities of life don’t permit that for me at this time. So I work. I would much prefer to be working because it’s what I love and it makes me feel fulfilled. Instead, I work in large part because I have to. I look forward to when this will not be the case.
5. I believe all people should be paid for all jobs according to their ability, seniority, education, or what-have-you. I do not believe that gender (or race, or sexual orientation, or marital status, or country of origin) should be the sole factor in refusing to treat someone fairly and equitably.
6. Voting is meaningless to me. [we can discuss this respectfully if anyone is interested, but I’m telling you right now, I’m ignoring any comments I consider disrespectful]
7. I believe women can and should own property. Even in Bible times, women were able to inherit and purchase.
8. I do not think men and women are equal. God created us to be different. And that’s ok. Men and women are equally valuable in the eyes of God, but IMO pretending that we are exactly the same (when we are so obviously not) thwarts anyone’s argument.
9. I do not think that anyone should exercise their right to do anything that would displease God (including kill an unborn child). However, even God acknowledges everyone’s right to choose their own path. He also notes that everyone will be judged separately according to their own deeds. So, will I ever have an abortion (even if my life depends on it)? No. Am I going to pretend that I think abortion (or fornication, or any other God-displeasing behavior) is ok in my book? No. Am I going to carry picket signs in front of the clinic? Again, no.
Whether that makes me a feminist or not, it’s what I believe. I’m not going to soften my opinion (someone, I think it was peachacid above, said essentially that it’s cool to be quietly pro-life but not ok to be in favor of removing the choice for all women) to make it more palatable to others. And I certainly could not care less about “fitting in” with anyone. There was a disrespectful comment above about non-feminists need their head examined and IQ checked. If I were to say the same thing about atheists (oh honey, you probably believe in God, you just must not know what God really is. God is the one who allows to wake up every morning, God is the reason you’re allowed to hold your opinions blah, blah, blah…) I’d be stoned to death. Just wanted to throw that out there.