(Closed) Do you consider yourself a feminist?

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  • poll: Do you consider yourself a feminist?

    Yes

    No, and we have a "traditional" relationship

    No, but we have an egalitarian relationship

    NEW OPTION: Yes, but we have a "traditional" relationship

  • Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Could we have a “Yes and we have traditional roles” as a pole option? Pretty please?

    Post # 17
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I consider myself a feminist. I also should mention I am strongly considering staying home when we have children. My mom is a feminist, and she stayed home with us when we were young. In my view, feminism is about feeling that women should have the same rights as men, and that a woman has the right to choose what she wants to do. I think that’s the more modern view of feminism. My husband and I are very much equals, and if I do choose to stay home, that won’t change. We make decisions jointly and work very much as a team. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 18
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Both my fiance and I are feminists. Its one of the things that I love most about him.

    We treat eachother like equals, its important to us that we divide household labor. I will stay at home with our children when they are born, but that is a choice we made together because he will make much more money, and we’d like for our kids to be able to be at home when they are little. We still plan on dividing up some household labor so that our kids see dad cooking dinner and folding laundry, and mom mowing the lawn and working on the farm.

    Feminism is one of the most defining things about my perspectives on the world and the choices I have made in my life.

    I incorporate feminist therapy into my practice as a social worker, regularly attend feminist events, and am part of several feminist organizations. My fiance does these things as well. He wears a pin from the White Ribbon campaing (men working to end men’s violence against women) on his white coat.

     

     

    Post # 19
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Fiance and I have a very traditional relationship.  I take care of the house, family, and him…but this is a role I really enjoy.  I don’t consider myself a feminist, but I don’t consider myself the opposite either.  I just seem to have fit into the traditional domestic role from a very young age, it just is who I am.

    Post # 20
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

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    @elivt: +1!! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 21
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    i am absolutely, and very proudly, a feminist.

    Post # 22
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

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    @JeniRae:  Couldn’t have said it better!  

    It’s a bit sad that the word feminism automatically makes people think of women burning bras and saying they don’t need men in their life.  As with any group, there are always extremists, but ultimately, as others have said feminism is about equality and hell yeah, I am for every person being treated the same regardless of gender, color, sexual orientation etc…

    With Fiance and I, it’s very much an equal relationship.  We natually fall into some of the traditional roles (I clean and do the laundry, he cooks and fixes things) but that’s more so because I have my own way of cleaning and if he does it, I inevitably go around after him and do it my way!   He’s the same with me cooking and/or trying to fix something!   As JeniRae said above, it’s all about choice!  The beauty of feminism is that I’ve chosen the role I have, no one has dictated it to me and that freedom is liberating!  ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 23
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I wouldn’t call our relationship non-traditional but I don’t think it’s the most traditional. We have a pretty good balance. I do the majority of the cooking and cleaning because I enjoy doing it. I also have a job and go to school full-time. So does the (soon to be) Mr. He mostly takes the trash out, fixes broken things and gets the lids off of tricky jars.

    I think very often the term “feminist” has many different meanings. If we are talking about property rights, women voting, and equal pay I think most women (and men I suppose) could call themselves feminists. If we are talking about the idea of rejecting sexual norms and traditional gender roles then I think you may find a pretty varied opinion.

     

    Post # 25
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We are a definite mix.  I consider myself an egalitarian- sort of a feminist- I believe in non-traditional / I don’t believe in traditional gender roles.  However, I believe in choice, that I can stay home if I want, but that doesn’t mean I am more pro-woman or vice versa. 

    Post # 26
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Yes, and we plan to have an equalitarian marriage.

    Post # 27
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

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    @GirlWithARing: Thanks! Although now I can’t vote because I have already voted. *sigh* Oh well! Hopefully some others will find it useful. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 28
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    “I myself have never been able to find out precisely what feminism is: I only know that people call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat or a prostitute.” – Rebecca West

    I am most definitely a feminist, and have been one for as long as I can remember.  To me, what that means is that I believe in equality for men and women, and that everyone should be able pursue the life that is right for them.

    But it also means I question the social/political/economic structures that frame those choices, and make it seem natural that, for instance, women’s work is consistently paid less and valued less, or that women disproportionately bear the costs of “caring labor” such reproduction, child-rearing, and elder-care.

    Fighting racism, homophobia, and poverty is also part of what feminism means to me, although it does not always mean that to everyone who calls her/himself a feminist.

    I am a historian of women, gender, and feminism in the modern US, so that shapes my perspective considerably.

    Post # 29
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @GirlWithARing: Why do you say you don’t call yourself a feminist?  I’m not asking in a critical way; I’m just curious why that word doesn’t feel right to you.

    Post # 30
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

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    @mightywombat: I think you may be my new fav on the boards ๐Ÿ™‚ I had no idea someone with a similiar academic background frequented around here! Im very much interested in the same material and perspectives on feminism and gender studies. I am pursuing a history graduate degree with a focus on Latin American feminist values and perspectives.

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