Post # 1
This really isn’t a rant or a vent, just was wondering what you do when people mispell your name.
My name is not super uncommon, but it’s not spelled the traditional way. It’s only one letter difference, not a big deal, but it’s something I have had to deal with my whole life (I don’t want to say my name here, but it’s like Ann vs Anne).
We received the invitation to my boyfriend’s sister’s wedding and she addressed it to both him and me instead of “boyfriend and guest” which I was pleasantly surprised to see. But she spelled my first name wrong. She spelled my last name right, which was funny because everyone always gets wrong.
My boyfriend was more annoyed than I was, saying his family should know how to spell his future wife’s name. He wants to tell his sister By The Way, she spells her name _____.
I said we should just write the correct spelling on the response card and we don’t have to “say” anything. I told him it does get annoying that I always deal with this, but I haven’t known his family for 20 years, plus, my own aunt will spell my name wrong once in a while. It’s just one of those things I just blow off.
So for those of you whose names are often mispelled, do you do anything?
Post # 2
I usually do what you said, spell it correctly on the response card. If it’s an email or letter, I will sign my name again at the bottom so they hopefully get the hint. It gets annoying but I don’t want to get too in people’s faces about a mistake (since I don’t think people are doing it on purpose).
Post # 3
I am a chronic victim of misspelling too, I feel you. My own grandpa left 3 letters out of my name on a card he gave me once. Spelled my husband’s name correctly though. Haha.
I’d say in this very specific instance, I’d write it correctly on the RSVP card. Like maybe even write in print instead of cursive so it is super clear. If it becomes a repeat thing with them, then maybe think about how to nicely let them know what’s up. Long term it would drive me bananas!
Post # 4
No I don’t correct it or say anything. It’s not worth the time
Post # 5
I think I’d write it properly on the response card. It’s not like she was being malicious or anything.
I have a usually male name AND it’s a last name, so I get a lot of mistakes made. People in my company who I’ve only communicated with by email often write “Mr.” I usually just let it go, it’s happened all my life and it’s not a huge deal. They’re in for a shock at the national meetings next year lol! I do have to correct people when they put my first name as my last name though, as that could cause problems.
Post # 6
My last name is sometimes mispelled, and I always correct people. I just know that if I was spelling someone’s name wrong, I would want that person to tell me if they cared (and I care). So I tell people.
I do think that if you’re worried, having HIM tell her wouldn’t be a big deal.
Post # 7
Is your boyfriend not comfortable enough with his sister to correct her? It shouldn’t be a big deal or dramatic or anything.
Post # 8
I always have people spelling my name wrong, I’m in the same boat as you, the spelling of my name can go either way like in your example, Ann or Anne. It doesn’t bother me if it happens one or two times but if the same person (my FIs good friend’s wife is guilty of this) it really irks me, it’s like you don’t care enough to remember or something idk…
Post # 9
Yeah, I would be annoyed too, I think that’s tacky especially on a formal wedding invitation! For reference, one of my bridesmaids is really good at calligraphy and I had her hand write all of my wedding invitations. There were 57 invites for 110 guests, and it took her about a month to finish them all. When I got them back from her, there were about 8 that had slight spelling errors. Even though it was A LOT of work for her, I asked her to redo all of the ones that were misspelled.
For your situation, I would just do as you suggested and write the correct spelling on the response card. But if it is a common occurrence that they get your name wrong, maybe it is time your Fiance has a talk with his sister and family and lets them know.
Post # 10
My Mother-In-Law still spells my name wrong… I’ve been married to her son since 2014 and dating since 2012! I don’t usually correct mistakes because there are so many ways to spell my name (Caitlin) but situations like my Mother-In-Law really irk me. If you still don’t know how to spell my name just search on Facebook before sending me a card addressed as “Katelyn” ugh
Post # 11
I’m exactly the same, a pretty common name with one letter different than the traditional spelling. 9/10 it’s always spelled wrong, it gets annoying cause even some of my family members spell it wrong too. My aunt does, my grandpa, one or two of my cousins lol I’m like come on!! It’s not that hard to remember lol! I do the same in subtle ways I will correct someone like your example with the response card. Or if someones adding my contact to their phone I will tell them oh sorry actually my name is spelled ____. But if it’s not a big deal I don’t say anything. I dont even bother with my family any more lol its a lost cause.
Post # 12
My first name is spelled wrong all the time. I work in an office and spend most of my time emailing my customers. So I’ll get several emails a day with people calling me the wrong name (there is a one letter difference between my uncommon name and a much more common name). I never bother calling anyone out on it, because I don’t know them personally and my email signature with my correct name is right there so I figure that’s enough (although it’s funny, because to know my name they have to read it in my email signature, so you would think they’d know what it is lol).
Anyway, if someone were to do it that I knew, I’d just correct them. That’s because leaving off the one letter of my name makes it a complete different name. So just completely wrong. Although I guess people I know have spelled my name wrong in other ways too. That I’d still correct because that’s just the way I am.
If I was in your case, first my SO would probably laugh at it, and then he’d text his sister with something like, “Hey silly, my girlfriend’s name is Sarusarunna.” But he has a close/easy relationship with his sisters where he can do that.
I would probably either correct it on the RSVP card, or have your brother text his sister saying he wanted to give her the correct spelling of your name for seating cards or whatever.
Post # 13
i dont usually say anything because it doesnt bother me too much. but if it really bothers you you should say something 🙂
Post # 14
You’re right. It’s not a big enough deal to embarrass someone over especially if this is the first time. Spell it correctly on your response card and let it go. My kids’ grandparents spell their names wrong sometimes! You can take offense or you can say “what’s different in the world because of this? nothing — ok then, it doesn’t matter.” My name is spelled wrong more often than right. I couldn’t care less.
Post # 15
I agree with pp saying to just spell it correctly on the RSVP card and leave it at that unless he really feels that he needs to say something. I totally get where you’re coming from, not only does my name get spelled wrong since it’s the masculine spelling and not the feminine way but I have a two worded first name and people always leave off the second half.. Drives me nuts but I know it isn’t their fault and am really nice about it when correcting people.