(Closed) Do you / did you have a timeline to be engaged by? Did it get met?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: How long is your timeline from now?
    0-3 Months : (16 votes)
    14 %
    4-6 Monthns : (12 votes)
    10 %
    7-9 Months : (7 votes)
    6 %
    10-12 Months : (11 votes)
    9 %
    1 Year or Longer : (16 votes)
    14 %
    Timeline Met : (44 votes)
    37 %
    Timeline Passed : (12 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
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    410 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    He’s got until 11:59:59 on 12/31/12  ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 4
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    2831 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I was hoping to be engaged by 24; i’m 26 now and just got engaged.

    Post # 5
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    986 posts
    Busy bee

    I didn’t really have a timeline in mind for engagement/marriage, I more so had one for kids. Thankfully, we’re right on track with that assuming that post-marriage, we find a house fairly quickly! ๐Ÿ™‚ 

    Post # 6
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    5956 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I just told Mr. 99 I wasn’t going to play house with anyone I wasn’t engaged to…that took care of that pretty quickly!  I was all done playing the benevolent girlfriend.

    Post # 7
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    62 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I set a deadline of 2 years. We went away for our 2 year anniversary and I got nothing. We finally got engaged around the 3 1/2 year mark and were married 15 months later. 

    Post # 8
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    556 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    In the spring, we decided that we would be engaged by the end of the year. Now that we are moving in two weeks, and want to get engaged while still in the state we are in, the proposal is happening any day now.

    Post # 9
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    2781 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I have a basic personal timeline of 2 years for a relationship. If in that time we are not yet sure we plan to marry, then it would be over. If in that time we had been discussing marriage throughout and I knew it was only a matter of when he proposed, but not if, then I would have waited it out.

    My Fiance didn’t make me wait. He proposed shortly after a year and a half together.  Even before he proposed we were constantly discussing marriage and kids, not in a maybe one day way, but in a when we get married, when we have kids way. So even if he hadn’t proposed by the 2 year mark, I would have known it was coming and been patient.

    We did not create a timeline together saying we want us to be married by this time. He did make it clear he wanted to have kids before he was 40 though, so he never would have made me wait too long. (he’s 35 now). We did however, discuss a timeline between marriage and kids, and agreed to a length of time before we start TTC.

    I don’t believe in ultimatums, but I do believe in a personal timeline of how long you are willing to wait without marriage being an on the table future plan together. I think after 2 years, if you aren’t already sure about the person, then you’re with the wrong person.

    Post # 10
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    6741 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    When I was younger, I was going to be engaged by 24 married at 25.  Now, I’m 28 and freak out when I think about having been married at 24/25.  I feel llike “that’s sooo young” – clearly, I wasn’t ready for it (nor did I have a man!).  Met my man at 25, looking to be engaged this year at 28 probably married around 29/30.  Kids at 31 or so?

    Post # 11
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    1425 posts
    Bumble bee

    There was no set or discussed timeline, but in my head I was thinking the perfect time to get engaged would have been after I was done school.  He proposed 3 months before I got my certificate.  Great minds think a like.

    Post # 12
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    846 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    no timeline here.. we talked about marriage and i told him to just ask if and when he was ready. i didn’t want to pressure him into anything he wasn’t 100% sure about. he asked me after only nine months though so i can’t really say how i would have felt if he didn’t ask after 3+ years.

    Post # 13
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    2137 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    i set a deadline of 2 years, if he hadnt proposed it would be a waste to wait around. i know it sounds band but hey its the way I feel about it. i think 2 years is the perfect amount of time to know if you do or dont want to be with that person for the rest of your life.

    Post # 14
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    24 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 2018

    My timeline was 2 years and it was met.

    We had talked about it but I got very anxious around the 2 year mark because I still didn’t have a ring, so I started picking fights (not recommended), then I dumped him (recommended). Then the ring appeared.

    Post # 15
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    1463 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We had decided to get married but disagreed a bit on the timeline (lots of reasons). I told Mr C. I’d be comfortable getting engaged by X and getting married by Y because we were graduating from college and if we were going to be making big moving/job/school decisions together I wanted to be sure we were comitted and on the same page. He agreed with my feelings, though he waited until practially right before the “deadlines” for both ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 16
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    2137 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    ops forgot to add, timeline was met Wink

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