Post # 1
One of my BFs got engaged about a week ago and at brunch on the weekend two of our friends kept asking her to try her ring on. She was clearly uncomfortable about it but they kept joking and cajoling her and she gave in. I’m not yet engaged and had never given thought to this type of situation.
So, Bees: when you got engaged, did you let friends try the ring on? Why or why not?
Post # 2
Yes, I let several close friends and my sister try on my ring. These are women I’ve let borrow clothes, other jewelry, etc so it wasn’t really much different. If it was a random coworker it would weird me out a little, but not a close friend.
Post # 3
I dont think anyone has ever asked, but I would.
Post # 4
I am so, so very weird about this, and I will probably be the only person that says no. I don’t know if it is superstition or what, but my ring is a very personal, sacred thing to me. I would never think to ask someone to try their ring on… I treat my ring a lot like I treat my mala beads. The one person I do trust more than anything in the world, my maid of honor, tried my ring on her opposite hand once, and even though I love and trust her, it made me really uncomfortable.
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
No one has ever asked, but if they did I would say no. Couldn’t begin to explain why the idea makes me uncomfortable but it does.
Post # 6
I let my students try on my rings😅
Post # 7
interesting that you can’t put an explanation as to why! I think that’s probably the position BF was in – she wanted to say no, but couldn’t articulate a reason and felt embarassed.
Post # 8
I’m not engaged yet but I would feel uncomfortable though. I understand if they wanted to see the ring as it is but trying it on is just gives me weird vibes.
I would feel weird about it and wouldn’t want to but would probably still do. Cos I don’t actually know what to say if they replied “why not?” Lol.
Actually, I wore my friend’s engagement ring by accident, she left it on the table and it was just a sapphire which didn’t look like an engagement ring to me, so I just wore it thinking it was just a random jewelry lol. She didn’t mind it but as soon as I found out it was her e-ring, I took it out straight away. She didn’t feel weird but I definitely did. Lol.
Post # 9
I voted yes, though I actually never have because no one asked. If they did, I don’t see why it would matter at all unless they had huge fingers and it was likely to get stuck. While it’s symbolic of my relationship, I’m not suddenly going to be less in love because someone else wore the ring for 30 seconds. Come to think of it, I’m pretty sure I just handed it over to my sister (without her asking) to admire when I first had it and she probably put it on. I’m so indifferent about it that I don’t even remember for certain
Post # 10
No one ever asked. I don’t know if I’d actually let them though. Seems weird.
Post # 11
Yes, I have no reservations about it. But I do know some are uncomfortable with it so I will ask if my friends care if I try theirs on, stating it’s fine if they don’t want me to.
Post # 12
Yes! But only close family and best friends. Nobody else.
Post # 13
Sure. it’s a ring with special meaning but it’s just an object. I let them try it on, it won’t alter the sentiment…
Post # 14
I did but I was uncomfortable…it’s strange to me, I personally would never ask to try on anyone else’s ring
Post # 15
All my friends and I have tried eachothers rings on! xo